A person cannot strive for the property of bestowal in a natural way because it is contrary to our nature. But if I try to change myself in a group, then I will begin to receive help both from the group and from the Creator. And then I can succeed.
The only thing that is required of me is a request, a prayer. It is the main thing. We must come to it. We should constantly try to develop it so that it is as general as possible and strong, it is the only one that works.
So it is written by Baal HaSulam and other Kabbalists that everything is achieved through the power of prayer, the power of asking the Creator. Since He created egoism, only He can correct it and direct it correctly.
From the International Convention “Rising Above Ourselves” 1/9/22, “Asking the Creator to Fill the Place Between Us” Lesson 7