Question: If a person with a strong altruistic desire stands outside the group for several years, observes it, and sees hidden egoism that even those in the group of ten are not aware of, what should he do? Should he join the group even if he feels a strong aversion to it?

Answer: Why doesn’t he join the group?

Comment: Because he sees how egotistical they are.

My Response: He sees in them a reflection of himself. As it is said, “A person sees others according to the extent of his own flaws.” However, the friends in the group are working to rise above egoism.

Every time they reach a certain spiritual level, their egoism will intensify even more, and they will rise above it to an even higher level to discover the Creator at the next stage. Only in this way are both egoism and the opposing qualities of connection between souls revealed.

The fact that this person refuses to join the group is merely an excuse rooted in his great egoism. I understand it is difficult to humble oneself, but there is no other way. He must simply ask his friends for help, and for that he needs to nullify his egoism.

In any case, they need to start somewhere, maybe with shared meals, with dissemination, or through joining the group for collective work or study, though not yet for connection between friends. He may not be ready for that, but he will begin gradually.

During lessons, I usually encourage people to speak with each other and discuss topics, and in this way they can already connect with others.

He has to start, otherwise nothing will work. Everyone faces this problem. He is not the first, not the last, and not the biggest egoist; there are even greater ones. So he needs to lower his head and help push the group forward.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/28/19, “Questions and Answers”

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