New Life 847 – Together And Alone
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

By being finely integrated we can attain the internal system of nature, together as one.

In the past we used to connect to those who were like us. Today we have to learn how to connect above any differences, above the divisiveness, in order to attain the mutual force of giving.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 847 – Together And Alone,” 4/4/17

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Question: What will happen if a child who has been brought up with building relationships of bestowal finds himself in an ordinary egoistic environment? Will he be laughed at and hurt by others?  

Answer: No, a child who has been brought up to bestowal knows how to behave properly everywhere. Such children don’t get lost. On the contrary, they get along and become mediators in society, and egoists feel they need them. Moreover, they gradually soften the society they find themselves in.

Question: Does that mean that they become leaders in that society?

Answer: No, they become the vital connecting element.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 1/8/17

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New Life 846 – Loneliness
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

Why do we feel lonely? How can we bridge the gap between the world that is becoming interconnected and the ego that is asking to divide us?
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From KabTV’s “New Life 846 – Loneliness,” 4/4/17

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Question: What measures should be taken when dealing with negative social behaviors such as stealing, aggressiveness, or violence toward others, and so forth?

Answer: No measures should be taken, except for education.

According to the Torah, humanity should not use any punishments accepted in society today such as sending a person to prison, and so on, and instead, only educate people.

A person who has broken the law should be given a certain task, and if he performs it, he does not have to be punished.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 1/8/17

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Question: How can a woman determine what is necessary for the home and family and what is superfluous?

Answer: If a woman works on herself correctly and understands a little about psychology and education, then she will not behave irrationally. She needs to think about how to raise her children so that they will be human, that they will be able to continue on their own after that.

Everything is rapidly changing today, and by the time those children grow up, there will be completely different professions and occupations. The most important thing is to educate them to be human so that they will always relate to life, to others, and to themselves correctly.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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Question from Facebook: You keep saying that education is the answer to all the problems both of the individual and the world. But people have been saying that for decades, and despite the many organizations that engage in education, life goes on according to its own laws.

Answer: Life goes on according to the laws of egoism. And we must act so that it will flow according to the laws of altruism: love, bestowal, and unity. No one does this and no one can.

The only one who succeeded in this 3,500 years ago was Abraham when he called all those who wanted to overcome the universal social humanitarian crisis that broke out in Babylon. He founded a group of people who joined him and clung to him, and he called it Israel or the Jewish nation.

Abraham became the first father of the new system of education of unity. This group has existed since then for 3,500 years, and cannot be divided or disappear! It stands against all the other nations of the world, the same Babylonians who spread and settled all over the world, and everyone feels that there is something special about them.

All we have to do is to start teaching this method to the entire world because the world already understands that there is no other choice and that the main thing is unity since, otherwise, people will destroy each other.

Question: Are you referring to the entire Jewish nation when you speak about a group that knows this method?

Answer: No, all the Jews have lost this method, except for Kabbalists who have been leading and implementing it from one generation to the next based on their own experience. If they lead this education system and supervise it, humanity will reach its good end. It will reach complete unity.

Question: Do you believe that people will listen to that?

Answer: If they don’t, there will be several serious wars that will involve such sufferings that they will have to listen. But the wise foresee these sufferings from afar and does not enter them.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 3/13/17

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Question: If nature cares about us like a mother cares for her children, doesn’t she then have to cherish us and protect us from all harm?

Answer: An embryo within a mother’s womb develops under controlled forces acting upon it and it is 100% dependent on the upper system. This system has a goal: develop it and bring it to birth.

Opposing forces are active within the mother’s system because everything is born out of the interaction between two forces: positive and negative. That is why there are systems of absorption and excretion of substances, and all of them are controlled by the mother’s body, which has complete power over the body of the embryo.

It seems to us that the embryo experiences only kindness from the mother. But in reality, opposing forces are acting upon it, strict, powerful, in conflict with one another. One force is forcing the embryo to grow and expand; the other is exerting pressure on it and constricts it. It is almost like breathing, inhaling and exhaling, or the beating of the heart.

There are many actions that are unseen by us; nonetheless, all development is always taking place as a result of two opposing forces: plus and minus. And the material exists between them, as if in the middle of a crossfire. That is why the life of the embryo is not as sunny as it may seem to us, but rather is very complex. The embryo instinctively carries out many actions, some in resistance and some in compliance with the mother.

It carries out a real war in order to receive the right kind of strength to rid itself of foreign elements. The embryo carries out a tremendous job of discernment, consumption, and elimination. Don’t think that for nine months it is resting and growing passively while the mother does all the work for it.

Every day it it carries out a huge job under the influence of opposing forces until they mold it into the necessary external and internal form and prepare it for birth.

The embryo goes through an entire preparatory process within the mother so that when it is born, it does not require anything other than external energy, nutrition, and filling the memory cells. In essence, it has all the necessities, won by it during the difficult war on the side of the mother and opposing her. It has the strength of the screen and restriction, work of discernment and synthesis. This is the real inner war without which the embryo cannot develop.

By the way, embryo feels everything. After the first three days of “absorbing the seed” and the following forty days of formation of the fetus, it already becomes a person able to absorb and process information. It is not just a mass of cells, but a person.

Even while within the mother and in a special type of communication with her, it takes in information about the external environment both through her and otherwise. And when it comes out to be born, then it begins to sense the external world. This is now a new degree of existence.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” #818,  1/26/17

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Question: What is friendship? What are the sensations and feelings that must appear between two friends?

Answer: Friendship is reciprocity, secure support, a feeling of warmth and mutual understanding.

Question: Can this continue until the end of life? Have you come across such cases?

Answer: Friendship between Kabbalists can be like this because it is beyond the limitations of life and death. A person begins to experience completely new sensations and emotions that are produced outside of our beastly bodies.

Question: In life are there cases in which a friend gives his life for the sake of others. Is this welcomed in the wisdom of Kabbalah?

Answer: The wisdom of Kabbalah doesn’t relate to this in any way and doesn’t say anything about this, neither for nor against. Everything depends on the situation.

Question: Are there general rules in the Torah when a person must give his life for the sake of others and when not?

Answer: In the Torah general rules and obligations like these don’t exist. But if necessary, a person himself gives his life because an inner connection can be very strong. I am convinced that there are circumstances like these in which a mother can give her life for the sake of her child. This can also be the case with two friends if one feels that the other is higher than he.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/11/16

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Question from Facebook: If a person gave his kidney to his child, is it selfishness? Does he think about himself? If so, I wish there were more self-sacrificing egoists like this in the world…

Answer: If we are talking about a father and a son and there is no other way to cure the son, then the father will certainly give up his kidney.

From Kabbalah’s point of view, this is not considered to be an altruistic act, because all actions that are on the level of the material world are egoistic. No matter how wonderful they may seem, they do not go beyond our world and have no relation to the spiritual quality of bestowal.
And within our world, of course, they can be divided into different levels.

Question: If we talk about this world, do you have a feeling that, let’s say, such-and-such person is kind, he did a good thing, and so on?

Answer: I do not see it. After all, if we talk about the general structure of the universe, then any action is evaluated only as it approaches the goal of the creation. And therefore, good or bad actions in our world and in the upper world are viewed differently.

It is a completely different system in the upper world; all actions are evaluated differently. Perhaps in our world some action would look very cruel, but in the spiritual world, it has its own beautiful continuation. And vice versa.

Question: What do you think, as a Kabbalist, is a good deed?

Answer: Only that which draws humanity to its good end.

Question: Even if it happens through sufferings?

Answer: It is not suffering if it brings us closer to the goal. And if not, then we are being pushed by sufferings.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 3/1/17

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Comment: A day of spontaneous kindness was celebrated on the 17^th of February. This day was first celebrated in the US and now it is also becoming popular in Europe. According to the organizers, you should try to be kind to everyone on that day. It isn’t just kindness but unlimited kindness without any shred of egoism.

My Response: First, this is impossible. Second, how can such actions be spontaneous if people know about them in advance?

You have to learn how to do that; you have to be prepared internally because you need some internal basis in order to wish good to someone else.

Question: What is the meaning of kindness? Why don’t people act according to it if it is such an important attribute?

Answer: A person cannot act out of kindness. Even those who act that way or in a similar manner cannot do good to someone spontaneously because all our actions stem from an internal egoistic calculation.

But if we begin to implement the method of Kabbalah, which will enable us to be connected with the upper force, we will be able to do good with its help. After all, this is above the ego, contrary to egoistic actions.

It is impossible to do that spontaneously. A person is an absolute egoist by nature and it says that the evil inclination is at the basis of his nature, so how can he do something for others? No way! Only if he deceives himself that he seemingly does something good for others, but eventually all of a person’s thoughts and intentions are focused only on what is good for his own sake.

Goodness is a state in which a person really wishes good to others and based on this, takes action. But if he seemingly does that for others, but doesn’t want to internally, if he doesn’t change his nature; he feels only a temporary relief that quickly passes.

Eventually everything turns to evil again. Therefore, it is said that the road to hell is paved with good intentions. We will not be able to do anything right, good, or real that can continue if at the same time, we don’t lock ourselves on the source of goodness, the upper Light. Then with the help of the upper source, we will be able to do good.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 2/15/17

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