Rabash, Dargot HaSulam, Item 274, “Specifically through a Man and a Woman”: Also, if one has only the power of reception without sparks of bestowal, he can no longer make a choice to reject the bad and choose the good, since then he does not have the strength to decide to the side of merit.
The most important thing is the property of bestowal. We must develop it as much as possible and accordingly use the female property of receiving so that we always have the opportunity to elevate the property of bestowal over the property of receiving. Then we can perform the action of receiving for the sake of bestowal.
Hence, specifically when the two forces are equal—the power of reception and the power of bestowal (and this is the best option)—one has room for work and labor to be able to prevail through the labor and determine to the side of merit. At that time, this deed that a person has decided to the side of merit is called “newborn,” meaning that the Creator places the spirit of life in this action.
This is not about individual bodies but about one person, because in each of us there are both female and male parts. If they are in the right interaction, when a person, working on himself, causes such an influence of the upper light that all his desires to receive are in the intention for bestowal, then he is already acting correctly, he is corrected.
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 3/8/20