Answer: The right mutual relationships between husband and wife are realized when they become friends and they create the same conditions between them that exist in a group of Kabbalists. I heard this many times from my teacher, the great Kabbalist, Rabash.
If a husband and wife work correctly with each other mutually and grow spiritually together, the Creator will be revealed between them and they will become a small group.
This surely does not exclude participation by the wife in a women’s group or the participation of the husband in a men’s group, but they do create a normal, physical, and full group between them.
Question: Are you aware of couples like these? How do they interact with each other?
Answer: I was told that there were couples like these in the distant past, but I didn’t see this with my teacher Rabash even though his wife understood very well what he was involved with and they lived together for 65 years. Even his father, the great Kabbalist, Baal HaSulam was not connected with his wife like this.
The students of Rabash partially aspired to do this, but due to the lack of time and energy to implement spiritual activities among us, we learned more in a men’s group and the women studied separately.
We were the first group to have broken into the wisdom of Kabbalah by attaining the upper world, so we didn’t have enough power, patience, and mind to create connections like these in the family. We were pioneers in studying and attaining the wisdom of Kabbalah, so in his time nothing worked smoothly.
Question: Would it be correct for a husband and wife to discover the other half within them first and only after that connect and advance together toward the Creator?
Answer: No, there is no need to divide anything. It is completely possible to succeed in discovering it through a group specifically and not in the connection between you. There are many different possibilities here.
We are now in a transitional period in which great and expanding masses are beginning to study the wisdom of Kabbalah, so there is no way of knowing clearly whether we must specifically act mutually with a wife or a husband and then in a group or the opposite, first in groups and then each other.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 3/6/16