Answer: There is no logical answer here because the Upper Light performs all the changes in you. Just as now you don’t love the friend, you will begin to love him under the influence of the Upper Light.
We have to ask for that. You have many questions for which there is only one answer: the Upper Light and its effect. This is the whole method: “I have created the evil inclination; I have created the Torah as a spice,” in order to correct the evil inclination.
The Torah is called Light, which fills all of creation each time you can produce the amount of Light that you think is essential for the revealed correction of your ego. There is nothing but that. There is no other remedy but the Upper Light.
When I speak about the effect of the Upper Light, I mean that as a result of our efforts, our intensive search, and the different events we go through, we suddenly begin to feel mutually, we begin to feel that the Light is near. You receive feelings that you never had before and thus you feel that it is the result of the influence of the Upper Light.
From the Convention In Sochi 8/25/14, Lesson 2