Question: The Riga-based writer and screenwriter Mikhail Dymov asked schoolchildren aged six to ten to ask their most pressing and important questions to the Creator.

Second-grader Sveta asks the Creator: “Is there anything I can do to help You?”

Answer: I will respond on behalf of the Creator, as though reading His reply.

Yes, I certainly lack your help. In fact I lack help from every person, but from each one individually, including you. The help I need is for you to assist Me in correcting the world.

Question: “Can childhood last a whole lifetime?” Marik, first grade.

Answer: Childhood for a whole lifetime!

That depends, of course, on a person’s character. There are people who remain children at heart, and they are truly wonderful people. They might not always be agreeable in their behavior toward others, but they are always curious. For them, the world is an endless field of discovery, and they constantly strive to reveal, create, or achieve something.

This childlike quality that persists in adults is a remarkable trait. It is truly a gift. It is wonderful when it remains, but it does not depend on the person; it is how they are born.

Question: Radik, fourth grade, asks: “People suffer so much on Earth. Is it even worse in Your hell?”

Answer: In hell, yes, it is even worse.

Hell is the torment of conscience. It is a feeling from which a person cannot escape. Even though they see and understand that everything that happens comes from the Creator, that “There is none else besides Him,” they still cannot shake the feeling or the thought about “What have I really done with my life?”

This guilt cannot be shifted onto the Creator because the person did not even try during their lifetime to rise above the Creator’s governance.

The Creator governs us, but a person must realize that everything they do comes from the Creator, not from themselves. Once he understands this, there will be no reason to worry, feel shame, or suffer.

Question: “How should I live so that everyone in the world is happy?” asks Lisa, second grade.

Answer: There is only one way, find out what happiness is and how it can be achieved. There is a method that can lead people to happiness, and it needs to be applied in life. We will grow up and make it happen.

Question: Igor, fourth grade, asks: “Are there so many hardships and suffering on Earth to make people not afraid of dying?”

Answer: That is partly true. But do not think that way. People might find it easier to die when they see that they are leaving behind a terrible world where nothing good exists, where everyone suffers, and in the end, where everyone dies.

But that is not the best solution. There is another way. Even before we die, we have the opportunity to reveal the upper, eternal, and perfect world. By doing so, we will not actually die, we will simply begin to experience the next stage of our existence, our next life.

Question: Ruslan, second grade, asks: “What if people do not love You, but fear You?”

Answer: For some that is fine; they like it when others fear them. “If they are afraid, they respect me.”

But overall this is wrong. Love requires mutual understanding where you can completely let go of yourself with closed eyes and entrust yourself to the one you love. And in turn, they will think only about you, about your benefit and your well-being. And you will think only about them. When both of you care for each other in this way, that is what love is.

Question: Lyuba from third grade asks a sharp question “Do I really exist?”

Answer: That is a complicated question. I truly exist only when I stand before the Creator, when it is Him and I stand against Him, when I oppose Him. That is when I exist.

Question: Do you think it is easier to explain this to children than to adults?

Answer: Of course it is much easier to explain these things to children than to adults. They instinctively understand it.

Comment: I see you are explaining it to them as if they are adults.

My Response: Of course! You cannot treat children any differently.

Comment: So no baby talk.

My Response: No! That kind of baby talk is the root of all evil in the world.

Question: Katya, fourth grade, asks: “When did love begin on Earth?”

Answer: Love began when people started hating hatred.

Hatred arises naturally, as part of our nature. But when we began to recognize its harm, its limitations, the horrors it brings, and started to despise it, that is when we gradually discovered love.

Question: Sasha from second grade asks: “Are we not just Your toys?”

Answer: “You are My toys,” says the Creator, “completely, absolutely. But you must realize this. And then you will ask Me to make you independent. And I will do it.”

Question: “Why, when you love, everything feels nice, even fried eggs?” asks Stepa from second grade.

Answer: When you love, everything feels nice, even fried eggs, because love covers absolutely all flaws. Absolutely everything! Even what is ugly seems beautiful, what is unpleasant seems pleasant, and what is tasteless seems delicious. Love makes everything better. So the most important thing is not to focus on what is wrong or bad in the world but to develop love.

Question: Vita from second grade asks: “Why did You make the world in such a way that when mom tears her tights, she cries?”

Answer: Yes, a person is small. A little girl cries over her problems, and a big girl, her mom, cries over her problems. Everyone has problems. The Creator made it this way so that people would seek out the perfect state, one of joy and love.

And the only way to reach that state is through tears: tears in class, at school, with friends, over torn tights, through it all.

Question: Misha, fourth grade, asks an intriguing question: “How can one become a memory?”

Answer: First of all, you need to become a good memory, not just any memory. There are people who are remembered with dread, horror, and hatred, people that others wish had never existed, along with their memory.

You have to live in such a way that you leave behind good memories. This only happens if you do good for people and leave a gentle, sweet impression behind.

Question: Alik, fourth grade, asks: “What should I ask You for? After all, You already know everything.”

Answer: It does not matter that I know everything. What is important is that you ask! Because when you ask, you grow closer to Me, and I can give you more than what you ask for. I can also give you My special care, My love, My warmth. If I simply give you what you want without you asking, you will not feel connected to Me and will miss out on the great, kind warm feelings in the world.

Question: Gosha, fourth grade, says: “Bring my parents back to childhood. I would be friends with my mom.”

Answer: If it were possible to be friends with your parents like with your peers, that would be great in one sense. But on the other hand, how would you grow and develop? Who would teach you?

It means we need to learn how to be both children and friends with our parents, to treat our peers as friends, and to learn from everyone. At the same time, we must offer a good example to everyone around us.

Question: What should parents learn in this case?

Answer: Parents should learn to be friends with their children, to be companions. This is very important. Such families exist, and in those families children feel comfortable and protected. They are not pressured or stifled in their independence. They grow up openly.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 10/28/24

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Comment: Scientists say we are close to editing genetics to create “designer babies.” Some scientists say genetically modified babies are highly desirable to protect people from diseases.

My Response: I know that any interference with nature has bad consequences. We try to get into everything possible that seems desirable, necessary, positive, or valuable to us, but in the end the opposite happens because nature does not tolerate such interference.

We must act according to its laws. There is only one way to change yourself for the better—by evoking the proper influence of nature, that is, the influence of the upper light. That is the only way.

Question: If a person suddenly decides he can change himself, if he can change his body, can he maybe change his soul?

Answer: The soul, he cannot, but the earthly qualities, he can.

Comment: A person does not just seek to change DNA; he wants to make the “future person” better than himself.

My Response: This is not the way to do it! If I, say, make my son or grandson particularly talented in music, naturally he will develop in this area, apply himself, and get pleasure from it. He may even bring others pleasure. But will it make him happy?

Happiness, the most critical indicator of our quality of life, does not depend on creative success. I am talking about creative success, but not everyone can be a great musician, artist, etc. We also need masons; we need everyone.

Question: So what do we need?

Answer: We need happiness, that is all. A person should feel happy. He can feel happy once he understands why, for what, and how he exists, the world he lives in, and how he constantly transforms it and improves himself and the world. This brings him true happiness.

Happiness is achieved when you do positive things for others and when others do positive things for you. The exchange of correctly directed influences on each other brings us a sense of happiness.

There is no greater happiness than feeling like a baby in your mother’s arms. What a blessing! We see this feeling is given to us by nature.

This is how we should feel about being in human society, humanity, and in life, not having to worry about anything, being in the hands of a society that gives us such a feeling. There is neither life nor death, and nothing else matters, only a feeling of mutual happiness. I bring pleasure to my “mother,” and my “mother” enjoys me.

Question: An idyll. How can we achieve it in this dirty, terrible world?

Answer: To do so, we must educate and bring people to such a state. Treat each other like a mother toward a baby, and at the same time make them feel how everyone treats them like a mother treats a baby.

It is all in our hands; we just need to change the egoistic nature of man a little.

A person’s desire is not a consequence of genetics, but a consequence of his spiritual development. Nothing will help here, only the science of Kabbalah. It will give a person the opportunity to influence themselves, change themselves, and become, on the one hand like a kindhearted baby in the arms of nature and society, and on the other hand, it will give one the opportunity to organize society so that everyone is treated like by a mother.

Humanity will come to this. We must surely change our attitude toward ourselves, nature, and others—toward everything.

Question: When we intrude genetically, we operate on a future person from the outside. How can you add the idea from the outside that you need to develop internally, to develop your soul?

Answer: We must explain it; we need to explain how to achieve happiness to people. This is our task.

This is a very important work that should be starting to manifest in our time. Humanity has a demand for this because it does not see a way to achieve happiness, which is a universally correct, normal state where people do not think about what will happen to them the next moment; they just live happily, treat each other correctly, and create an atmosphere they feel good in.

This is not easy; it is achieved by working on one’s egoism, moreover, systematically and universally. Why should we not do it? At least, the years of life one imagines he is living would be pleasant.

Later he would begin to see that by taking part in the lives of others in this way, he transforms his life and lifts it into other dimensions. That is, suddenly, his sense of life is not determined by his body, but by his connection with others. And to be connected to others gives him a sense of eternity.

If this does not depend on my body, I lose the whole order of time and our earthly events, my sense of the world, and my earthly life. I exist in a state with no beginning or end, one measured by different parameters with greater connection between us, greater sense of freedom, elevated above the ego, connection with all people, and attainment of a common force called “the Creator.”

Everything is in us; everything is before us. Let us build such a world instead of today’s problematic one.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 1/1/20

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Comment: There is a genre of computer games called God simulators. In them, the player controls a community of game objects and characters in the role of some higher being with supernatural powers.

Many God simulators do not set any specific tasks for the player, giving him the opportunity to freely and unlimitedly develop the society under his wardship.

Currently, 2.3 billion people play them, a third of the world’s population. About 30 million people have been playing them for over 30 years.

What should be the behavior model of a person who enters the game of a supernatural being, entity, subject?

Answer: We must understand that the essence of a higher power lies in absolute goodness, in absolute love. God is the begetter of everything. That is, as parents treat a child, so God should treat his creatures. It does not matter what they do. He created them like this and loves them as they are.

First of all, a person who is implanted in the image of God must love all people no matter what they are, because in the end, they are like that because He created them that way.

Second, it is possible that He created them defective but wants to correct them in order to teach them who they are. Now they are defective, they were created by a supposedly bad God in order to bring them to a corrected state, and then they would determine that God is good after all.

He made them like this so that they would see, in comparison with their past state, how special and perfect the current state to which He is leading them is.

God, the highest power, who led them through all these states from the worst to the best, taught them to appreciate the good because good can only be appreciated from bad.

And when a person thus goes through all these states, he becomes a scientist, wise, absorbing, and comprised of all negative and positive states. That is, then he truly becomes a man, filled with all the states that can only exist in nature. And then he can really relate to everything correctly.

Question: As a result of this game where the main character is God and man plays Him, he understands what a real man is, what God is?

Answer: Man has one goal: to discover for himself what truth is, veracity, and not to make himself feel good like little children who want to turn the game around. He is interested in the truth.

Truth is where good and evil, betrayal and kindness, and loyalty are combined together—absolutely everything together—and complement each other! They complement each other instead of being mutually exclusive.

And there is not a single force, not a single phenomenon in nature that would be superfluous, that would have to be destroyed, erased. On the contrary, there is no good without evil and evil without good.

A person who wants to comprehend perfection comprehends it in the combination of all the forces of nature, all the properties of nature, and then he really consists of all these properties. If he strives for this, then his game is correct.

Question: Can one person play this role?

Answer: Everyone must reach a state when he is completely identical to God. This is the goal of his development, the goal of his existence. Therefore, he is called Adam, from the word “Edomeh,” similar to the Creator.

Question: If you were given a model of a game where one entity is the higher power, what would you add to it?

Answer: If I have to accept it as perfect, how can I add anything to it? I would contribute absolutely nothing to the world—not to myself, nor to it, nor to anyone. I can only use what has been given to me. Because everything has been given precisely so that I could reach the level of the Creator, each of us. Therefore, nothing can be changed in the world. It is only necessary to use it in order to constantly approach the ideal of the Creator.

Question: So the meaning of the game is to correctly combine the incompatible?

Answer: Correctly combine all the elements of nature, society, and your own, in order to achieve this ideal.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 10/22/18

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Comment: Most of us are familiar with situations of inequality when one tramples on the other with his “moral superiority.” Researchers are wondering: what strategies help people avoid, tolerate, fight, and defeat those who treat them like an empty space?

Harvard biologist Edward Wilson shared a charming story…The story tells of two porcupines huddled together to keep warm on a cold night. When they got too close, they pricked each other with their needles, so they decided to warm themselves separately. But then they got too cold. After numerous attempts to get comfortable, they finally found a distance where they were comfortable and warm enough. They have since called this distance decency and good manners (Psychology, Harvard Business Review Russia).

Answer: Indeed, this is how we invent the rules of behavior and good manners that enter our lives. In other words, we kind of “paint over” our egoism, limit ourselves to palliatives, “trim the needles.” But they grow back.

We need to correct the egoistic nature of man so everyone acts for the benefit of others, and everyone feels good. This is a difficult correction, but only in this case will a person live in a kind “world without needles” where everyone is assured of being treated well.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 4/15/18

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Question: In Israel, parents of small children aged three months to three years took to the streets to demand that the Ministry of Education and the government establish oversight over nurseries. We know of numerous cases where caregivers treated infants inadequately and abusively, and even lead to fatal outcomes.

Why does hatred arise toward what seems to be the kindest and most innocent thing in the world, a small child?

Answer: Firstly, these are other people’s children, not their own. Although even with their own such attitudes can occur.

The thing is, love and hate, life and death, are very close to one another, practically side by side. They accompany each other and sometimes literally replace one another.

This comes from human nature because the transition from love to hate is very unclear and fragile. The same powerful desires are at work, but they switch poles, a kind of polarization occurs, and this is the result.

We know that the same happens with parents. What about parents who forget their children in the car? They just erase them from their minds entirely. And what can you do about that?

And when we talk about caregivers for whom this is just a job, perhaps even one they hate, that they are forced to do because they cannot do anything else but still need to earn a living, those children become objects of their hatred.

To the extent that they hate their work and their miserable, underprivileged lives, they transfer all of that onto the children.

Today’s egoism, today’s intolerance is found in both women and men, and the attitude toward the world and toward children is unnatural. We live in a generation where egoism compels us to correct it; otherwise, we will not survive.

Question: You said the transition between love and hate is very fragile. How can a person regulate or recognize this moment of transition so they do not lose control?

Answer: There cannot be love without hate, nor hate without love, just as there cannot be a positive without a negative. They work together. But what to consider positive and what negative depends on the person.

Therefore if I love myself, then I see negatives in everyone else. But if I wish to correct myself and see my own flaws, then I can see positives in others.

And here arises a very serious problem. In our time, desires and traits emerge in us that we are obligated to correct into their polar opposites. If we do not do this, you see what happens.

I do not blame those caregivers in nurseries or daycare, nor people who exhibit various sadistic or abusive tendencies, because they just don’t work on them. The human masses need care, work, and education. Before becoming caregivers, they need to be nurtured, and this is not being done.

Question: Is it possible to become a teacher or caregiver not by vocation, not naturally, but through the education or training you are talking about?

Answer: This is very difficult. Because instead of a natural inclination to be a caregiver, if you do not want to be one, you will need to imagine a higher goal that you want to achieve, and therefore be ready to become a caregiver. This requires very serious work on oneself.

Question: A person is a cluster of hormones, chemistry, and so on. Education accounts for only 10% of who a person becomes. What else is added to a person besides these hormones and chemistry that causes them to shift from a state of goodwill to evil? How does egoism suddenly explode within them?

Answer: The fact is, we have become very close to one another, yet we do not work on ourselves. As a result, we negatively influence each other. Mass media, all of this has a tremendous impact. I constantly see bad images and examples before me, and it costs me nothing to imitate them. I imitate them involuntarily.

So everything we see on screens or smartphones enters us and forces us to act like those so-called “heroes” we see. Essentially, the entire problem lies with the media.

Question: Let us take someone who, on the one hand wants to be a caregiver, a teacher, a mother, or a parent. They treat a child or children well, but suddenly there comes a moment when they feel something rising within them they cannot control. What should they do?

Answer: Yes, they cannot control themselves because, again, their inner impulses are stronger than all the restraining factors. Even those they have heard or read about, like how people are punished for being like this, do not help. They cannot restrain themselves; their restraining mechanism shuts down. That is it. Nothing can be done.

The whole issue is that we must provide people with proper examples of behavior, both with each other and with children.

No fear or punishment can restrain or hold back anything—only a good example can.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 8/7/19

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Question: We live in the hustle and bustle of life, often forgetting our loved ones, family, colleagues, and friends. We forget to say kind words, to acknowledge that they are important and needed, that they are remarkable.

There is a saying: “Words can kill, and words can heal.” Why is it so important for a person to hear compliments?

Answer: Because a person is an egoist. That is why it is so crucial for them to hear good things about themselves. And if bad things are said, it hurts them in a different way, conversely.

Comment: But we know that when a person hears something good, they are immediately ready to meet others halfway and do something for them. And vice versa.

My Response: Of course. For them, it is a reward, so they are ready. It is a great incentive for their egoism.

However, if a person has a goal in life, sees that goal as true and correct, has decided on it, and acts accordingly, then others may say good or bad things about their behavior, goal, actions, or life, and it would not affect them at all. This is because they are confident they are acting correctly.

Compliments in our time are insincere interactions because they are always egoistic.

If I inspire someone, if I push them toward a goal, it should simply be my ongoing work—to help others rise and move forward toward the goal of life, to achieve it. And in doing so, I am not offering a compliment, but am providing a necessary element of progress.

Question: Does the soul require compliments?

Answer: Our egoism requires compliments. That is our entire foundation, that is who we are: egoists!

And so when someone tells me, “Wow! Look at you! You’re amazing!” and so forth, I feel important, gain energy, and can do something. I am ready to repay such a person the same way because they have inspired me. But fundamentally, this is all because we are egoists.

Strictly speaking, relationships should not be built on compliments but on mutual support, where every person supports every other person in their pursuit of life’s goals.

Question: What does proper mutual support look like?

Answer: It is setting an example of “Love your neighbor as yourself.”

People see that you are working on yourself to unite with others, to correct yourself, to help them correct themselves, to help them understand the meaning of life, where to move, how to complete life, with what result, what that result should be, and so on. When you act this way, you naturally provide an example to others, and they strive to act similarly.

Comment: In Kabbalah, there is a rule: speak of the greatness of the friends.

My Response: But that is not a compliment. It is a necessary element of our spiritual work. The difference lies in why I say it. I say it to give someone direction in their development, a goal, and strength.

A compliment, as a rule, is said to flatter someone, to give them a sense of self-importance. But in our study, in Kabbalah, importance is not in us but in our work and the goal—in the Creator, whom we are trying to reveal. So I would not consider these as compliments.

Question: How should one properly speak of the greatness of one’s friends? Can this serve as an example for others?

Answer: As a rule, we do not speak of the greatness of a friend directly to the friend. We speak of their greatness among ourselves to elevate them in our eyes so they may serve as an example for us. Because if we talk about the greatness of a friend directly to them, we essentially lower them by inflating their ego.

Question: Does that turn it into a compliment?

Answer: Yes, and such a compliment will have a negative effect on them. Therefore, I do not see it as beneficial. With a child, we can say: “What a clever boy you are, how smart! Look how well you have done everything, how beautifully!” And they puff up with pride.

But for an adult (I mean people within my circle), such compliments are unnecessary.

Question: What is your advice for people? How should relationships be built so that every moment they feel needed and important to each other?

Answer: By engaging in meaningful work. By moving forward together in a journey toward unity to reveal the upper force, the higher purpose of existence, and the higher nature. This is not a compliment—it is our entire life.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 6/27/19

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Question: Many people want to conquer Everest, one of the highest peaks on Earth. The height of Mount Everest reaches 8,848 meters above sea level. Climbers and scientists have given this high area of the mountain the name “death zone.”

Why does a person strive to conquer these unreachable peaks?

Answer: It is a sport, a game, to prove to yourself that you can do it, like others. There is a desire in man to establish himself above nature.

Question: A person strives to conquer a mountain, reach higher, be better, and prove to himself and others that he can overcome the limit of human strength. What should he do higher, better, overcoming, and not yielding in his inner spiritual ascent?

Answer: In general, a person wants to conquer peaks, to be above nature, to rise above himself, and to realize himself at the most critical point. This is a human trait.

Of course, an animal will not go there. It understands perfectly what is better or worse and always strives for maximum comfort.

For man, on the contrary, the zone of maximum comfort means nothing if there is still an opportunity to assert himself as a person. Because inanimate, vegetative, and animate levels of nature exist in him, but even higher than that is a level of human in him.

Question: What is the human level that haunts him and pushes him into all these dangers?

Answer: He wants to be above nature. There is an additional point in him called human. But it resides inside the animal in him. Therefore, when we develop the human in us, the animal begins to suffer: “Why on earth are you thinking not of me, not of the animal, but of something above me?” Then, we enter a conflict: the human strives upward and the animal dies.

If a person truly aimed to rise above the animal level in him, he would not cross oceans, storm mountain peaks, or descend to the depths of the sea. The meaning of life is not found in these places; it lies in the conquest of one’s inner nature and environment.

Question: What does it mean to rise above the level of nature from the point of view of Kabbalah?

Answer: To rise above the level of nature is to rise above one’s egoism. Because our egoism is in us on three levels: inanimate, vegetative, and animate to rise above it means to rise above our egoism, that is, from a state of hatred of one’s neighbor to love of one’s neighbor.

Question: Why is it easier to conquer the outer peaks or outer depths?

Answer: This is even greater elevation of egoism, the desire to raise it higher! I want to be proud of it: “Look at me! My animal climbed where no animal has ever climbed, but I have!”

What is human about this? Nothing! If a car can do it, what is the point of my going there?

Question: You met with the head of a large Aikido organization. During the conversation, he said Kabbalah speaks about the amazing vertical connection between man and God.

What is this connection that helps a person anticipate what will happen in the future: the outcome of a duel, the outcome of events?

Answer: This is when a person rises above his nature. When I am clearly aware that from all sides, where my “I” exists, I try to go above it. But I do not have to climb up or dive down to do that. To do so, I just need inner tension, my desire to come out of myself.

I ask nature for help to let me do this. In this way, I transcend rather than try to do it physically.

Question: What does it mean to go above the “I”?

Answer: Beyond egoism, from hating others to loving others.

Question: Many welcome this. Why do they not want to implement it?

Answer: It is very, very difficult. It takes not just a method but all the external conditions to implement it correctly. It is not easy.

Just like Mount Everest, many people want to climb, but very few succeed, and they even die within a few meters left to go.

But I feel we are moving toward a state of humanity and nature where we can literally overcome this barrier, the potential transition between egoism and love.

Question: What will bring the needed luck?

Answer: What will help us overcome this spiritual ascent? Revealing the greatness of the goal. It will be revealed to us as grand and special, and then we can rise to it.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 8/22/19

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Question: You say that the Creator never changes. Let’s say we are trying to think about someone so that the difficult situation facing the person will change. And it is really changing in the direction we think about.

If the Creator does not change, then how does reality change? For example, a person went to take tests knowing that he had some kind of illness, but it turned out that everything was fine.

Answer: The fact is that human qualities change in which he sees himself and the world around him as different.

There is nothing outside of us! Everything about us can change instantly. Moreover, changes occur either inside or supposedly outside. A Kli is multifaceted.

We simply have not yet encountered serious spiritual actions in our world, nor have we come close to spirituality to see how much it changes our world.

Now nature will slowly accustom us to this with all kinds of cataclysms, sudden changes in us and outside of us, so we will be convinced that there is nothing absolute in the world, everything is relative and depends only on our inner state, because our inner attitude to ourselves and to others actually paints a picture of the world for us. The whole picture of the world is like in a movie; I can order it with my inner change.

In a matter of seconds you can change absolutely everything, like ordering a movie on television, or logging on to the Internet and choosing a picture. It all depends on you because apart from you there is only a flashlight, and you paint the whole picture only with your qualities. It is all in you.

Question: But if I have a certain path, how can I draw another path for myself?

Answer: The path does not matter! It all depends on your attitude toward the path; it paints you a picture of the world. In fact, when you look at the world, you see your attitude toward it, toward the Creator, toward people. It is an attitude, it is not the world itself.

Everything we study: sounds, colors, all kinds of notes, words, images, parts of the world, times, any temporal, spatial, sensory axes along which we act, and the relationships between ourselves and others, all this is inside us. I can change it, own it arbitrarily, build a picture of the world, rearrange this mosaic as I like: countries, sides, perceptions, sensations. Everything is inside me. I can do all this arbitrarily however I wish. If I own it all, there is no problem.

Question: Is this what you do?

Answer: No, I do not do this, I do not need it. You have to be an important person to do that. But why? I am just talking about this possibility. We all need to put together a good picture of the world when the whole world would be like the light, the absolute. It is possible. But we need to put this mosaic together ourselves.
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From KabTV’s “I Got A Call. Picture of the World” 5/26/10

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Play is the foundation of the development of nature. This is the most serious thing in the world. When we stop playing, we stop developing. We develop only through play.

While playing, a child does not know what he is doing, but in the process, he develops his senses and abilities. And then, when he starts learning, he only fills in the opportunities that he once developed through play. Therefore, proper play is the foundation of a person’s entire being.

Spiritual development, progressing from stage to stage according to the law of negation of negation, ascent from lower to higher, can only be carried out in a play—when you do not know your next stage because you have not yet reached it, but you strive for it, you model it, you try it out.

This element is called “play,” when nothing is known, everything is unpredictable, and on a whim, like a child, you are constantly trying to find out: “But how?” This is what our development is all about.

And when you begin studying what has already been discovered, what has already been chewed up and prepared for you, then this “how” disappears, and you stop developing. You simply stuff your brain cells with some information, and your development ends there. You are getting smart.

And in spiritual work, when we talk about that we must ascend to the next level, to the next dimension, then naturally, our path can only be a play.
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From KabTV’s “I Got A Call. Play to develop” 5/9/10

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Question: What can you say about grievances, reactions to them, and how to help people cope with them?

Grievances are put into the concept of corporate culture, where mechanisms are developed for people to report grievances, relying on the offender’s reaction regardless of the initial cause of the offense. A grievance is a person’s reaction to an unjust insult or action, as it seems to them. However, the reaction to an act and the event or attitude that caused it are not always aligned. Therefore, we wanted to ask you, as a Kabbalist, about this phenomenon and how a person should work with it correctly.

Answer: A person feels they have been hurt or struck. Essentially, their egoism has been affected, and they cannot tolerate it because egoism is the most central part of each of us: the desire to feel superior, stronger, more stable, confident, and so on. Suddenly my “self” is brought down; someone has hurt or tried to diminish it.

Here I feel offended, which can only be compensated by lowering the offender even further below me. That is why denunciations and similar reactions come into play.

Question: When we feel bad, why do we want to make others feel worse?

Answer: This is no longer about being offended but simply that our egoism that needs to maintain itself at a certain level and always feel superior to others, in a more comfortable state. Only then does it feel satisfied and it seems to us that life is flowing like it should.

Question: How can one remove an offense from the heart, not just rationalize it, but rise above and let go? How should one work with it correctly using the power of the offense to rise above it? How can one forgive and truly move on?

Answer: It is difficult. There is no simple answer for all situations.

From the perspective of the wisdom of Kabbalah, we need to understand that the upper governance exists between us. We have no direct contact with one another because there is the upper force between us that creates all our communication.

Therefore, if I feel offended by someone, I must understand that it is not about the person who acted against me or hurt me. No, it is about the upper force deliberately placing me in such a situation. I must address not the person who offended me, but the Creator, the upper force that acts upon me in this way.

If we begin to feel that between each of us and others is the Creator, it will become much easier for us to interact. We will be able to find the right connection between us and with the Creator, and suddenly we will realize that we are in an entirely different world.

We will discover a state where a benevolent force exists between all of us that works solely to elevate us toward itself.

But this elevation occurs precisely through our fall. It shows us how egoistic and weak we are, how we constantly endure minor humiliations like small children, and how we struggle to rise above ourselves.

Just as the sea surrounds small islands, we will begin to feel that only a benevolent, warm sea, the upper force, fills all the space between us.

We need to change, to rise above our egoism. Then we will feel like small islands in an archipelago, surrounded by a warm, kind sea.

Question: You described it so beautifully. But how can it be achieved?

Answer: It is not very difficult. You just need to focus on this state.

I have described a picture that truly exists and functions. If we begin to actively seek and discern the upper force between us, we will discover that this force is inherently good, while we are small, selfish creatures. What can we do? We need to rise above our egoism and align ourselves with this benevolent force that fills everything around us.

Question: What is the key factor in transitioning and shifting to this state?

Answer: It is the collective support of the environment you are in. The most important thing, as explained in the wisdom of Kabbalah, is to create a supportive environment of like-minded individuals where we help each other recognize, accept, and realize this state.

In our interactions, we must consistently act on understanding that a benevolent upper force exists between us. Since we are egoists by nature, the question becomes how can we neutralize our egoism so that this force can fill us as well?

When this happens, we find ourselves in a completely different world. We begin to perceive reality through the quality of bestowal rather than reception, through the quality of love and connection rather than hatred and alienation. We truly start to see a different nature.

Essentially, we reveal another force, the positive force that exists in nature, but is not evident in our world. We must uncover it ourselves through our mutual efforts. Then we will realize that two forces actually exist, positive and negative, and we will live in a correct balance between them.

Question: They say that understanding one another is our social “glue.” But since we are so different, this bonding does not seem to happen. How can we learn to understand one another when everyone has their own perspective of the world?

Answer: The problem is that we do not have common points of understanding. This is the most important thing. Because of this, we do not truly understand one another. Sometimes we agree with each other because it is convenient, but even then, we still do not really hear each other. It is simply that I find it pleasing, so I accept it. But what exactly I am accepting is hard to define; it could be beneficial to me at work, in studies, shopping, family life, with children, and so on. But in general, we do not hear each other.

To truly hear each other means to be on the same wavelength where I feel the other person’s state and fulfill them, and they feel my state and fulfill me. All of this happens through the benevolent upper force between us, which allows for constant, correct communication.

But this requires learning. That is why what I teach is called the wisdom of Kabbalah, the science of receiving, meaning the science of how to receive and accept another as they are without being disturbed or distorted by one’s egoism.

Question: How can we help someone who is at war with the world around them?

Answer: This is a miserable person. How can they escape this state? In general, it is a whole science. We can see that the entire world lives in a state of constant irritation, depression, with inner attacks on one another, malice, and egoistic calculations. What can we do? The only solution is to rise above it. But again, for this, a supportive environment is essential.

It is crucial to create the right environment where a person can naturally transform themselves under its influence. A positive environment is the most important factor. This is what we constantly work on, and we are always striving to align ourselves with a true and correct worldview.

Typically, we do this in a group of ten. Ten people come together, and they are given a task: to relate to each other as one collective whole. To achieve this, everyone must lower themselves before the others. I lower myself before my nine friends. Then I feel that I must help them, which means I must rise above them. After that, I must be equal to them, and so on.

These exercises allow us to develop the internal flexibility necessary to establish the right connection between us. Essentially it is psychological training that leads to absolutely amazing results.

A person suddenly begins to feel that there is nothing inherently their own within them, that their character, state, and mood are given to them as initial conditions, and they must adjust these to fit the surrounding environment. When they perform these exercises of internal flexibility, they see that it is not difficult and even start to wonder, “Who am I, really?”

The most optimal state for me is when I adapt myself to the collective. And in this way, each of us in the group adjusts ourselves to everyone else.

As a result, we achieve a homogeneous, integrated, and correct state where we merge and unite together. We understand each other perfectly and almost need no words. We develop an internal connection where we are all included in one another.

According to the wisdom of Kabbalah, this is the method for elevating humanity to the state of one single, unified, benevolent group, a single entity. When this will be fully realized is unknown. But at the very least, we can accomplish this in small groups.

Question: How can one feel and understand what is truly good or beneficial for another person and what is harmful?

Answer: To do this, you must feel the other person. How can you know what is good or bad for them? The most important thing is to feel them. This requires training, as I have previously mentioned. You need to lower yourself to zero, as if you do not exist, and only then will you begin to hear and feel them.

Suddenly, you will start to feel that you are inside them, feeling all their thoughts, aspirations, dreams, memories, and everything within them. And you will feel it as they do, not as you might imagine it if you were in their place. There are many nuances here.

At the same time, you will begin to show them from within that your attitude toward them is warm and kind, and they will not be able to resist this, they will transform into kindness.

Question: Should one strive to show empathy to absolutely everyone?

Answer: No, our world is not like that. I am talking only about specific cases, such as when you want to establish a very close connection with someone. This can work, but only with someone who is somewhat understanding and deserving, not just with anyone you meet on the street.

This is indeed a gradual training process. You can achieve such a state when, by lowering yourself to zero, you effectively bring them to zero, but in a kind way.

You need to nullify yourself, immerse yourself in them, see the world through their eyes, and empathize with them with whatever is happening within them. You become their companion, a part of them, constantly and inseparably connected to them as if dissolving, merging, and bonding with them internally. Then, you begin to see the world as they do.

What happens next depends on your goal. Do you want to learn more about them? If so, through this approach, you will understand them. And then, what kind of response do you want from them?

Comment: Mutuality, perhaps.

My Response: For that, something a bit different is needed. When you feel them and see the world through their eyes, you must show them that you are close to them, ready to walk alongside them, and help them. In other words, you must become an inseparable part of them.

By doing this, you will “win them over,” and they will no longer be able to be without you. Women often instinctively use this approach, and rightly so. Female nature is naturally attuned in this way. When a woman shows a man that he truly needs her and backs it up, not with words, but through actions, he “buys into” it.

This is what is called “winning love” like any other relationship. You dissolve into the person, start to feel how they see the world, what they want, anticipate their actions, desires, thoughts, and reactions, and help them. They see that you are an inseparable part of them. How could they part from you?

When a person studies Kabbalah, they do not feel personal offense because they view themselves the same way. They are constantly battling their egoism, trying to suppress it, crush it, and push it deeper down until it disappears entirely.

So when others treat them the same way, they do not feel defeated. Instead, they feel how these actions affect their spiritual work. It might even help them or it might hinder them.

I have observed this in my teacher. When he was gravely insulted, he would find pleasure in it, saying: “Ah, how good this is!” It is like being in a steam bath where the sting of the birch broom brings both pain and enjoyment. It is a similar state.

You already perceive your body and ego as your enemy. You even align with the one who offends you, and recognize that ultimately, this benefits you.

However, if this interferes with your mission, with your life’s work, then your reaction is different. You must “grind down” your ideological opponent.

Question: And how does it all end?

Answer: It ends with the need to persuade them. Otherwise, everything will have been in vain. The upper force that exists between you will have done all it could, but you will have responded incorrectly or incompletely.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 4/14/19

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