Question from Facebook: I cannot forgive betrayal. In my mind I understand that a person was put into a difficult situation, but we grew up together, went through thick and thin, and he betrayed me. My stomach turned inside out. What can I do about it?
Answer: It says not to judge until you are in a person’s particular state. You have to move into him, transfer into him with all his internal qualities, into the state he was in. Then you will see whether or not he could have acted differently.
You would see that if you were in an identical situation, being exactly like him, you would have acted the same way. And what would have been the difference between the two of you if you assumed all of it, his qualities and his circumstance? Clearly there would be no difference. Therefore we cannot reproach or despise anyone for anything. I would even say, or love.
Question: Then, it is not clear what “betrayal” means? Is there such a concept?
Answer: No. It only seems to us that a person is betraying—in my egoism I expected a different behavior from him.
Question: Then everything depends only on whether I can truly assume the situation he was faced with?
Answer: Of course. We are biological elements, and everything inside us dictates our actions.
Question: So, is a person that weak?
Answer: A person is not weak, he simply does not exist. He does not exist! He is nobody. He has no ability to control himself. It is only an illusion that constantly “spins” us and seemingly grants us freewill.
Question: Let’s say there is a person who is close to you. How do you relate to him? Can you forgive him for anything?
Answer: I take it as it is. Regarding anyone, close or distant. I am not impressed, annoyed, nor surprised by any relationships people have. I do not fixate on anyone, do not expect anything from anyone other than the Creator. Then I can orient myself somehow toward a certain communication from Him, toward bestowal.
Question: From a person?
Answer: From the Creator through a person. There is no other way. That is, discussing a person doing anything by himself or acting a certain way is wrong, it is incorrect, and we should not attribute or impose some conscious form of behavior on a person. It is not him!
Question: Do you work with the Creator through a person all the time?
Answer: Is there any other way? Of course. The way the Creator controls him, the way He leads him is the way I perceive this person. And such is the relationship of the Creator toward me.
From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman,” 6/5/18