Question: You often say in your talks that it is wrong to consider mutual attraction to be love, that love should be built by mutual concessions. Why should attraction prevent me from developing feelings for my partner?
Answer: Attraction cannot prevent you. However, love is not based on sexual attraction. That is necessary as an integral part, but it is absolutely not enough. It is like in mathematics—the condition is necessary but not sufficient.
Love occurs when there is a certain type of spiritual contact between partners, when they complement each other, when there is a gradual rapprochement, mutual spiritual satiation by each other. Therefore, sexual relations do not play a primary role here.
From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20