The Torah, “Leviticus” 21:13 – 21:14: He shall marry a woman in her virgin state. A widow, a divorcee, a woman who is desecrated or a prostitute he shall not marry [any] of these. Only a virgin of his people may he take as a wife.
The male and the female parts of the desire on every level should be clearly connected in order to consolidate their connection and to be properly incorporated into one spiritual vessel.
The female part is a desire to receive and the male part is a desire to bestow. Therefore on the level of the Cohen (priest), which is the level of upper purity, it is essential for the female part to be subordinate only to him, which means that it is totally purified of its inner and external ego. This means that she is a virgin and ready to be his wife.
“He shall marry a woman in her virgin state,” means that he should use the desire on his level only.
From KabTV’s “Secrets of the Eternal Book” 4/28/14