Question: What does “My sons have defeated Me” mean if we never ascend above the Creator?
Answer: “My sons have defeated Me” means that they have defeated all the hardships, they have overcome all the difficulties the Creator has given them. In the situation of the guest and the host, I not only defeat the Creator, but I also use Him. The victory is not in defeating and silencing Him, but rather in using Him, in receiving from Him all the love and bestowal that He stimulates in me now on top of the shame that I begin to feel.
First I was ashamed that I might be caught as if I have stolen something. Then it turned out that I am not a thief but that I have taken a gift that belongs to me, that the Host has given me out of His great love to me. This already provokes two types of feelings in me—Bina and Malchut.
The feeling of the Host is the beginning of Bina, without this the created being cannot exist. The feeling of Malchut is the same since I want to receive, but if I feel the love of the host and the shame inside Malchut I have to calculate how to raise Bina above Malchut.
But if I raise Bina above Malchut so I will not feel the shame and receive the pleasure, it is already a shell, since Bina begins to serve Malchut. On the other hand, if I use Malchut with its desire to enjoy together with the feeling of shame and want to fulfill the desire of Bina, Malchut rises to Bina bringing its Aviut (thickness) to Bina, the force of its desire. As a result, Bina expands and grows stronger. With the help of the force that helps Bina, the level of Moses develops, I try to reach the state of Keter, adhesion, and then I begin to correct Malchut.
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 9/11/13, Writings of Baal HaSulam