Question: Don’t try to buy off your child with new sneakers, tablets, or toys. Then how do you “buy” a child?

Answer: By showing him that you are his friend, that you are supposedly on his level. And just imagine how much you have to remake yourself for that, how much you need to change.

Question: Yes, it is me who has to change. And what do you mean by the word “friend”?

Answer: You understand him, you are ready to help him, support him. The main thing is to understand him.

Question: Don’t overdo it with developmental courses, clubs, extracurricular activities. Let the child live through their childhood organically.

What is an organically lived childhood?

Answer: In general, yes. A child should do what he wants.

Question: To that extent?

Answer: In the end, he gets his desires and opinions from his friends anyway. So it is not really his own. But still, encourage him.

Comment: But you said you were surrounded by composers, by music. And little by little…

My Response: It did not really give me anything special.

Question: But it gave you an ear for music. You definitely have an ear. Do you still think a child should be given freedom of choice?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Keep your word. Say it once, do it the second time. Would it be better not to promise the child anything at all so as not to deceive them?

Answer: No, but if you want to demonstrate upbringing, then you must both promise and follow through.

Question: Let him make mistakes. Finnish researchers say: “What a wonderful mistake!” That is, I could even say for a mistake: “Well done. You made a mistake.” Can such an approach be used?

Answer: Not “well done.” But find the mistake, correct it. Here you have a mistake. And it is not an accusation, you are not blaming him.

Question: “Do not be afraid to overlove your child”—people say that. What does it mean to “overlove”?

Answer: Not to show excessive love, especially where it might get in the way.

Question: Can love get in the way?

Answer: Of course. Everything must be measured and in balance.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 8/1/25

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