Question: How does the wisdom of Kabbalah regard the issue of divorce that is passed on from generation to generation? In my family, for example, there are four generations of divorced single women.

Answer: This happens because we don’t know how to correct ourselves. My life hasn’t been very easy and was far from being smooth, but I set a very clear guideline: divorce is not an option! I have kids, a family, I have to take care of them and I have no right to leave them.

Relationships between couples may be different, this is how it goes. But a person’s obligation is to take care of his family because it is his and that’s it.

Question: Are bad mutual relations between parents better for a child than divorce?

Answer: I believe that it is better to live that way than in a broken family. A child who grows up without a father feels that he is not protected because there is no one beside him to hold his other hand. This sharp feeling of a deficiency of a father by his side is reflected throughout his life.

Comment: The rate of divorce is 50% now and it keeps growing.

Answer: The fact is that the world is more and more in need of correction. In order for that need to be felt, conditions are becoming more difficult so that people ultimately will decide that they have to do something.

Question: Can the wisdom of Kabbalah help sustain a person and the family?

Answer: The wisdom of Kabbalah helps strengthen the family. Today we already know how to do it more or less. The method includes discussions in groups of ten people, family workshops, and workshops for couples in groups that incorporate mutual cooperation between a husband and a wife. We still don’t have enough power to help all the families yet, but we have to gradually teach this method to all of humanity.
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In the News (Russian Bazaar): “Americans aged 18 to 29 years continue to rapidly lose interest in marriage. If in 1960 55% of people in this age group were considered married, today only 19% of “millennials” (born from the early 80’s to late 90’s) officially live a family life.

“Today we can say with certainty that all attempts to return interest to the institution of marriage, undertaken by the government and religious institutions, failed miserably. …

“According to experts, young people no longer understand the meaning and the essence of the religious marriage.

“‘Many ‘millennials’ consider marriage obsolete and an outdated institution, which from a legal perspective only complicates life. Without marriage, as we know, there is no divorce, division of property and other litigation. …

“Getting a college degree, moving to their own homes, buying a house or car, the birth of a child – all of this is much more important for today’s youth, than a wedding. Even ‘meeting someone you love’ they rate much higher than official marriage. …

“Look who is protecting the institution of marriage today. By and large, they are conservative Americans aged 45 years and above. They grew up with other values and traditions, and now they want to instill in their children. But the 90’s and 2000’s greatly changed American youth. It thinks very differently and evaluates reality differently than the older generation.”

My Comment: Human behavior is based on a single feature: egoistic pleasure. This determines every aspect of our behavior. Therefore, the reason for a change in our behavior is a change in the basis of the phenomenon, egoism.

Egoism has developed and continues to develop very rapidly, especially qualitatively. At the heart of nature is its development program and the program of human development.

You can read about the lack of free will in any of our actions in my post “There Is No Such Thing As Free Will“.

According to this program a person has to penetrate nature’s program, to study it, implement it on himself, and act in harmony with it. Currently, we operate opposite to this program. But it is normal and this is also part of the actual program, which is called the growing period, similar to the way children grow in our world.

Today we are in the stage of transition to actively participating in the plan of creation. The program of creation will force us to attain its essence and to act specifically according to it. It is similar to the way young people become independent in our world. Some easily succeed and others find it very difficult.

The wisdom of Kabbalah is the science of human development and it is meant to tell us what happens to us and to prepare us for the correct interaction— Achishena, hastening time (along the quick and easy path)—with nature, with the Creator.
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Question: For a woman in the spiritual world, what is “infidelity” in relationships between a man and woman?

Answer: In the spiritual world, the concept of infidelity doesn’t exist because it operates on the basis of equivalence of characteristics. When two systems enter into an attachment, each one gives and receives, one from the other and they create a “contact,” which is called Zivug (coupling). The systems are divided and move apart from one another to the degree of the difference between these characteristics. The more equivalence between them, the fuller the connection they enter and vice versa.

In the spiritual world there are no souls that are mutually connected permanently.

Contacts between them are very rapid; the souls enter into contact and immediately break up. Again they establish a contact and again they break up. So the contacts are constantly renewed. We change all the time. If in this world I am in front of you in a physical form, it doesn’t change very much and so there is no problem in identifying me; in the spiritual world, I acquire new forms on every level and am completely different all the time and am even called by different names. It is not even possible to identify between who I was yesterday, who I am today, or who I will be tomorrow; these are completely different expressions of my soul.

Every day a person is new. If previously he was on the level of “Moses,” today he is on the level of “Abraham,” and tomorrow on the level of “Noah,” and so on. The desires are constantly changing. The degree of correction of the desires changes and constantly reaches changes in direction. Each time a new switch occurs. We are so included in each other that nothing will remain of us until we become one uniform mass.

The person begins to feel that he is seemingly swimming in ceaseless movement within eternity and wholeness! His “self” dissolves except for one point, so that he can feel something outside of himself. I don’t know what the fate of that point is after the completion of correction, but all of these sensations and emotions are sensations and emotions that are external to our “self.” It is so wonderful to dissolve into something eternal and perfect, what could be better? All of the limitations in our world disappear: time, motion, and space, and we are in perpetual motion and spiritual ascent!
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 3/6/16

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Question: In Europe there are kindergartens where children aren’t differentiated by gender; they are called “it.” They believe that, with time, a child must determine his own sex. How is this possible in a civilized world?

Answer: I don’t know how it is possible to call a person “it” when nature has created a precise division into either “she” or “he.”

In Hebrew, there is no neuter. Hebrew is the language of the roots, and it comes from the higher system of management where a clear division exists between the masculine part and the feminine part. It is not possible to call something by a masculine name and then switch to a feminine name, and vice versa. So, the concept of “it” doesn’t exist in nature. There is only a male or female part, male or female property.
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Question: Today men easily marry women who have childrens and everyone regards this tolerantly, while in the past it was not welcomed by society, why is that?

Answer: We have changed so much lately that such things don’t matter anymore. We get married, get divorced, become friends and connect with the shreds of other families, get along with them, and live together.

In the past it was very unusual for a man to marry a woman who already belonged to another, but this has changed during the last centuries. Today it is less important for a man whether the woman he lives with has a child from a previous marriage or not. It is the result of our corporeal and spiritual development.

When we begin to mutually interact in the correct mutual connection, the Upper Light begins to correct us and our perspective of the world and the mutual relations between people change. They can either become more rigid and restrained or quite the opposite, we can constantly ascend in the spiritual connection between us paying no special attention to the physical connection.
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Question: Can a female soul be reincarnated as male soul and vice versa? How can you explain the fact that a woman has a masculine character?

Answer: A person’s character says nothing about the attributes of his soul. When person begins to study the wisdom of Kabbalah he receives forces from Above, from the Surrounding Light. After a few years of serious study during which he totally changes from the state of Lo Lishma (not for its sake) to Lishma (for its sake), he undergoes great changes and his character is totally transformed.

As for the reincarnation of a female soul as a male soul and vice versa, this does not exist in the spiritual world. Every soul is made of both a male and a female part. There cannot be one without the other, like a dipole.

If you connect to someone through your male part, you connect to another person through your female part because all the souls are connected in a mutual flow. There is either a dominant male or a female part in each of us, but in general, they are mutually balanced.
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Question: Is a wife given to a man because of the root of his soul, and vice versa?

Answer: This is a very complex coupling. In our day it is very confusing because in our world there are no new souls.

This is not the first time that we have descended here; since everyone here is so “involved” with each other, it is doubtful whether we will reach an ideal match with each other here. It is now precisely for this reason that it is very difficult for couples to connect.
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Question: Why don’t we have a mixed Kabbalistic group of men and women so that they will be able to better complement one another?

Answer: This is impossible because a woman unbalances the men’s group.

The point is that a man is naturally attracted to women and their appearance arouses different feelings in him, which distract him from the spiritual work.

Therefore, there is no need for any contact or connection between men and women during the study. The men are forbidden to see women during the study so that they will not be distracted from the spiritual intention while the women can naturally watch the men peacefully as they actually receive the spiritual potential from them.

Thus, there should be a special atmosphere where men engage in spiritual work so that the women will not disturb them.
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Question: What should a man do if a woman wishes to do a man’s job, to order the man around and to manage him?!

Answer: Nothing. Let her order him around, so what? What’s important is what a woman does with regard to her spiritual advancement.

There should be coordination and cooperation between the sexes, one for the sake of the other because one cannot break through to the upper world without the other.

It is just as my teacher Rabash used to say: Love is a domestic animal that has to be fed all the time, growing through mutual concessions.
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Question: Why are more women than men studying the wisdom of Kabbalah in our day?

Answer: In truth, more women deserve to study the wisdom of Kabbalah than men. This is connected to the fact that in our world a woman feels more emptiness than a man; she doesn’t feel contentment.

Women are too dependent on men. In this world, a man can fulfill himself with a multitude of pleasures, whereas a woman receives fulfillment through a man, by his side, just as Malchut (the desire to receive) is fulfilled through Zeir Anpin (the Creator) in the spiritual world.

So because women are not receiving fulfillment, they are in greater depression, in emptiness. This is the reason that they yearn more for the wisdom of Kabbalah, trying to find satisfaction through it. If a woman moves correctly, she truly finds fulfillment in a group that is studying the wisdom of Kabbalah. We have opened our lessons through the Internet to make it possible for women to have equal opportunities for studying together with the men.

Question: What do women need for fulfillment? Are they fulfilled by the same things that men are fulfilled by?

Answer: Yes, but the fact is that a woman receives fulfillment through the group of men anyway. A group of women by itself cannot fulfill itself. It must exist alongside a group of men.
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