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For a Child, a Father Leaving Is a Betrayal

Posted on September 18th, 2026

Question: There are still solid marriages. For example, I have been married for 38 years. You are already approaching your golden anniversary.

Answer: Indeed. But I live between my wife, children, and my group. This is not a normal life either. I cannot be an example. Especially given my natural characteristics.

But divorce, I have never even considered it. I never thought that I could get divorced and leave my wife and children. No. I bought an apartment, transferred it to my wife. It is only in my wife’s name, not in mine. I have nothing at all! Seriously.

I took care of the children so that everyone was provided for, got an education, a home, and everything else. Getting married is a must! So I would be able to do my work in peace. That is all; the most important things.

If you have children, you must take care of them. Children are the most important.

Question: Is divorce a disaster? The child feels that he does not have a father or a mother.

Answer: The child suffers from the absence of either parent! Mom or dad. Of course, mother’s absence is worse. But still, so is the father’s. It leaves its mark. This is not forgiven!

Children consider their father’s departure from them as a betrayal, as a divorce from them. And they do not forget that. They cannot. That is, they feel that Dad has left ME. And this, of course, is very difficult.

Question: What if the love is gone?

Answer: What love?

Comment: They say: “Love is gone.” That is how people justify themselves.

My Response: Where did it go? I do not understand that word. I only know one thing: if people live together, if they are normal people, if they are more or less understanding and well-mannered, they can create conditions where they are comfortable together. Not great, they are not happy, but they are comfortable together.

Question: So, they form an alliance of convenience?

Answer: Of course! And what is marriage in the first place? Joint household! When you believe you can support each other, help each other, and are satisfied with that. That is first of all. And everything else, if you mean sex, it changes for a person every few years in other directions.

After all, we all live five times longer today than people did 200 years ago. Not to mention 1,000 years ago.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 7/27/26

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How Can You Find Peace?

Posted on September 18th, 2026

Question: How does the absence of fulfillment on one hand lead to a Hisaron (a lack) on the other? How does the Creator teach me through sufferings?

Answer: The Creator indeed teaches me through suffering. How? He does not allow me to enjoy the delicacies lying on the table. And I want to flee from the sufferings; I do not want to feel hunger. The table itself is no longer important to me; I no longer chase after the enjoyment itself; it is as if I gave up hope ever obtaining it. My goal is to find peace, not through pleasures, and it does not matter that I will have no desire for them.

We act this way instinctively. “A simple person does not desire the king’s daughter.” Why should he suffer? He knows he will never obtain her. Then I, as it were, reduce my Hisaron; I do not even want to think about this.

But I am not allowed to do this. All my egoism, my inner desires, constantly develop and still lead me to suffering. I am not able to completely silence myself or find peace. And so I come to a state where I seek only one thing: how to avoid suffering?

The question of how to avoid suffering” transforms into a question about the meaning of life, which ultimately leads me to search for a solution. “Is there any way to find peace?” But how? “Taste and see how good the Creator is.” And that is all.

Let go of all that you think about pleasure, for there is another source from which you will be filled and will enjoy.

What is this? The Creator. And who is this? I do not know. Seek Him! This is the only solution in order to cease suffering.

You will never receive what lies on the table. You will see the host; you will see how good He is, that He thinks of you, and all this will fill you. The Creator reveals Himself as fulfillment instead of natural fulfillment.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/27/26, Rabash, “What Is the Work of Man, in the Work that Is Attributed to the Creator?”

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From Restriction to the Levels of Love

Posted on September 18th, 2026

Question: A mother does not perceive her child as the cause of her suffering. But there is a contradiction here. In certain Kelim she experiences suffering that comes from Him, while in others she experiences pleasure, which also comes from Him. So, which is stronger?

Answer: The issue is not which is stronger. You are saying that in our world there is a contradiction between desires. In spirituality it is different, because until a person has made a restriction on their vessels of reception, they cannot move on to working for the sake of bestowal.

What does it mean to make a restriction on the desire to receive? You cannot make a restriction by simply locking your heart with an enormous lock, throwing away the key, and never receiving again.

But spirituality is a matter of feeling. If you have a desire to receive, you need to correct it so that it remains under restriction and does not want to receive despite the fact that it does want to. Then this is called having made a restriction.

So by what trick, by what means, were you able to restrict it? What did you give it in return? It is not like in the corporeal world where you want to swallow something but restrain yourself. In spirituality there is no such separation. There, if I want, it means that I receive. There is no separate vessel of action and vessel of sensation where I am divided between my desire and my body that performs actions with my hands and feet.

So how can I find a solution for my desire to receive? What can I fill it with so that it can be said that it remains under a restriction? I have to give it some fulfillment called Hassadim. And beyond this fulfillment, I begin to acquire such degrees of bestowal that I can even reach receiving in order to bestow, something that is still completely incomprehensible to us.

I build between the Kelim that are completely separated from one another, such a connection that I can even receive in order to bestow. This is what is known as the levels of love.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/25/26, Rabash, “When a Person Knows What Is Fear of the Creator”

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Two Levels of Observing the Torah

Posted on September 18th, 2026

If we look a little deeper in, and thoroughly examine those who observe Torah and Mitzvot, whether they want to be given vessels of bestowal and to give in return the will to receive, the vast majority of the workers will say that they pass on this. Instead, they want to observe Torah and Mitzvot in order to receive. It follows that they have no need for vessels of bestowal. For this reason, how can they say that the Torah and Mitzvot they labor in should give them a reward for which they have no need? On the contrary, they are afraid lest they will lose the vessel of reception called “self-love” (Rabash, “What Is the Gift that a Person Asks of the Creator?”).

Rabash writes that there are people who observe the Torah and commandments as though they were “perfect” and “righteous.” Nevertheless, their practical observance says nothing about their intention, and they do not understand at all what the Creator requires of them.

Most people in the world observe the Torah and commandments only in order to receive a reward in this world or in the future world. The exception is those who wish to acquire the intention for the sake of bestowal, the screen, something that is completely impossible to achieve except through the wisdom of Kabbalah. Working for the sake of the Creator is precisely what the wisdom of Kabbalah is about. It means becoming similar to Him.

I in no way reject the observance of the Torah and commandments by those who observe them mechanically. This is called the initial, minimal degree, the spiritually inanimate level; it is where people have been taught to observe the commandments practically, but have not been taught about the intention, because their teachers do not know what it is.

The intention is the screen and reflected light, which can be acquired only after many years of great effort, while being under the influence of the surrounding light that comes to a person through studying the wisdom of Kabbalah.

We are speaking about two levels: the level of the masses, which is called the path of the ordinary person, and the path of Torah, the path of the influence of the surrounding light, through which a person acquires a screen. The first is one thing and the second is another. But for me there is no contradiction between them, nor do I oppose this. I reject nothing, there is simply Torah for those who are not yet spiritually developed and Torah for those who are already spiritually developed.

I lived in Rehovot and began searching and making efforts, as though I had returned to religion. I was looking for something internal and saw that there was nothing there. I began demanding more from those who had brought me back to religion and continued searching.

Among them was Rabbi Fischer from Holland, who told the others, “Leave him alone. There are people who need something more internal. Help him.” That is how I came to Rabbi Zilberman from Jerusalem. He quickly understood that I was one of those who needed something more. But even what I received in Jerusalem was not enough for me, so I continued searching until I found Rabash.

There are such people and there are others. You cannot say anything more than that.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/10/26, Rabash, “What Is the Gift that a Person Asks of the Creator?”

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Talks about the Steps of the Ladder, Part 234

Posted on September 18th, 2026

Talks about the Steps of the Ladder, Part 234

What Should We Do When Other Thoughts Arise During the Study?

We can sit in a lesson, our body seated in a chair, while traveling around the world in our mind, completely absent from the lesson. It is written that a person is where his thoughts are, but that is not the point here. If we are truly engaged in the study, yet we ruminate over some issue, that is an incorrect thought. If we think about various matters related to our activities in the group, those too are incorrect thoughts that distract us from the study. During the study, we should feel ourselves united with the entire group in connection with the Creator through the study material. This is all we should yearn for.

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