Answer: First of all, he has to seriously engage in Kabbalah and at the same time be sure to suit you according to certain earthly parameters. This way you agree with him on how you see yourself and your family in the future, and his environment would accept you, and your family along with your friends accepting him.
There must still be a certain agreement in the surroundings for both parties.
As soon as you don’t like something, you immediately stop seeing it. You want to see only good and kindness in each other. If you tune in to the mutual perception of each other in this way, then you will succeed. I wish you that.
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 3/8/20