Answer: The only way I can appreciate the friend is in faith above reason. It is because I don’t see the friend before me but actually myself and my attributes. It is written: “One judges by his own flaws.” I see only what I want to see in my ego, so I will always see that one is more stupid than I am and that another is lazy, another is absentminded and another is occupied by his own thoughts and doesn’t know what is going on at all, etc.
When I look at the friends, I see my inner state. We don’t see the world but our inner replica reflected on it. So I have to accept the fact that I am in the world of Ein Sof (Infinity), that everything is corrected, and that everyone is at the end of correction (Gmar Tikkun). All the corrections that are left are those that I have to go through, as it says: “And I shall eat that which is ancient,” and I will see that the world is changing because I am actually changing.
It is the same when it comes to the friends and the group. It isn’t they that have to change but I. It is hard to perceive this but it is the truth. So in order to explain it simply Kabbalists don’t tell us about it as if it happens inside a person but as the world is used to, saying that the world is changing, that it is in a crisis, and that it goes through different states and processes.
Kabbalists explain this artificially although they don’t feel comfortable doing so. A Kabbalist prefers to see things as he sees them internally. He sees the world of Infinity, himself, and the corruption between them. This is called help against him, as his ego comes between him and the world and because of which he sees the world of Infinity in the form of this world or in the form of some temporary spiritual level, which is one of the 125 levels he is on now
But a Kabbalist cannot explain it this way to others since it would mean that he would constantly be talking about himself, about his corruptions, and would be discussing the corruptions in his internal systems. He would speak from the side of the corruption and not from the side of the correction, and so they don’t speak that way. It is better to explain things as is accepted in this world, by speaking about the fact that the world is corrupt and that we have to connect in order to correct ourselves and the world. It is a special style of conveying a message in which one moves from the internality to the externality.
There is no other choice. Otherwise the explanations will not be understood. But in fact when a person thinks about this himself, he has to see himself in the Light of the Infinite that fills all of reality and only because of his corrupted vessels and attributes does he see the level of concealment and the level of revelation, and this is what determines the height of his level.
From the 2nd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 12/10/13, Writings of Rabash