We see that when a little girl is playing with a doll, the pleasure she feels is real.

We also see that if there is a six month old baby in the house and he is crying, and we say to the girl, “Why are you playing with the doll and kissing it? It’s a false baby, come and play with a real baby,” she refuses, even though we are certain this is a true clothing (Rabash, Letter 12 ).

Question: What does it mean to experience pleasure in the correct clothing?

Answer: Clothing refers to the manifestation of pleasure. The proper clothing arises in relation to the consumer. For example, when a little girl experiences pleasure from a doll, she feels it even though the doll is just plastic. Her little brother, however, cannot give her the same pleasure because she has not yet grown to enjoy such things like her mother does.

Our task is to enjoy true pleasures that come in their proper clothing. The material world is full of various pleasures, but we must strive to relate to them properly so we do not “play with plastic dolls.” Instead, we should seek the kind of clothing that is right for us. This is how we will understand what the Kabbalists are trying to convey.

We need to engage with the Torah, the sources, and our relationships and understand that there must be certain connections revealed between us that will unveil true pleasures to us. So let us strive to reveal them.

Question: How can we see that we are “playing with a doll” instead of experiencing true pleasure?

Answer: You will not see this until you desire to transition from the doll to the real form of pleasure.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 10/18/24, Writings of Rabash Letter No. 12

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Question: What kind of preparation should virtual groups make for the convention?

Answer: If you attend our lessons consistently and make an effort to apply them in your ten, you are ready for the convention.

We prepare the program for it in advance: the lesson topics, the order of discussion, and so on.

Everything is aimed at preparing each participant so that at the convention, through being in a large gathering of like-minded people, he can collectively reveal the Creator with them.

The convention is a great force that draws the revelation of the Creator. Suppose 100 groups will gather together. This is a real force.

This is the purpose of the convention and the reason to attend: I want to be in a field of tension so strong that it evokes the feeling and revelation of the Creator.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/28/19, on the topic “Questions and Answers”

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Question: What is this desire of the ten that the Creator feels?

Answer: If all friends in the ten are striving for the spiritual goal, this is what the Creator feels. They raise their MAN to Him, and the Creator cannot refuse them. Acting according to their desire, He grants them the quality of Lishma.

The Creator works on the ten in such a way that the ten feels who it truly is, how close it is to Lishma or far from it. Accordingly, they change their attitude toward life, toward the Creator, toward the purpose of creation, toward the request addressed to the Creator, and He gives them other Kelim (other desires).
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 10/30/24, Writings of Rabash “And the Lord Saw”

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Question: If a person with a strong altruistic desire stands outside the group for several years, observes it, and sees hidden egoism that even those in the group of ten are not aware of, what should he do? Should he join the group even if he feels a strong aversion to it?

Answer: Why doesn’t he join the group?

Comment: Because he sees how egotistical they are.

My Response: He sees in them a reflection of himself. As it is said, “A person sees others according to the extent of his own flaws.” However, the friends in the group are working to rise above egoism.

Every time they reach a certain spiritual level, their egoism will intensify even more, and they will rise above it to an even higher level to discover the Creator at the next stage. Only in this way are both egoism and the opposing qualities of connection between souls revealed.

The fact that this person refuses to join the group is merely an excuse rooted in his great egoism. I understand it is difficult to humble oneself, but there is no other way. He must simply ask his friends for help, and for that he needs to nullify his egoism.

In any case, they need to start somewhere, maybe with shared meals, with dissemination, or through joining the group for collective work or study, though not yet for connection between friends. He may not be ready for that, but he will begin gradually.

During lessons, I usually encourage people to speak with each other and discuss topics, and in this way they can already connect with others.

He has to start, otherwise nothing will work. Everyone faces this problem. He is not the first, not the last, and not the biggest egoist; there are even greater ones. So he needs to lower his head and help push the group forward.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/28/19, “Questions and Answers”

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Question: Can our choice be that we leave the decision to the Creator?

Answer: We must constantly pray to the Creator so that He shows us what action is really required.

Question: Should this prayer be about choosing a good path or specific situations in the ten to find the best solution?

Answer: Maybe so, but usually about the best path.

Question: Everything that comes from the Creator is good. What determines whether it becomes the potion of death or the elixir of life?

Answer: It depends on how we perceive what comes to the ten.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 10/28/24, Writings of Rabash “For Man Is the Tree of the Field – 1”

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Question: We have groups and tens in our community. What should a group consist of? Are there any key elements that characterize it?

Answer: A group means several subgroups or tens. Ten is a minimal association, what is called a Minyan, there is nothing smaller than it in spirituality. This is the HaVaYaH, a unit, a cell.

Our current task is to reach a state where we unite into such a ten. Then we will represent a unit that exists in spirituality; until then, we do not exist.

When there are many such units gathered, they represent a spiritual body. But this is already a great achievement. If such a state manifests itself in our time, it will be a tremendous accomplishment.

And a final correction occurs when all the tens that should gather from the shattered soul of Adam unite together into a single spiritual body called Adam. Therefore, a group means at least a few tens united by a common aspiration.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/28/19, “Questions and Answers”

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Question: A couple of years ago, right after a congress, my friend and I had a big fight. We had such mutual hatred between us that we still cannot overcome it. What could you advise to overcome it?

Answer: Rise above it. You have to imagine that this is not your hatred, but something that is given to you so that you can overcome it together.

I have a student who periodically quarrels with his boss at work, and the boss threatens to fire him every time, although he is a very good specialist.

Once he came to me and said: “Probably, the boss will fire me after all. But I can’t do anything about that. I do not agree with him. What should I do? If I get fired, I will feel bad, but I cannot stay with him either.”

Then I told him: “As your spiritual teacher, I order you to go to him and say: “I hate you one hundred percent. But I have a teacher whom you know, and he ordered me to make peace with you and love you.” Since then they have been wonderful friends again.

We need to act the same way because, at each degree, we will uncover mutual hatred to rise above it into love. Hatred again, then love again. Hatred again, then love again. And that is how we rise.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/28/19, “Questions and Answers”

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How do we correctly use obstacles that arise? Basically, we should not wait for them. It is best when we evoke them; that is, we artificially want to get closer to each other as much as possible, and in doing so, we strive to get closer to the Creator.

Naturally, in this case, we will feel rejection from each other, some obstacles, even major ones. It is the preferred path when we rush forward to the connection between us, although it causes us all sorts of problems.

But we do not fear them, we understand that it is precisely with pressure on ourselves and each other to unite that we can bring these obstacles closer ourselves. In this way, we can solve them actively and quickly, thus shortening our path. Then we have something with which to turn to the Creator for help, and will quickly complete the path of movement between ourselves and toward Him.

What do you mean, between ourselves and toward Him? By getting closer to each other, we create a place in which we want to feel the Creator, and He reveals Himself in this place in the connection between us.

Therefore, you should not wait for problems to come because if a person does not strive for connection, they may not manifest for years. But when one strives for unity, even artificially, not because of his desire, but simply because it is necessary, then this problem arises and becomes apparent. By invoking it, he begins to need the Creator’s help and thus advances.

It is called the “path of the Torah,” the “path of light,” when a person himself awakens obstacles, like an old man who walks bent over and searches as if he has lost something. This is how he accelerates his path because he asks the Creator to help him find what he lacks—new desires and their overcoming.

That is, both in the left line and in the right line, he needs the help of the Creator and turns to Him all the time. In this case, his path is fast, short, and rational.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/28/19, “Questions and Answers”

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Comment: We have a small group where every member is invaluable. We deeply cherish each one. From the outside, it may seem like we maintain a certain gentlemanly decorum, that we don’t take off our white gloves. But, in my opinion, not taking those gloves off requires a great deal of inner work.

My Response: Then you will remain at the animal level. By avoiding conflict among yourselves, you avoid ordinary, everyday, and more importantly, spiritual challenges. Essentially, you stay at the zero level, like little children. You do not have an awareness or disclosure of egoism between you. I understand it may feel better to live like this rather than risk disagreements and separation. But you need to move forward somehow.

Therefore you need to strictly monitor that your gentlemanly relations remain friendly and loving, and at the same time combine them with the revelation of a common aspiration toward the Creator, which will cause all sorts of challenges that you will need to resolve together. Moreover, since you are afraid of splitting apart, it is essential to monitor this process closely.

I understand your concerns, but there is no alternative. You must keep striving to grow closer to one another, repeatedly, even in the face of various obstacles. And then you will incorporate these obstacles into an even greater closeness between you.

And how can you grow closer? Only by rising above the obstacles, in spite of them. This is what is meant by the right and left lines.

Comment: I can see how there is an internal struggle in my friends. A person clenches their teeth, wants to speak their mind, but puts all their efforts into keeping their gloves on.

My Response: That is very good. And you shouldn’t remove them. Each person, on an animate level, should understand that they criticize others because of who they are, and at the same time strive to come closer to others despite the tendency to maintain gentlemanly relations.

When you attempt to draw even closer, true spiritual challenges, rejections, will arise between you that you will have to rise above.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/28/19, “Questions and Answers”

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Question: Is the correct prayer made up of thoughts, actions, feelings, or all of these together?

Answer: When a person asks from the heart, he does not make a calculation: 20% of thoughts, 30% of feelings, 20 to 30% of experiences. He simply asks from the heart.

Question: How can a ten come to one united prayer? We are all different. We all came to Kabbalah at different times, and each one has his own opinion. One wants to study, another wants to pray, a third wants to answer, one hisses at the other: “Be quiet, I can’t hear the teacher,” and so on.

Answer: It is precisely this discrepancy between people in the ten—when one is in one state, the other is in another, and the third is in a third—that gives the correct result. This one wants to pray and that one wants to study; this one wants to disseminate and that one believes that the most important thing today is to make a film for dissemination.

Each one has his own states, so everyone should understand that merging them into a single direction toward the Creator will bring the correct result. Each one from his own point.

So there is no need to worry that all people are different. They will always vary more and more in the ten. But if they strive toward the Creator, then He unites them together.

That is why it is said: “In Him our hearts will rejoice,” meaning in Him we unite. This is very important. We will not be united until we are incorporated into the Creator.

Comment: But when I look at others, I see that they are not in the Creator.

My Response: We do not check who is in the Creator and who is not. We all strive toward the Creator, each one as much as he can and in his own way.

If we try to unite outside of Him, it means a unification of egoists, and nothing will come of it. The Creator will make us even greater haters of each other. But if we try to unite in Him into a single whole, then we will succeed. Simultaneously with the feeling of unification, we will begin to feel the Creator and reveal Him in the connection between us.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/28/19, Questions and Answers

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