Answer: First of all, you need to completely disconnect from your egoistic desire and agree to not receive in it any coordinates on the path or parameters to measure your progress. The coordinate includes your position in terms of height, width, and depth, but also conditions like warmth, pressure, illumination, and so on. That is my egoistic coordinate, so the first step is to stop sensing these things because all these measurements pertain to my desire to enjoy.
I, on the other hand, wish to sense this coordinate with respect to the desire to bestow, rather than with respect to external conditions that I presently sense egoistically. I want to learn to bestow while existing under these conditions.
Furthermore, I’m wary that a spiritual revelation may fulfill my desires to receive pleasure and force me to enjoy it for my own sake. Therefore, I don’t even want to know that I bestow. It’s sufficient for me to simply remain in this and nothing more. This is the starting point.
From the 3rd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 12/22/2011, “Introduction to TES”