As a rule, integral interaction among people happens in a group of ten, on condition that they internally try to solve their problems together. Their goal is to reach balance, and no matter how different they are and how differently they regard the task they face, they have to support each other and come to a common resolution without any conflicts.
Eventually, their decision might be completely foreign to each one of them, but they still will consider it correct. Everybody will accept it since during the decision-making period, many group members dramatically change their original points of view.
There are two defining factors here: First, one changes his point of view under the influence of others by trying to completely control oneself. One simply flows with the stream and gets under the influence of others’ beliefs. All of a sudden, one finds out that one thinks the same way as others although he had a contrary opinion previously.
It can also be done in an opposite way: One sees that others think differently, but one cannot give up one’s personal opinion. Still, one follows the majority. So, he “ties” his point of view to the general approach and goes along with them. He doesn’t give up his opinion, but acknowledges that it’s better to act together with others than unwisely insist on his personal point of view because only together can they come to a new decision. So, one gives up his personal approach for the sake of the general idea.
At the same time, one still continues to experience internal conflict, but it becomes much more balanced. One realizes that he keeps thinking his own way, and in order to maintain connections with others, he becomes ready to rise to their level and think as they do.
In other words, there are two levels in us: “I” and “we.” In this case, if “I” accepts others’ attitude without internal conflict and yet preserves “I’s” own opinion, it remains internally calm. It doesn’t cause inner imbalance in “I.” On the contrary, “I” feels that it managed to rise above itself and this idea makes “I” very comfortable.
From KabTV’s “Medicine of the Future,” 4/7/13