Comment: A doula is a woman who helps with childbirth. These are not medical personnel. She helps, advises the the woman how to position herself, and massages women who are about to give birth.

My Response: A midwife.

Question: But she doesn’t deliver babies, she helps. Advises what to think about, helps make it warm, good, and comfortable for a woman giving birth.

And there is a doula of death. I even found such a website for one whose name is Varya. This Varya helps to go through dying exactly the way the person himself wants it is what is written there. It also says she supports conversations with the dying, prepares a step-by-step individual scenario of dying, takes care of household chores: watering flowers, walking dogs, and so on so that the person who leaves is calm. One can write a letter to a future child and so on. Everything has its price: 50 euros, 100 euros, 200 euros. Everything is priced on that website.

Do you think a person needs such a doula of death?

Answer: If the person who leaves likes it and wants to, if necessary, then it is necessary.

Comment: After all, a person wants to leave like this, calmly.

My Response: I don’t know. I imagine it differently.

Question: How?

Answer: Just as if to fall asleep and that’s it.

Comment: This is an ideal option.

My Response: No, but not in such a way that you don’t feel anything at all.

Question: That is, it’s like falling asleep. That’s how you fell asleep and that’s it?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And you don’t need anyone to accompany you, nothing?

Answer: No.

Question: Can we say that the Creator accompanies you all the time?

Answer: Naturally, this is so.

Question: So my conversation is going on with Him all the time anyway, all the time?

Answer: Yes.

Question: I remember now that I had good, leading producers teaching in my higher courses. They were philosophers, smart and very famous. I will not mention the name of the teacher. I was with him in his last days. And I remember how he resisted and screamed: “I don’t want to die!”

Answer: Remarkable.

Question: Shouted! I won’t give his last name, everyone knows him. He has children and relatives. Don’t want to. But this resistance was terrible. It’s scary! It was given to him, he was making a movie and suddenly he left.

I would like to ask how does one agree with this? How can someone not reach these states?

Answer: I don’t know. It seems to me that it’s not such a big problem to lose your life.

Question: How can I calm myself down?

Answer: In fact, there is nothing good in this life. Let’s see, what’s in there?

Question: So, you are suggesting such a switch, a journey to another world? It’s better than this one anyway.

Answer: Yes, of course!

Question: Does this thought accompany a person?

Answer: Yes, what are you losing?! None of what you had is worth worrying about.

Question: How about relatives, close ones, friends, warmth, work?

Answer: They have their own lives.

Question: Is that how a person leaves?

Answer: Yes.

Question: When you talk like that, can you say that the Creator is with you at this moment?

Answer: Of course, in such cases, the person is with the Creator, who takes it away.

Question: And this is the most important thing, to agree?

Answer: Yes.

Question: What does it mean that everyone has their own hour? What does this phrase mean? Everyone has their own hour?

Answer: A time to be born and a time to die. So don’t worry too much.

Question: But is it meant for a person to do something during this short journey? It’s laid down to him, right? Is it measured out to him?

Answer: Yes.

Question: So he shouldn’t regret anything, since he went on this path the way he did?

Answer: Yes. I am calm about it.

Comment: Still, about this doula, it means that there is a requirement. The prices there are good too. That is, there is a requirement for a person to leave like this, calmly, so that someone is with you, and someone holds your hand, and you calmly leave. A person is afraid of this step, still.

My Response: I can’t imagine that I’m afraid of death. No.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/25/23

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We are not a country, not a state, not a people, we are an idea! A country can be destroyed, a state can be conquered, a people can be slaughtered, but the idea? The idea cannot be killed! (Sholom Aleichem)

Question: Does this idea live in us? What idea is he talking about?

Answer: In principle, there is no idea. There is no idea in itself. In the end, a man creates it in himself anyway. A person creates within himself an idea of why to exist, in the name of what to exist, and so on. And for this reason he exists.

Question: But there is an idea that people followed. The man ignited the people and led them. I mean Abraham. Is there still an idea of the people? Sholom Aleichem hints at this.

Answer: That idea is divine. It is not something created by man. It is perceived from the Creator. And they ignited the people and carried them within themselves.

Question: Does this idea live in us or does it not?

Answer: I do not see this.

Question: And still, the great Kabbalist Baal HaSulam writes that we have this grain within us, but it is covered by tons of egoism.

Answer: Maybe, somewhere within us, yes.

Question: What must be done to make this grain break through this concrete?

Answer: This requires a passionate desire to discover the meaning of life. And this seems so difficult to us and even insurmountable with our efforts that we reject it in advance. We say, “Ah, I will live as I do now. This is what I have, and there is nothing else.” A man agrees to such a wretched, miserable existence. And so does the whole people, and the whole world, until the Creator awakens us from above.

Question: So the only hope is in the upper one?

Answer: The only one!

Question: This concrete layer already exists above the world. And the only hope is for the upper one?

Answer: Let us hope for this!

Question: Let us hope for this. But should we at least make some kind of a move? I do not know what; take a sledgehammer, start hammering this concrete, do something, hit your head.

Answer: No, by doing this you demonstrate your disagreement with the plan of creation.

Question: So I must accept the current state and sit tight?

Answer: Yes, you must accept it.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 11/9/23

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Question: When you describe the field, which we perceive as disparate particles, do you mentally connect these particles by changing the system of perception?

Answer: Sometimes I also use this analogy. But, in general, this field is a system in which everything is connected. It is just that its elements are not included in the system correctly. Either they are included in the opposite way and slow everything down or they are included poorly and ineffectively.

Therefore, I am concerned about launching the system more explicitly so that it can start operating on its own. But that is a problem. However, time after time, gradually this happens.

In principle, it is a huge scheme in which all the parts exist together in common unchanging unity. This picture does not change since there is a rigid connection between them. It all depends on how they are included in each other as good or as harmful elements.

In their mutual inclusion, they create a system that gradually brings them closer to the one who created it, to the Creator, that is, to the upper force, the upper mind. Thus, gradually, by making yourself consciously kind (“love your neighbor as yourself” is our main goal), you put yourself in order, understand in what world you exist and in what connection with others.

When you learn, see, and start improving this scheme and its functioning, firstly, you will begin to feel comfortable. Secondly, you will detach yourself from your body, which is currently imposed on you as some nonexistent vision, and you will clearly feel yourself exactly in a state of inclusion with everyone else.

This feeling will suppress all earthly sensations. You will see only this system around you: how everyone is interconnected, how they work on the connection, but they work poorly, and that is why our world is the way we perceive it. Then you will see how it gets included and enters this system, is lost in it, as if it disappears, dissolves.

And the most important thing is that inside the system, when it begins to work in harmony, we feel the upper force, the one who created this field. This is the force of goodness, bestowal, mutual unity, and love. By feeling it, we become like it, eternal and perfect.

Then there are huge degrees of our development: greater and greater unity up to uniting into one single whole. At the same time, attainment and fulfillment occurs, which is what we internally desire for ourselves.

All our earthly desires are not even the first degree of what we receive when moving toward unity, because we gain great joy, fulfillment, eternity, perfection, everything! We can do this now. Just let us discover this good connection between us.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. One Desire” 1/6/12

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Comment: We have not had such a prolonged war in a while. All this time, the guys have been out there on the front lines. It seems like it is going to continue for a long time.

A father of four children, who has not been home once since the war started, writes to his wife: “My beloved, my dear, I am here fighting for our home, for our people. But I feel the immense war you are going through, taking on everything: caring for the home, for the children, for me. Where do you get such strength? How did I not feel this before? Thank you for the peace you give me, for the strength that emanates from you. I know it is easier for me; I am here, surrounded by friends. All the care is on you there, you are the hero! For you: our wives, sisters, and mothers, we are ready to fight. Thank you, my love! I miss you so much.”

What would you say about such wives?

My Response: There are no words for it!

Question: Can we say that this is a feat?

Answer: Yes, definitely.

Question: How do they hold up as they are thinking about their husbands, fearing that suddenly—God forbid—someone will knock on the door and bring some news about them? Constantly caring for the children and not showing how hard it is for her. After all, a woman wants to be weak, but she does not have the opportunity to be weak. How?

Answer: The Creator gives a person what he needs. We see examples of this. Women are strong. They bear their share with dignity.

Question: So, even without thinking about the Creator, does she have a constant prayer?

Answer: Yes, it is constantly in her heart.

Question: Does that mean that there is a constant response?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Does that mean that He supports them all the time?

Answer: The Creator supports such people and helps and encourages them. Precisely the Creator.

Question: Does a person feel that this is from the Creator, or is it not necessary at all? Like this woman, the wife.

Answer: I think they feel it.

Question: Can a husband’s letter to his wife be called a declaration of love?

Answer: It can. In such cases you can speak openly and speak from heart to heart. Does he have four children?

Comment: Yes, he has four children. Yet, he writes to his wife, he feels that she is the stronghold and the foundation of everything.

My Response: What can you do? Of course. A woman is a home, as it is said in the Torah.

Question: Can we say that wives fight no less than husbands in this war?

Answer: Of course! Even more. After all, in action they cannot do anything, only in desires.

Question: Who do you think has it harder?

Answer: The woman, because she worries about the family, the home, the husband, about everyone. She generally is considered the center of the family in such a state.

Question: So her thoughts never disappear, she has no rest?

Answer: No! It is completely out of the question. Within her, she is always with the children and her husband who is far away, and she is constantly in these thoughts.

Question: In principle, what do husbands mean to such wives? Who are they?

Answer: They are their support. They are like the center of the world, the center of the universe. And for him, the wife is the center of life.

Question: Why does this happen only in such situations? He even writes here: “I did not even know you were so strong. I did not even know you were like this.” Why is this revealed only in such situations? Why can we not see this during peace?

Answer: Because they need each other. In ordinary life everything gets somewhat obscured. These states have a very positive impact on a couple, on husband and wife.

Question: Can you say that this war brings them together?

Answer: Of course.

Question: Does it bring together such families?

Answer: There are those who might drift apart from each other, but generally, it leads to coming together, to something serious and real, and makes them understand who they are to each other.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 1/22/24

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Question: Our egoism is designed in such a way that it does not want to reveal evil. How can we sweeten it so as not to fear this revelation? Is there any thought or trick?

Answer: No. It will not be possible to sweeten, deceive, or twist egoism.

Question: How can we not run away when evil is revealed?

Answer: If you can unite, you will not scatter. But if you do run away, then that is what you deserve. You will start coming together again in hundreds of years. So ask the Creator to keep you together.

Question: The basis of hatred is egoism. But we say that hatred for hatred should arise. What is the basis of that hatred that should arise against egoism?

Answer: Love for love.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 1/14/24, Writings of Rabash “The Daily Schedule”

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Question: Is luck related to the speed of advancement?

Answer: It is relatively. Of course, it can be said that the one who advances faster is more fortunate and one who is slower is less fortunate.

But, in principle, this is all relative because we do not count the peculiarity of everyone’s soul, what one’s work is. Some may move slower than others, but they do more difficult work.

Question: Often when I ask something, you say, “You are in a rush.” And all the time, I feel like I am late. What is the reason for this? Is this some internal time discrepancy?

Answer: No, of course, you want to rush. That is understandable. You have a desire to hasten your development. But everything will happen at the time that the Creator has appointed.

Question: But isn’t the desire to accelerate development the right desire for the soul?

Answer: This is the right desire, but you cannot just focus on it. You must think about the quality of your desires and which ones you want to raise to the Creator. So everything will come in due time.

Comment: It is just that yesterday there was one condition, today there is another, and all the time, there is a feeling that something is passing by.

Answer: That is how it should be. Every day a person is new.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 2/29/24, Writings of Baal HaSulam “Explaining the Discernment of Luck”

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Question: How can you be constantly under restriction?

Answer: Do not allow yourself to use any desires other than the desires of bestowal. And if the Creator presses on you as if you are a visitor and the host forces you: “Try this, try that, look what I did for you,” in that case, you can take something, just so as not to break your restriction.

And then, even if you begin to try and approach the Creator to take a little more and more, all this turns into receiving for the sake of bestowal. This means that there should be work with the Creator who puts pressure on you, like a host on a guest, so that you take more and you have to check whether you can afford it.

Question: How do I do this check correctly?

Answer: Everything depends on your state, how connected you are with the Creator, and how you check the restriction so that you receive not for your own sake but only for the sake of the Creator. In addition, you can test it on the group, whether you are able to receive for their sake, but in no case for your own sake.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 3/4/24, Writings of Baal HaSulam “The Prayer that One Should Always Pray”

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Question: It says that Israel is above the signs of good luck. What does it mean: Israel does not need the Reshimo of shattering?

Answer: The fact is that Israel, for the most part, has been shattered and now has to correct itself. And by doing this it corrects the whole Kli, all the nations, the whole world. That is why everyone makes all kinds of claims against Jews.

Question: Who determines the speed of our progress, and can I influence it?

Answer: Of course, you can influence it with your desire.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 2/29/24, Writings of Baal HaSulam “Explaining the Discernment of Luck”

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