Question: What does it mean to work on myself in order to love the friends?
Answer: You need to imagine that the friend is an important person, nice and special. Otherwise, why should you love him? First, you must find a reason. What can be a reason to love the other if you hate him? To be honest, it isn’t even indifference, but actual hate.
You can check the following: Imagine that your friend has won a million dollars in the lottery. The very next day, you feel differently about him. You will envy him and hate him even more. Isn’t that so? What does it mean that you hate him? It means that you prefer that he didn’t win, and that is already enough. It is very simple to check this since you would think differently about your son.
So, can we work in order to love the friend if you hate everyone in the world except yourself? Now, you wake up to a sublime goal called “the Creator,” and you want to attain it. It makes no difference that you don’t know who the Creator is. You yearn for higher knowledge and power in order to climb up to the summit that is more sublime than this entire life. It is just an egoistic desire.
However, in order to rise to the summit, you must fulfill a condition: to love the one you hate. The Creator gradually explains to you that you cannot love Him because if he is revealed a little, you will hate Him since your nature is opposite to His. This contrast will evoke repulsion and hate in you.
So, in order to avoid such bad relations with the Creator, you have to learn to improve yourself in a different state for the time being. You are given this world: the still, the vegetative, the animate nature, and people, so try to get along with them.
The Creator tells you that He will help you the more you try to love the other above the hate you feel. Now, you disrespect everyone: “Let them burn to ashes,” but the Creator has made you feel that on purpose. The moment you want to ascend above your hate, He will help you so that you will manage to do so. Just try and He will help you. Thus, together, you will switch your previous nature to another nature. The second nature will not annul the first, but you will make yourself an attire, a form just like the Creator, and will become like Him.
You will be able to get to know the Creator. Then, you will be able to embrace, to connect, and to merge into one body. This is why He has created the environment that you hate, and the moment you try to love it, He will make your efforts successful. If you manage to reach the slightest achievement, not even love but at least cause less damage to others, meaning you neutralize your ego, He will be revealed. It’s because then you will not harm Him either, and you will be able to get closer and to connect.
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 5/22/13, Writings of Rabash