Question: Today we look at our world, at humanity, and we see that everyone is shouting. Even on television shows. They sit a meter apart from each other and shout nonstop. What should people, humanity, do so that shouting would at least turn into conversation?

Answer: A person sitting opposite me should take my hand and begin to persuade me calmly, in a soft voice, even in a whisper, about what he wants.

Question: And in that case, should he want something for me?

Answer: Yes. He wants to tell me something. His message should be conveyed in exactly this form, in this manner, from the heart so that I can open my heart in response. And everything can flow from one heart into another.

Comment: You are describing an ideal picture of people sitting and wanting to pass warmth to one another.

My Response: And we, the viewers, watch this on television and feel glad that today they invited the right, normal people. We enjoy listening to them. They say very little, yet we understand everything.

Comment: You are talking about an ideal state, not really of our world. As far as I know, you do not particularly watch television. But it is enough just to look.

Answer: I certainly do not watch such programs.

Question: Yes, there are such shows—rings, a fight going on. It is no coincidence that beating someone up is now considered a sport. And here it is the same thing; they are beating each other up verbally. But humanity will not come to anything through this shouting, will it?

Answer: No, of course not.

Comment: Meaning that everyone will prove that they are right and…

My Response: They are not proving anything; they simply do not hear one another.

Comment: Yes, exactly, they do not hear.

My Response: The main thing for them is: when he is speaking, I am speaking. That is all.

Question: I want to understand. I keep asking this practical question all the time: How does one move to conversation? What is required?

Answer: Many more years will pass. Time itself must act. And it will, as it were, explain to both interlocutors, or to a group of people, that this is useless, it is not worth engaging in this. And gradually they will lose the desire to participate in such talk shows.

Then some kind of a turning point will come, and they will stop producing these “circus performances.” That is how I see it. And only afterward will a serious expression of intentions take place.

Question: So, do you think that this fight will exhaust itself?

Answer: This must happen.

Question: Will this come from above?

Answer: Certainly from above. There is no doubt about this at all.

Question: Do you think it will not come from us?

Answer: No, nothing good can come from us.

Question: So it will come from above: “Be silent. Be calm”?

Answer: Yes, let’s sit and be silent. That will be the program.

Question: So they will already become disappointed with us from above? Why would that suddenly happen?

Answer: No one above becomes disappointed. And who are we to be disappointed with?
Therefore, we will simply come to such a form of program that it will be transmitted through feelings. Not words—feelings. After all, we need to do something with ourselves.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 12/24/25

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Question: One of my patients had diabetes and suffered from depression. She was lonely, so she ate whatever happened to be around, never cooked for herself, microwaved ready-made meals, and ate on the go. I asked whether she had a friend, and after receiving a positive answer, I advised them to cook for each other. They followed my advice and both began to recover. Why is it that a person cannot do something for themselves, but does it with pleasure for another?

Answer: In a woman this is expressed especially strongly, because she has a maternal instinct of care, a sense of duty. A person is too lazy to cook just for themselves. It is well-known that if a woman lives alone, she will never cook. But if she has a family, she cannot allow herself to let things slide.

Why do we become healthier when we care for others? Not even because our systems balance each other, but because we enter into balance with nature, with the vast surrounding world in which powerful forces circulate that strive toward equilibrium. We exist between each other like a dipole: plus–minus, minus–plus, which begins to interact with this enormous field, with this enormous force. And since we strive to resemble it, we draw its positive influence onto ourselves, an influence that heals us.

It doesn’t matter on what level we interact with each other. Suppose two people exchange small pleasant things; it doesn’t matter what. The main thing is that an action occurs that places them in correspondence with this vast field, and then both begin to recover. And it doesn’t matter that one sent the other an apple and the other sent back something equally insignificant; that is not the point. The point lies precisely in the correspondence with the surrounding environment, with what you align yourself: either with corrupt humanity, from which you receive only negative influences, or with the positive influence of the great force of nature.
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From KabTV’s “Medicine of the Future,” 4/7/13

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Question: Why is cowardice so despised?

Answer: It is despised, but you have to understand that it is a human feeling, and a very strong one. By the way, it protects us from many problems that we could cause for ourselves and for others.

Question: So do you not despise a person who admits that he is a coward?

Answer: No, I do not despise him. One simply needs to know how to balance this force and protect oneself in a balanced way to the extent that is necessary.

Question: Is there courage without cowardice? Does such a thing exist at all?

Answer: No, only if it is a pathological condition.

Question: So do you call it a disease when a person is completely reckless?

Answer: Of course. Look at animals, and how they behave. They do not recklessly attack someone. They check, they circle around, and so on. And only afterward, if they decide to attack, they rush forward.

Comment: Yes, that is true. But with rabid dogs this mechanism seems to be switched off.

My Response: Yes.

Comment: So if a person is purely reckless, “brave,” as they say, it is actually a disease.

My Response: That is not courage.

Question: An important question arises: how should we raise children? They tell a child, “Do not be a coward; be brave.”

Answer: You should weigh everything.

Question: Who are you saying this to right now?

Answer: To the child. Weigh all the pros and cons. And only if you are convinced that there is no other choice, then attack.

Comment: You are now addressing the child as an adult, as someone possessing wisdom.

Answer: What can you do? It is the same with adults as well.

Question: But should such an attitude be applied to a child? That you should weigh all the pros and cons, and only after that…?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Is this what is called education?

Answer: Of course.

Question: Can a child do this?

Answer: He can because precisely this caution, this cowardice, can help him.

Question: What age are you talking about when you speak of this upbringing of a child?

Answer: At a young age, from three years old.

Question: From three years old you can say, “Weigh the options”? Sit in front of a child and say in an adult way, “Weigh the options”? Can one already relate to a child as to an adult at this age?

Answer: Yes.

Question: If a parent relates to a child in this way, what does it say about the parent?

Answer: That the parent is teaching the child a balanced attitude toward the world.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 12/5/25

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Question: It would seem that the greater the number of people a person comes into contact with, the higher the risk of catching something and falling ill. Yet studies show that a person living in isolation from others has a much higher chance of dying from disease. Why does this contradiction arise?

Answer: There were periods in human history when terrible epidemics raged in Europe. Because people lived densely in cities, these epidemics led to real catastrophes and claimed millions of lives. If a person lived in a remote village, they had a better chance of escaping an epidemic.

But today humanity has already passed through this era of major epidemics. Recent studies show that in our time, a sense of connection and happiness has such power that it can overcome all problems and illnesses. After all, we live in a different era.

I read about a study conducted at some university involving three teenagers suffering from extremely severe forms of cancer. They were asked what they would like in their lives, and they were promised that any wish would be fulfilled. One boy wanted to fly in an airplane in the pilot’s cockpit, and one girl wanted to be a queen. All these wishes were fulfilled.

For the girl, a royal reception was organized at the university. Students dressed in historical costumes paid her royal honors. After this, it was discovered that the patients’ conditions improved by 80%.

Of course, it is impossible to treat all diseases in this way alone. There are diseases of different levels—inanimate, vegetative, animal, and human depending on which systems of the body are affected. But cancer in particular is very susceptible to such influence, and it retreats in the face of a feeling of happiness. Happiness heals even in the most hopeless conditions.

In such cases doctors advise patients to do what they enjoy: travel, drink wine, enjoy life. And the most healing thing is the support of one’s surroundings—love, help, and protection. The problem is that people often act in exactly the opposite way, and begin to pity the sick person and cry together with them. By doing so, they immediately bury them.

The further we develop and attain connection with the force that sustains all our life, the entire universe, and all levels of our existence, the better we will learn to heal all problems through the feeling of happiness. And we will understand that happiness is attained only within connection.

That is, first and foremost we need unity. By uniting we reveal the connection between us, within which we feel the force that unites us and gives us a feeling of happiness. And through this feeling of happiness we heal all problems.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 242 – Happiness And Social Ties,” 10/17/13

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Our Children Are Constrained by the Clothing of the Old World

Why is the young generation so problematic?

It is because we are meant to rise to the next level of human development.

And truthfully, even if all the parents, the government, the UN, and UNESCO engage in an educational program, nothing will come of it. I am telling you this as a Kabbalist.

We must understand that the next generation is obligated to be on a different level of development. And this does not mean being more educated, knowledgeable, or successful. It means developing new instruments of perception.

The kind of communication that exists today between people is destroying us. Children connect with one another through computers; they have no need to know anything, they freely draw any information from there. Humanity is obligated to rise above all this and reveal a new world.

And as always, when transitioning from one degree to another, every generation becomes disappointed in everything it has achieved, in what can no longer satisfy it, and wishes to rise above it. And then we trample everything we have and move on to the next level.

So now, too, we must rise to a very important and special degree, to the revelation of a new world. Therefore, first of all we are forced to become disappointed in everything we have in this world. What is most precious to us—our children, grandchildren, the next generation—we see how empty they are, and we have nothing to give them.

We have prepared death for them. Everything we built for the future generation—10, 20, 30 years ago—has turned the world into a place unfit for living. And that is why our children are as they are.

This decline will continue further and further until humanity understands that there is no choice but to rise to another level of perceiving reality and another level of existence. And then they will destroy the entire old world; they will no longer be able to bear it or live in it.

They will throw away all the computers, screens, and mobile phones when they feel that none of this can fill them. For now it still seems to them that it fills them, but gradually they begin to grow tired of these games that are imposed on them. This pain, suffering, and disappointment, the hopelessness of the present state must accumulate to the limit, and then this generation will break all former values and will desire to reveal a new world.

And the revelation of the new world is exactly what the wisdom of Kabbalah speaks about. I very much hope that this will happen soon, and that I will still witness it in my lifetime. I appeal to all parents: we must think about this, and prepare this world, this foundation, from which it will be easier for the young generation to rise to the next degree!
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From Kab  Radio Station 103FM, 1/8/16

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One Swallow Does Not Make a Summer

Question: My daughter is still very young, but I am already terribly worried about what will happen to her when she reaches adolescence. How would you advise me to raise her?

Answer: I cannot advise on a particular case because everyone depends on everyone else. It is impossible to separate one from the others. A person is a product of society and the environment, even when that environment is artificial. The problem is that we lack a program for bringing up the new generation.

Question: This is a painful question for anyone who has children. What can we do?

Answer: I do not think anyone really cares about the kids. Parents shun responsibility and don’t want to hear about the problems of young people. They won’t want to listen to what I am saying now either because it is unpleasant. It is easier not to think about anything, as they say: “The suffering of many is half the consolation.”

Everyone thinks, “My children are no worse than others. Should I raise them differently, they will not be able to live in tomorrow’s cruel world. Better that they are like everyone else.” Indeed, one family cannot change anything; as the saying goes, “One swallow does not a summer make.” We are talking about the entire country.

We need to decide globally on what to do with the next generation. There needs to be a global consensus, a common discussion of what to do. The children are still in our hands despite everything on the Internet that we have given them. This is our problem, and we must find a solution because they are under our care.

This problem should be addressed not only at the level of a single country, but at the levels of UNESCO and the UN. Let them finally stop doing all the nonsense and realize that we are losing the younger generation. Where is education? Where is culture? Nothing is left of them. These huge organizations are not doing what they should be doing at all.

A general, global education program is needed. After all, we cannot shut down the Internet or the country, so we need an international approach. This issue should receive the highest priority because it concerns the younger generation.

In 10, 15, or 20 years, they will take our place and will be in charge of life instead of us. If we want to know what will happen then, take a look at teenagers, at how we prepare them. Unfortunately, nothing good is in sight yet.
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From KabTV’s on Radio Station 103FM, 1/8/16

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Interaction with the Computer Screen

We need to decide how we want to see the next generation,and we should make a list of principles and behaviors, and accordingly create a program to bring them to this state. It is very important to define the right principles because we may be wrong.

I remember discussing the problem of early sexual relations with psychologists many years ago, and they said it was not a big deal if teenagers started having sex at the age of 13. This seemed controversial to me, but no one wanted to listen to me. As a result, this age has dropped to nine today.

The question remains: Is that a bad thing? In any case, this issue should be brought into a public forum.

We must decide whether this is acceptable or not, and within what framework, so that it does not ruin young people’s lives or damage their future, so they feel that an intimate relationship is more than just sex, and family is more than burdensome responsibilities to each other. If young people perceive family only as a burden, they will not want to get married at all.

We need to understand the peculiarity of the generation that we are facing because it all must change its nature. We are experiencing radical changes in technology and in our relationships, and we have moved from human-to-human connection to human-to-computer-screen connections. Through these screens we are influenced from all over the world, not just from our village, city, or small country.

Comment: Psychologists say that the younger generation lacks empathy. It is precisely because connections have become less “humanized” and more computerized that children have lost the ability to empathize. He may be a wonderful child, but he lacks empathy for those close to him.

My Response: This is a consequence of several phenomena that are related to each other and influence one another. Firstly, there is a change in the climate and in how our planet affects humans. After all, man is an integral part of the whole of nature.

Secondly, our ego is constantly growing, and in the last generation it has grown in a very particular way. We have stopped communicating directly with each other and have switched to communicating through technological means, to a completely different type of communication between people.

I am not connecting with people anymore, but with machines. Even when I am listening to the news, reading something, or talking to someone, I am talking to the car. There are computer systems between us that determine how we feel and understand each other. What I see or do not see, what I hear, and how I react depend on these systems.

Machines determine my connection to the world. That is, we exist in a completely artificial system. We must finally determine what we have come to, and whether we still have a chance to change something, or just raise our hands.
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From KabTV’s on Radio Station 103FM, 1/8/16

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Are Our Children Less Humane?

Question: Last week, several articles and TV shows about teenagers were released that caused a storm of reactions. One show described teenagers throwing orgies in villas with special rooms for sex.

Another article said that teenagers are into pornography starting at age nine. And then there was an article by a renowned anthropologist who claimed that our children are less human than us, but we do not notice. Is there really something special about the modern generation?

Answer: The same thing was written two thousand years ago: that youth is no longer the same, and that children used to obey their parents but today they do not.

Question: It is a well-known fact that old people always scold the youth. But we live in an era of technological revolution, and we are developing at an unprecedented rate. Really, does the last generation differ from all others?

Answer: I believe there is no such thing as a “bad generation” or a “good generation.” Everything depends on upbringing. If today we suddenly discover that something is wrong with our children, then we must ask ourselves: “Where were we before? How did we allow them to reach this state?”

Why did we not pay attention while the children were growing up? Because we ourselves were busy with all sorts of trivial pursuits and desires, and we were trying to make our own lives as pleasant as possible. We handed the children over to the school, and we let the school raise them.

But the school never thought about upbringing either. The school curriculum is designed to stuff a child with knowledge. A school is not a place where character is shaped; it simply provides certain information about the world in order to prepare students for university.

There was no true education, only the transfer of information. So we should not be surprised that the children turned out this way. And even now, when we see the results, we do not want to change anything. We are hardly parents at all. Even animals raise their young better than we do.

Comment: One article says that parents communicate with their children by text message. The parent is never at home, and only sends the child messages like: “Did you eat? Did you do your homework?” But in reality, the parent does not see the child, does not talk to them, and does not take part in raising them.

My Response: That is true. The problem is that in the past people lived in private houses with yards, and children played near the home. They were not exposed to the entire world. They played with cats and dogs, kicked a ball around, and rode their bicycles. Boys played soccer, girls played with dolls. Everything happened out in the open, and parents could see what their children were doing. It was a kind of pastoral scene.

Today all of that is gone. Children do not go outside; each one is glued to a computer screen.

Question: A child spends more than nine hours a day looking at a computer or phone screen. That is a fact. What solution can there be?

Answer: This is the result of our negligence and our disregard for proper upbringing. Nothing appears by itself; every phenomenon has a cause. And the cause here is very clear: human behavior. It is the human being who spoils nature and the environment, and it is the human being who creates a damaged human society.

No one else is to blame. We are the only creatures in nature who have been given the freedom to shape the world however we choose. And if we decide that we do not care about our children, or about the kind of people they will grow up to be, then the result is inevitable.

Human nature is selfish and harmful from birth, and if a person is not guided and educated, it is obvious where they will end up. The same would have happened to our generation if we had grown up under the conditions that children face today.
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From KabTV’s on radio station 103FM, 1/8/16

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Question: In psychology, a person’s character is conventionally divided into spheres, one of which is motivational. Let us say I set a goal that seems right and good to me, like learning to drive a car. But I don’t have any motivation, no inner pleasure from it. However, in the process of exerting efforts, this goal flips and becomes an inner motivation. I start feeling pleasure, and it becomes a part of me.

Is the system of integral education based on this, too? At some point, everything turns around, and the goal becomes one’s inner world?

Answer: The fact is that you are giving an example of goals that initially do not seem important or necessary to a person.

We begin by explaining that the goal is obligatory. It may be undesirable, but it is necessary. Nothing can be done about it; it must be implemented in the same way that I get up every day for work, raise children, etc. My whole life consists of things I have to do because I owe someone something all the time.

And here we have the same thing; I have an obligatory goal imposed on me by nature. For the first time in our development, we reach a point where we can see a goal in advance. This has never happened before.

We had revolutions, wars, all kinds of upheavals—technological, scientific, social, undergoing various formations—whatever we have done throughout history, but we have never known what goal nature sets for us. We shouted at the barricades: “Move forward!” “Freedom, equality, brotherhood!” But in general, we did not imagine what would follow. No one could have predicted that it would be one way and not another.

Humanity cannot know anything in advance; it is simply driven forward by the compelling forces of nature, “motivation” (translated from Greek, “motive, stimuli” is a sharp stick used to drive animals).

That is how we developed, without having a specific image of the future before us. The bright future we imagined was once a slave-owning system, a feudal system, a capitalist system, and a socialist system. And all these images of the future turned out to be illusory.

Now, for the first time, we clearly see the picture that nature shows us—in all our crises. We can study, understand, classify, and differentiate these crises. We see how crises manifest themselves in education and upbringing, in the family, in illnesses and depressions, in finance and economics, in science and culture—everywhere. We can clearly outline them.

But we do not want to do this, it is unpleasant for humanity. We turn a blind eye because we do not see a way out. But every day the future nature imposes on us looms clearer and clearer—a global, integral combination of all mankind as one single whole. In this, we achieve similarity to nature’ the general law of nature leads us to it, the law of similarity to nature. You can call it entropy, energy, no matter what.

Therefore, in integral education, from the very first day we begin to gradually clarify this, show it to a person, based on all sorts of scientific findings. We do not need to invite scientists to meetings since we have recordings of their presentations, videos, etc., all of which have already been prepared and are in effect.

People are built in such a way that no one needs or wants to move forward; it is undesirable. We are lazy (this is our nature) and do not want anything except to do only what pleases us. One likes to create and build, the other likes to bask in the sun. But uniting together into a single whole?

This is unpleasant even for the 10% of altruists who are born that way by nature, because here we are talking about a completely different combination of people with each other, together with our egoism, in  interaction with it.

Therefore, we are doing something completely undesirable, but we start doing it based on necessity. We discuss what will happen if we don’t do this, what consequences our clashing with nature will lead to, what cataclysms it will cause in the environment. In the inanimate nature it will cause earthquakes, volcanoes, tsunamis, hurricanes, general climate change, solar flares, etc. In the vegetative world, we see what is happening to the surface of the earth. In the animal kingdom, entire species become extinct. And in man…

We are now in a state where nature threatens us with absolute starvation. Plants, animals, fish, birds—all of this is catastrophically disappearing. Through our imbalance with nature, we ourselves make our Earth, its surface, unsuitable for the existence of all other species, because we are like that, and because only we can bring it all into harmony. It all depends on us.

Gradually, such a revelation of the integral picture leads man to realize the need to change himself and society; afterward, you can already work with such a person.
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From KabTV’s “Integral Education. Conversation No. 13,” 12/18/11

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Question: Why is it easier to endure personal misfortunes when you have friends?

Answer: When I am connected with friends, my personal problem is shared among us. If there is truly a strong bond between us and they support me by sharing my sorrow, then it is distributed among all of us.

This is precisely the meaning of visiting the sick. We tend to think that people visit the sick just to check on them, to talk with them, to bring them apples and oranges, but there is a much deeper meaning. Such a visit can actually ease the illness because we share the suffering of the friend and give him our strength.

We are all connected in one system regardless of the fact that each of us exists in a separate body. If we are connected, then all our systems connect: intellectual, emotional, and many others that we do not yet know about.

As a result, we create a shared system of connections between people, and in truth it is much greater than we imagine. Illness is a kind of malfunction in my personal system that makes me feel ill. But when my friends who are connected with me come to visit with the intention of deepening the connection, they enter my damaged system and take part in it.

If two friends come to visit me, then my malfunction is divided among the three of us. It does not yet divide evenly, but it should if we are strongly, properly, and correctly connected. We will clearly feel how we take on the other’s pain, and give the sick person our own joy and happiness in return.

Question: So if someone tells me about their problem, does it make it easier?

Answer: If there is no connection between you, this has practically no effect. Yet we know that hearing good or bad news can influence a person strongly, either lift their mood or depress them.

But if this is my friend, then we are connected as if we exist within one body. Therefore when he comes to visit me during an illness, the defect in my system is transmitted to him, and it becomes easier for me.

It is precisely because we are separated by bodies, but able to connect on a sensory level, that a friend can help heal my illness, as if taking part of it into himself. He takes a portion of the imbalance from my system and equalizes it within his own.

He eases my suffering simply by performing a good and correct action, and takes this unbalanced part onto himself with love. And besides that, his healthy system can absorb this fragment of another’s illness precisely because it is not inherently his. He takes part of the illness, isolates it within himself, and heals it within his own subsystem.

Question: Does this happen unconsciously?

Answer: Usually it happens unconsciously, but there are people on a higher level who can see how it occurs.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 242 – Happiness And Social Ties,” 10/17/13

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