Michael Laitman, On Quora: “How can I make miracles happen in my life?“

There is nothing simpler than making a miracle.

If people feel rejection, hatred, and remoteness from each other and they start connecting above such negative sensations, as it is written, “love will cover all transgressions,” then through this battle they each wage upon their egos, they attract a positive influence from nature.

This positive influence is known in the wisdom of Kabbalah as “the light.” They feel that they draw the light precisely from the darkness that they previously felt.

Such connection above mutual rejection and hatred is a miracle. When it happens, we feel a new illumination, perfection, warmth and harmony fill our lives.

Why is it that when we connect above our divisions, a miracle happens?

It is because, by doing so, we resemble the light—nature’s quality of love and bestowal—and our connection brings its influence closer to us.

If we decide that we’ve had enough of wars, conflicts, and hatred, and try to be good to each other, then we’ll immediately feel how the world changes and starts filling up with a special illumination.

We already live completely encased by the light, but we feel it as darkness.

Why?

It is because our self-centered egoistic nature is opposite to the bestowing and loving nature of the light.

Therefore, by making efforts to become as loving and giving as the light itself, while being opposite to it, we attract the light’s positive influence, and it performs this miracle of connecting us above our instinctive rejection to each other.

When such a miracle happens, we will start feeling a whole new sense of happiness, confidence, warmth, support, and harmony, i.e., everything positive in life.

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Love Thy Neighbor

Question: The purpose of creation is to become like the general power of nature, the Creator, in terms of properties. His property is to bestow.

Baal HaSulam writes in his article “Love for the Creator and Love for the Created Beings” that one cannot just jump over and acquire the property of the Creator because one can deceive oneself.

To make sure that I indeed achieve this property, an image of our world was created with all kinds of creations: inanimate, vegetative, animate, and most importantly, human. I must correct my attitude toward people.

Therefore, as it is written in all the original sources, the basic law is “Love thy neighbor as thyself.” What does it mean? Everyone understands this in their own way.

Answer: “Love thy neighbor as thyself” is the goal that a person must achieve if one works on one’s correction. This goal is a very distant one, but in the beginning there are other preliminary stages of correction.

“Love thy neighbor as thyself” means that just as today I love myself and I instinctively, consciously, and subconsciously put myself at the head of the whole world and only through myself do I perceive this world, and only from myself onward do I look at the world, and only for my dear own self do I work and do everything, so I must change myself for the whole world, work for the improvement of the world only, and only feel pain for it as if it were my beloved little child.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 2/7/19

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If the group has taken on any condition for its advancement, then I may agree with them or not, but until I come to share in the group’s opinion, I will not fulfill the law of mutual guarantee, and that means I will not be aimed at spirituality, at the goal of creation, the goal of life, the Creator, who is in the center of the group.

Mutual guarantee is the iron law of the spiritual system. At every moment it returns us to bestowal, to faith above reason, to being directed at the goal, compelling us to be included in the group and to bow down before the ten. All of this is part of the law of mutual guarantee in order to become human in the system of Adam HaRishon.

I must constantly check how much I agree with the group, with the teacher, with what Kabbalists write, and in this way, direct myself toward correction with ever-greater precision. This is what correction is, in essence.

As a result of correction, the friend and Creator merge together for me into one image. I do not differentiate them from each other because my egoism is completely corrected and cannot see differences in them. All the differences that I see around me now are depicted inside of my uncorrected egoism.

To the extent I feel a lack of mutual guarantee inside me and make efforts to attain it, extend a prayer, and include myself in the group, to this extent I advance and elevate myself from the path of suffering to the path of light.

The Creator can be revealed only on the condition that a person will change and become equal to Him. Change a part of your egoism to bestowal, and in this reverse part you will feel the Creator’s actions.
#egoism

With the help of the light that reforms, I constantly add a force to the corrected part at the expense of the corrupted part. All of this happens only on the condition of connection with the right environment, allowing me to advance.

The law of mutual guarantee operates in all of creation. We are inside the corrected system even now, but we do not see it because we judge from our own flaws, and we therefore see a corrupted system. We must see an increasingly corrected system, becoming more and more included in mutual guarantee. This is our whole work.

The law of mutual guarantee, my attitude to unity, determines all of my advancement, to what extent my path will be correct and straight, without loops and descents. Descent then becomes as a devil’s pinch—1 second, and we awaken and take a step forward.
I fall and awaken with great speed.

Our disagreements with the friend must be preserved—each one keeps his opinion. The most important thing for us is to attain unity, and we are glad that the Creator gave us the opportunity to be together. Between the two of us, we search for the quality of the Creator who includes both of us within: two opposites within one whole.

Mutual guarantee is the law of the whole of creation and the particular law of every person. If we correspond to this law, then we do not err and we advance along the shortest straight line toward the goal of creation. If I cease checking myself for mutual guarantee, then I will immediately stumble, fall, lose my way.

We do not replace one goal with another; they pull each other along: from love for the creatures, love for the Creator is born, and love for the Creator necessitates love for the creatures. They alternate at every degree until we no longer differentiate where the creatures are and where the Creator is. Everything becomes one whole.

Bestowal to man is more important than bestowal to the Creator. Love for the Creator emerges to the extent that we realize love for the neighbor—it comes from the upper light, which fills the corrected Kelim. All of our work lies in fulfilling the creatures.

We preserve the hatred and build a cover of love over it. We need both of them: “Love will cover all crimes”—it “covers” rather than destroys hatred or turns it into something else. The difference between love and hate must remain and then it will support darkness and light.
From Twitter, 12/27/19

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KabNet published my new article: “Why Divorce Negatively Affects Men More Than Women”

Divorce and parental separation has been associated with a range of negative outcomes affecting all those involved in the process. But why is it particularly difficult for men, as multiple studies indicate it to be?

How could men and women create a support system that will not only help the couple overcome challenges related to the split, but also help children cope with their parent’s separation?

Marriage has been directly associated with men’s health. 66% of men rely on their wives for their primary social support. Thus, divorce greatly increases a man’s sense of isolation. Also, socially isolated men have an 82% higher risk of dying from heart disease.

“66% of men rely on their wives for their primary social support. Thus, divorce greatly increases a man’s sense of isolation. Also, socially isolated men have an 82% higher risk of dying from heart disease.”

Why Is it Harder for Men to Endure Divorce?

Comparing the impact of divorce by gender, we discover that one of the reasons men find it more difficult to deal with a separation is their inability to open up and share their failures, worries, and pain from divorce with others. In comparison to women, since men are less prone to reach out for support when their family gets shattered, their chances of suffering from helplessness, stress and depression increase. In some cases, severe mental health problems arise in men that even lead to suicide. As confirmed by an investigation of the University of California, divorced men are nine times more likely than women to die by suicide. How can this be explained?

In general, factors that impair the mental and physical health of the divorced are loss of control over life, impairment of family and social sense, financial anxiety, loneliness and emptiness. All these feelings are intensified in divorced men. In addition, we can add to this difficult situation the potential for false accusations that often become part of the lawyers’ disputes over the custody of children.

There is a common misconception that it is easier for a man to live the single life after a separation, a life free of worry and commitment, while single mothers are left overwhelmed with the task of raising children alone, often dealing with most of the economic burden single-handedly. However, in practice, this picture often turns out to be unfounded. Instead of celebrating their supposed freedom, men often feel like abandoned children alone in the world, unable to pick up the pieces of their broken lives and carry on. Their confidence and self-esteem is undermined by divorce.

While in many cases women receive almost full custody of the children, fathers find themselves “divorced” from their children as well. Relentless quarrels with the ex-spouse often complicate the relationship with the children who sometimes hold a grudge against the father for leaving home, feeling distanced regardless of the compensation he might try to give them to maintain his position in their lives.

Understanding the Other Side Better

What Western society misses is that a man, despite the “macho” image he might portray to cover up his own insecurities, is almost totally dependent on the emotional support of the woman next to him and his family for a sense of well-being, much more so than most of us imagine. The wisdom of Kabbalah explains that a man by nature is fragile and vulnerable and needs a feminine influence resembling a mother figure to accompany him from childhood and throughout his life. Just as a fetus receives nourishment from its mother through the umbilical cord, a man remains in need of a woman’s nourishment in the form of support and care to continue to remain fulfilled.

Women in return should receive from men security, confidence, and total recognition for the pivotal role and contribution they play. A man needs to constantly emphasize his love and appreciation for his wife and should pamper and embrace her as much as possible to avoid losing her.

The problem is that both men and women, from an early age, receive no education on how to understand this interactive mutual support mechanism and how to use it positively for the sake of family integrity. Each partner is locked in the ego, in individual self-concern, and often misinterprets the other until the partnership is unable to endure the resulting emotional crunch and the decision is made to tear the family unit apart.

The Key to Successful Relationships

In fact, the success of a marriage does not depend on physical attraction or even on personality, as our consumerist culture would have us believe. Marital success depends on the attitude and warmth that partners provide to each other, a necessary condition for a balanced relationship.

We need to stop assuming that we know what the other loves or needs. How can we expect that two different people from two different families, with two different upbringings, would know what each other want? It is unwise to sit back and wait until one would suddenly do something positive to the other. Instead, they must proactively and openly discuss their needs and desires, and then they will realize how positive such communication is to their relationship.

If, after making all possible efforts to preserve the family unit, divorce seems to be inevitable, it is indispensable for ex-spouses to transcend their own nature and differences to build a life as friends. In such a scenario, all family members — men, women and children — will benefit from the encouraging communication and cordial relations. Everything must begin with an education that aims to develop close and positive relations.

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Faith above reason is a spiritual concept, which means that a person prefers to be in bestowal instead of reception, that is, to bestow to the Creator instead of serving one’s own egoism. This is a calculation for the benefit of the Creator and not for one’s own benefit. The entire wisdom of Kabbalah is built on the principle of faith above reason, the principle of bestowal. Bestowal is built above reception and that is why it is called faith above reason.¹

Faith above reason grows through my choice to prefer bestowal over reception. The greatness of reception is imprinted in me, it is my nature. I know and feel how important it is to receive for myself—this is my entire “I.” Yet, I must find a way to cut off, to detach, my “I” from myself and attach it to the Creator in order to think about Him instead of myself and to receive pleasure from these thoughts.

I feel good when I think about the Creator because I feel that I am moving in the right direction. However, is the goal to do good to myself or is bestowal to the Creator most important? Through such exercises, I advance, gradually distancing from my I and shifting all my thoughts to the Creator.

It even becomes unimportant to me whether I feel good or bad; I do not want to think about it. After all, if I run away to the Creator to hide from evil, then it is my egoism. But to strive for Him and to ignore the good is also incorrect. I want to restrict myself and no matter whether I feel empty or fulfilled in any state, I want to adhere to the Creator so that all my thoughts and desires would be only about Him and all my actions would be directed at Him. This will be genuine bestowal to the Creator above reason, above impressions in my mind and heart; it means I have acquired faith above reason.²

If we really feel the need to turn to the Creator, we will start working on our connection. The Creator is the goal that obligates us to unite. Otherwise, why do we need to connect? Egoism, on the contrary, pushes us away from each other and says that it is better to keep our distance. We will agree to connect only out of hopelessness when we are compelled to turn to the Creator. It is as if the entire ten is locked in a tight cage and we are forced to search for the means to cry to the Creator.

This is how we need to see our state in this life without waiting for the Creator to push us into it by suffering. Let us imagine this state, discuss it between us: what are we lacking in order to turn to the Creator together, to raise a prayer, MAN? How can we connect with each other in order to feel this connection as a single point common for all of us? What should we feel in this point, what desire, what ache for the Creator is called a prayer? How can we reach such a request? Let us decide and compile such a program.³
From the 1^st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 12/3/19, The Work in Faith Above Reason

¹ Minute 1:05
² minute 4:40
³ Minute 32:20

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Kabbalah—The Key to the Laws of Nature

Question: Why did nature create us as egoists and opposite to it? What is the purpose?

Answer: So that precisely because of our egoism, we become aware of how terrible we are as creatures.

The question arises: if we see that our egoism is the only obstacle toward achieving an eternal, perfect life, how can we correct it? How, with the help of the ego, can we change ourselves, society, the environment, everything?

At this point, a need emerges to actually change ourselves. There are many different methods, theories, and ideas on this topic, including religious and non-religious, mystical, Eastern, etc.

One of these methods is Kabbalah. It stands quite apart from everything else because it emerged long before their inception, 6,000 years ago. According to Kabbalah, there was a man named Adam. He was the first to comprehend the whole matrix, the whole system of nature, and he unraveled its plan, its beginning, its course, and the end.

Adam laid the foundation for the science of Kabbalah. His students were Sim, Ham, Yaphet, and others who were allegorically described in the Torah. They continued to develop this science up until Abraham in ancient Babylon.

Kabbalah speaks of how to unite above oneself, over one’s egoism. In this case, we will begin to feel the general power of nature, its overall picture. It will become clear to us that nature is eternal, perfect, infinite, and most importantly, integral and whole.

If we treat it like that, then we begin to unravel its true laws, its true form. After all, today we do not feel it. We do not really know it, and we do not really see it.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 2/7/19

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It is important that I, myself, demand the forces to restrict my egoism. I ask to be given the force to rise above my nature. That is, I wrap myself in isolation, and beyond this isolation I ask to be given the intention of bestowal. I don’t know what this is but if it is the Creator’s nature, then may He give me such qualities.

The Creator doesn’t hear one person, but at least two, if they are united. Yet He necessarily hears a ten, if it turns to Him as one person. In the spiritual world, one is ten, united as one.
#kabbalah #unity #wisdom #quotes

The greater a person, the greater his egoism. Despite the disappointment, we must help each other and rise back up—not thinking about our failures, but about how to awaken the hearts of the friends. Then we won’t have problems.
If I care for the sick friends, I will forget about my own disease.

We must break the barrier, constantly ask, demand from the Creator, with the understanding that there is no other way out. He enjoys our requests, but cannot allow us to clearly feel His reactions since we would then start to use Him egoistically, demanding “give us – give us” even greater knowledge.

When we discover the inability to turn to, pray, and be in contact with the Creator, we will understand how much we need the environment, the group, unity—only inside of it will we reveal the Creator and be able to turn to Him together. Otherwise, neither I nor the friends will reach the Creator—only all of us together.

The condition, “You won’t get it till you yell,” is the process of building our Kli. These shouts, efforts that we make together with the friends toward prayer, turn into our new spiritual vessel. A new Kli above the will to enjoy is built through contact with the Creator when He does not respond to us.

The Creator stands at the boundary of the spiritual world, and we must persuade Him to let us in. He is not our enemy, but He only insists on this condition: unity, oneness, mutual help. We must constantly make efforts toward this, striving toward a response, constantly firing into this one point.

We must attack, like in war—mobilize all means and forces for a constant plea to the Creator, never ceasing to feel that He is the one standing in our way and not letting us go. We do not feel one another, but we can feel a point that is common to us, the Creator, who obstructs our unity.

Spirituality is attained only through prayer, but the Creator won’t let us do this. To a regular person, it’s easy to turn to the Creator, but we, Kabbalists, won’t be able to simply turn to Him since the Creator wishes for us to have a real, correct, internal connection with Him, one that is precise, powerful and mutual.

The Creator deliberately gets in our way. We must plead with Him, cry out, beg, so “My sons have defeated Me” will come true. We are standing right on this threshold—and all we must do is create a common request, to persuade the Creator. He wishes and waits for it, but tolerates and restrains us, suffering more than us.

The desires of all times and all creatures will gather within us, and we will bring them to connection with the Creator. We are now realizing this mission by means of a special unity between us. Otherwise the Creator will not hear us. In the past He heard Kabbalists who studied individually, but that does not work today.

There is essentially one request: we ask the Creator for one thing, for unity. We want to unite, and from the unity we will understand that we need greater and stronger unity! The Creator must do all of this, “He who creates peace in the heavens will establish #peace among us.”

Reaching the common prayer is possible with help from above. Help from above will not come until we ask for it. Our heart of stone does not wish to feel anyone else, it is incapable of it and not ready for it. The reason is the Creator, who stands between us and does not allow us to connect, until we truly ask for it.

Nothing remains for the world except self-annihilation—this is where everything is going, or to try to at least speak about a good connection between everyone… that is all we need because our thoughts, desires, (#prayers) will change the world.
#Crisis #kabbalah #Wisdom

We already have the initial contact with Him, we are very close. The Creator only sets up conditions for us that get more difficult day by day, so we may reach the true demand to which He will be able to respond.

Wrapped in reflected light and confident about using my will to enjoy for the sake of bestowal, I can act. We are very close to realizing this. We need a few efforts for a request, a demand. If we don’t feel a reaction in response, then like a baby, we start demanding it.
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