Question: The sixth commandment:”You shall not murder”—does it mean not to use the desires of others?
Answer: “You shall not murder” means not to do anything to the detriment of another. That is, all the forces that you are receiving now and everything from before, from prior days: Hesed, Gevura, Tiferet, Netzach, and Hod, you must shape them correctly and not interfere with the effects they may have on you.
“You shall not murder” means do not use a desire for your own benefit.
If I use the connection with the Creator for my own sake, it is called “killing.” I am killing my desire. That is, my desire becomes filled with pleasure that eventually kills this desire and it disappears. It gets annihilated.
Question: The seventh commandment is: “You shall not commit adultery.” What are we talking about here?
Answer: It is the same thing but from a different angle: do not use your connections with others for your own sake.
Love is called bestowal, and adultery is an act for self benefit.
Question: That is, you have a desire to receive. If I use this desire of yours for my own pleasure—and the desire to receive is called “woman”—is this adultery?
Answer: Yes. But this refers to the attitude toward both women and men, toward any pleasure. But this action in particular is called adultery because you are using another person.
From KabTV’s “Spiritual States” 12/26/19