Do not tell your children what to do—make them want to do it.

And what happens until then? Parents should use their ingenuity to find alternative ways to awaken in a child the desire to do what needs to be done. This way, the desire for it will be child’s own. This is the right education.

It is written that we should “educate the youth according to his way.” This means that not only parents but a child as well should clearly see where he is going, and he should want it. Then he will accept education, he will demand it.

Parents who pressure their children, who try to forcefully teach them certain information or habits, raise a broken generation.

The wisdom of Kabbalah, on the other hand, is against any kind of violence or pressure. “There is no coercion in spirituality.” No coercion means that everything exists and is done only out of one’s own will. What parents have to do is to awaken that will.

Our problem is that no one is doing that and the whole education system is wrong. Hence our task is to help parents understand this principle of Kabbalists – everything stems from a person’s free will and all we have to do is to help its free development.