Revenging My Egoism
Question: Where does the feeling of revenge come from?
Answer: It is a very sharp strong impulse common to all. Revenge can torture a person to satisfy all his needs. A person is even ready to die for revenge. It’s a terrible feeling of egoism, called defeat, a blow to his “I”.
Question: What do you advise us to do in this situation?
Answer: A person is given a wonderful opportunity here to revenge his own egoism, which generates this attribute in him. When the feeling of revenge is ignited in a person he has to think about how he can direct it to the correction of the general system and how not to harm himself and others at the same time. In other words, we have to understand correctly the circumstances under which all the attributes appear in us, both the positive and the negative ones.
Question: Suppose a certain person harms my family and the feeling that I have to take revenge rises in me, of course. Do I have to revenge myself now, my egoism? Why do I have to start working with my egoism when someone harms my family? What has my egoism have to do with it?
Answer: Your family is also your ego, which means that the person who has caused harm to your family has harmed your ego in some way, yourself. You have to be grateful to your egoism for having hurt yourself so that you can see to what extent you are hurt by his belittling attitude toward you. You can now rise above your egoism and think how to behave properly.
Question: What should a person do if it is about a vendetta, when someone in the family is killed?
Answer: You should still work on correcting your deficiencies that have been revealed to you this way by the upper leadership. We actually don’t receive anything from other people but only from the Creator, “there is none else besides Him.” This is the reason we have to think about how we can restore the mutual relations with the Creator who operates on us this way through another person, who in this case, is an angel. We have to see everything as an invitation from the Creator and to respond to it correctly. There are not people in our world; there are puppets on strings who act before us in a play through which we have to see the leading director. If you continue to get back at a person, you enter the play this way and become a puppet on a string too.
Question: Do thoughts about revenge torment only me or the one they are directed at as well?
Answer: It makes no difference. We shouldn’t assess different events in our life this way. On the contrary, we should keep in mind that we are being played with through the general problems in the world. We have to respond to them correctly and instead of getting back at someone, we should look for contact with the upper leadership. It makes no difference who or what it is, whether it is an empty space, or even an insect through which the Creator irritates us. Everything is only an indication that we have to find how to be in contact with the Creator. It has nothing to do with anyone else. We have to ascend above such people. I understand that it isn’t always easy and that we are in special, serious mutual relationships. When taking revenge, I work only with myself, and here I have no rivals but the Creator.
Question: Do I have to take revenge quickly so as not to torture myself or think about it all the time and then I can work out my relations with the Creator?
Answer: On the contrary, your thoughts about it are also a correction. You should see the world correctly, and not the opposite world.
Comment: But it isn’t easy.
Answer: What is most important is to reach the state that “there is none else besides Him,” the one force that manages and operates everyone to bring us to the goal of creation. Therefore, He is the only one I deal with. All the others are those through which he bestows unto me. The goal is to ascend above our ego, above the self that rages inside of us. This is of course impossible without the right environment that supports and directs us.
Question: Can one person overcome such strong emotions that arise with regard to another?
Answer: According to the wisdom of Kabbalah: hate, lust, and envy, despite being terrible emotions, are actually the most blessed emotions, which can lead to a great correction.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 5/1/16
A Kabbalist’s Attributes
Thou Shalt Not Take Vengeance, Nor Bear Any Grudge
There Is No Punishment, There Is Only Correction
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