Answer: We are all very different and yet the same. We are different in our egoism because everyone wants a little for himself, the way he wants it, in the form that is easier for him.
However, if we are talking about the property of bestowal and love, then everything is much simpler because I have to absorb the desires, properties, and aspirations of the other and try to fill them for his sake, as opposed to for my own benefit.
Then, I gather all my strength and abilities and focus on the other, like a mother who wishes to give all of herself to her baby.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 6/10/18