Question: In an integral circle sometimes there is the dynamic of a person who does not engage with the problems of others, but wants to constantly pull the attention of the group to himself, to use the circle to resolve his own inner discomfort. By this, he breaks the effect of the circle. How should one work with a person like this?
Answer: There are many different techniques to balance the circle. Therefore, on one hand, we constantly need to remind everyone about the conditions of the work in the circle, and on the other hand, we should understand this person, his nature.
Take this example and discuss it. How does the ego show itself in each one of us? What is my main, external egoistic characteristic? In what ways do I express myself as an egoist? Someone doesn’t let others speak, and that woman sits quietly and doesn’t show any action. The third person doesn’t say a word, but at the end, blurts out such an assessment of what is killing everyone else, and that one sits there red as a lobster, and now it seems that he will tear everyone to pieces or explode, and so forth.
In other words, we discuss how our external ego is revealed and how we should with care and love, bit by bit build it with the help of everyone, and specifically by using it, by our loving the negative attributes of our friend, rise above it. There is no need to say that the negative attributes of the friend are the reflections of my own attributes; that is a very high level. At least, in the meantime, explain it in this way to them.
From Kab TV’s “Through Time” 9/21/13