Question: What does choosing the friends mean?
Answer: Choosing the friends means that I have to do whatever I can to get close to them at any given moment. Choosing doesn’t mean that I decide who I like best and that’s it. It is said: “He who chooses a better environment each time,” in order to keep on advancing.
We don’t look at the physical bodies in the spiritual work but only at the internality and so a person changes every day and everyday he is a new person. It turns out that I seem to be choosing a new friend each day, a new society, because it changes from one moment to the next.
A day refers to a change, so I constantly advance by working with the friends as I tighten the connection between us, which means that I choose stronger friends and a better environment each time. Nothing changes physically, and I see the same faces around me, but their internality is constantly renewed, and I grow stronger by all the changes that we both go through.
It may seem that there are positive or negative changes each time. Mostly I feel disrespect since my evil inclination keeps on working and is constantly renewed. So each time I feel another denial which is stronger than before and it seems that the friends are not worthy and that they have many deficiencies. I disrespect them automatically and so I have to spur myself to love them anew each time.
From the 2nd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 12/10/13, Writings of Rabash