If I discover love towards myself, then I experience hate towards the other. I am looking for an opportunity to please myself everywhere, no matter at whose expense. I take others into account only when necessary. Thus, we initially love ourselves and hate others.
Then, I start to work in the group, study, become involved in dissemination, and thereby attract the reforming Light. Only It changes and improves me. Time after time, I change until suddenly I begin to feel respect for the property of bestowal.
Then, I have to relate this property to the group of friends because it is realized among them. This is already the next stage: Here I need to work against my egoism. Now, it is not enough just to be inspired by the upper Light. Yes, I would like to bestow, and this is wonderful, this adds fuel and elevates, but if you really want this, try to show this in the group, in your relationships with friends.
“Yes, I am ready! I already have a good attitude to them!”
“Really? Let’s see. First of all, how often do you forget about them?”
Indeed, in everyday life, if I love someone, I think about him or her all the time. A mother does not forget about her baby: He is constantly in her thoughts in feelings. Here is a check for you: How many times a day do you care about the group of friends and their unity? How often do you want to feel in connection with them in order to reveal the reforming Light and the desire to love?
Remember, you need to put all the pieces together: the desire for love and the group.
From the 4th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 2/9/12, “Introduction to the Study of the Ten Sefirot”