Question: If I see that my husband doesn’t appreciate me, do I have to put this feeling aside?

Answer: No, you shouldn’t extinguish the feeling, but try to rise above it. You establish such an attitude regarding your husband that is as if you are receiving absolute love from him.

Question: Should I share my feelings with him?

Answer: Yes, of course. Tell him, “According to my nature, egoistically, I feel that I am not getting enough love and care from you. You don’t care about me like you used to; you don’t bring me flowers; you don’t show that you care. We don’t live the way we used to when we were young, when we were happy together and used to spend more time together. Today, it is as if each one is sitting in his corner and my demands from you have grown to such an extent that it’s as if they are filling our whole mutual relations.

But I don’t want anything from you except for one thing: Instead of complaining to one another, let’s present the complaints to ourselves. Let’s see each other’s deficiencies as our own. Let’s do this psychological exercise.

This exercise will help each one see his partner as perfect and yourself as not so perfect. Then above all our flaws, we will try to treat each other like partners, this is the actual wholeness. Eventually, despite everything that’s going on, I will treat you only with love, like a mother treats her child according to the principle “Love covers all transgressions.”

I demand the same thing from my partner, since his attitude towards me will increase my attitude towards him. I also need a good and correct model from him so he has to treat our efforts in the work above the ego seriously. The better my partner’s example is, the higher and more important he will seem to me, and the more respect I will feel towards him. This will give me the power to repay him to the same extent.

On the one hand, I have to raise my partner in my eyes and to appreciate the model he portrays. After all, he overcomes his impulses, and at the exact same time I discover a “weakness” as my ego pulls me by the legs downwards and doesn’t allow me to rise above myself. On the other hand, I should always be responsible and be a model for my partner and thereby empower him. Thus we become models for each other. Each one tries to be both the other’s teacher and student at the same time; once he raises his head and once he lowers it. This mutual support is already the right equal mutual connection. Thereby our mutual interdependence is revealed.

We have to discover the benefit that we get time after time, the new system of our mutual relations that is based on mutual concessions and on each one overcoming himself. We rise to the level of mutual love by leaving the mutual complaints below, but we don’t destroy anything and don’t “sweep under the carpet” anything, but only build something new from the same blocks, the same inner urges that constantly increase the ego.

Therefore, we constantly feel mutually dependent. I have to constantly support my partner and be a model of overcoming, and I need the same thing from him. Thus we become true partners against our common ego, against our common enemy, which we call the “serpent.” By confronting it we begin to get closer to each other and this makes us one whole.
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Question: Why is it so important that the 99% of the population, in any case, reach integral unity? Is it possible to say that if they unite, then they will receive a form in which it will be possible to transfer the inner force from the 1%?

Answer: Absolutely correct. If people exist within the egoistic breakage, then it is impossible to transfer anything to them. Furthermore, we need to not only transfer this energy to them, this knowledge, but to draw them into the same state.

This means that 1% of the 100% of humanity does this actively, in connection with the upper force, in disclosure of the upper force within them.

And 99% of the inhabitants on the earth do this in a more passive way, by building integral relations, under the new integral conditions: “How can we, “squares,” “ triangles,” “rectangles,” transform into circles in harmony with the new world, to the new demands.

When they think about this and receive education and learning from the 1%, then gradually they turn into integral people. They begin to understand, in a natural way, what this new world is, and they discover the same upper force that the 1% discovered. The upper force operates and is revealed to them through the 1% of humanity, which constitute its “conductor.”

It isn’t some kind of artificial system, essentially, the same thing happening in our world. If we look at our world and dissect it as a pyramid, then we would see that only 1% operates it, creates, and dares. All the rest are the receivers. They participate physically, but actually they use the profits obtained from above, and only add to this their “fertilizer,” their strength.
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Question: In the process of the workshops, the practical work on integral upbringing is being implemented. While these workshops are conducted not only for the 1% of the population who are working on the correction of themselves and the world, but also for the 99%. Both of these groups hold discussions in circles of ten people. What is the difference in this work for these two groups?

Answer: The difference is that in the circle of Kabbalists, the intention is directed towards unity among each other. They long to create a common desire in this unity, which would summon the emergence of the governing force of Nature that is hidden from us.

However, when regular people gather into a circle, they focus on the emergence of a common desire among them in which they would see the solution of their earthly problems.

They have no incentive for contact with the upper force, the inner force of Nature, which moves, controls everything, and leads it forward, but they also lack such a relationship, understanding, and aspiration for this. That is, they consider nature as simply, nature, and since we have arrived in our development at such a state, then now we should simply find how to further arrange ourselves in order for everything to be normal, that’s it.

These people discuss among themselves all of their material problems: the upbringing of children, family, work, the disparity in income, social security, health insurance, and how we can settle all of that. They establish government, international, or even worldwide roundtables, where all of that is gradually being discussed and clarified: how we see the solutions of these problems, based on our unity. This is what they should lead to.

As they participate in unity events, they will begin to change. By exchanging their impressions about unity and becoming more imbued with unity, they will go further, and through the force of unity, they will gradually change all of our past egoistic structures.

But the Kabbalists will work on the attraction of the upper force and the manifestation of it in their unity. It will show and reveal the hidden levels of the world, and as a result, they will see what to do and how to solve everything in this world. However, the most important point for them is for the upper force to evidently fill them, give them their new states of bestowal, love and mind, that, which it possesses.
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First of all, we need integral education where, based on many facts, on the opinions of scientists, researchers, and political scientists, we describe and clearly show people where we really are.

A person doesn’t know anything about life outside of his work, soccer, beer, and all those things seem a matter of course. He cannot even imagine that if one day, suddenly the connection between us would break, then all of this wouldn’t exist: not what we see surrounding us, not what we have at home! That is, without international trade, political, cultural, or military exchanges, no matter at what levels, nothing would exist.

First, integral education speaks about the path we went through in evolution, and were locked into. And today we are not able to open up. On the contrary, the evolution continues; every day, nations and countries, and all kinds of civilizations are tied together tighter and tighter, and the only thing that we can do is to learn to exist in an integral way.

But it becomes evident that the countries don’t know how to do this. We see this in examples of the common market, international banks, etc. So what can be said about simple women’s and children’s organizations, and even educational institutions where everyone pulls the “blanket” to himself? It turns out that in these cultural and educational organizations it isn’t possible to come to something common. Each one pulls towards itself, and each one thinks it is greater, better, and that the others should listen to it.

And mostly important is that the system is moving forward and is closing, joining, and tightening in each of the cogwheels, even the smallest one. Thus, everyone depends on the other.

If today you approach a simple farmer from China, Russia, Europe, or American who grows rice or potatoes or produces milk or meat, etc., he would tell you that one needs to do this or that because in the world certain things take place: Argentina produces meat, China something else, and so on.

I often come across this. Not long ago I was in South and North America and spoke with people who are involved in agriculture. They have a huge awareness about what is happening in the world in this field and not only in their area, but in related fields.

Today, a farmer who grows, let’s say red peppers, knows all the scientific news that is relevant to the cultivation of red peppers and is fully aware of what is happening in the world in this field. It turns out that a person is constantly closed and completely dependent on others. He knows that if somewhere something happens or if his crop would be lost because no one needs it, then in the end, he himself will become poor.

This means that the general feeling of dependence reaches even the smallest farmsteads, and in the coming years it will reach even the ordinary people.
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Question: What exactly do you mean when you say that nature’s plan has changed? How can we explain to ordinary people what exactly has changed?

Answer: We must simply show a person some movies about the interconnection of the people in the world, so that he will have a clear picture of human connections on all levels—not on the scientific cultural levels, which are remote to ordinary people, but on the technological, industrial, and commercial levels—different forms of mutual guarantee.

First, we should show a person the need for connection on the level of basic necessities: He will not be able to take care of himself or his children if he is not well connected integrally with the world. If I depend on others, I have to be in good relations with others, if they feel good, I will feel good too. This means that we have to understand that there is no other way to exist.

So what’s the problem? Why can’t we exist the way we should? Why can’t we lower the exorbitant prices of goods, of transport, of connection? Why can’t we stop the allocation of half our budget to security if we are so closely connected? Why is health care so expensive that we have to sell extra pills? Why have we developed so many redundant and harmful things? Perhaps we have to shake off all this and reach a normal common denominator?!

We have to study nature, to focus all our efforts on that, and accordingly accept the laws of behavior of human society. We must spread the method of the integral society worldwide and thus gradually change our environment, so that it will influence every individual in society.

Our society has to be general, integral, and not divided by borders and nationalities, which actually don’t exist any more. It’s all only symbolic in the era of modern technology, with modern transportation etc. After all, whom do these borders protect, and who needs them? Who wants to conquer whom?! Today millions of immigrants move from place to place!

We have to arrange all this gradually and sensibly. Then in several decades, we will be able to build a totally egalitarian society. We have all the options, especially if we are free of all the unnecessary expenses.

We have to present this to people and gradually let them understand the importance and the need for our connection through TV series, theater plays, songs, teaching materials in schools, courses during work hours in different companies, etc. We have to take the social and the public relations work very seriously. This must simply be the obligation of every member in the group.

This obligation will of course be completed by the importance of the goal and publicity. All the important people and celebrities will have to show how involved and supportive they are by feeling that importance of facing nature’s call. It isn’t some political party or an individual who wants to climb to the top. No one intends to rule or to achieve anything, it’s simply us, the people on this planet who are facing this need.
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By “locking” us together, nature will gradually make this picture clearer. We won’t, of course, see that we are connected internally by our thoughts and desires like scientists say, but in general we will discover this by everything around us.

Everyone can see this picture quite clearly. It will bring us to a state in which we will be obliged to educate a person integrally so that he will be able to exist in our world. Having no choice, he will feel that he has to attain the wisdom of cooperating with the world, not willingly, but by feeling that he must as it is in everything that we do.

It will be basic knowledge, habits that will be acquired over a period of many years. I think that throughout a person’s lifetime, he will have to support and develop this because our society is quickly developing in this direction. In previous generations, society developed slowly and there were hardly any differences between one generation and another. Today, however, there is a huge gap between the generations because of this integral closeness.

This is why we are intensively developing the general, global, integral education system that will include courses for different cultures and for different ages.

Our branches in different countries around the world will gradually offer courses to prepare lecturers to give introductory lectures, teachers to teach the courses after these lectures, educators to give group workshops, and organizers to organize lectures, classes, and group workshops.

At the same time relevant literature will be published for the staff: teachers, educators, lecturers, and organizers. It will also be for people who come to the lecture and who can receive some of the material as introductory material. The special aids for the courses and the workshops all have to be organized too.
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Our main task over the next six months is to organize integral education and upbringing throughout the world, or at least, to begin the process of organization. At the beginning, it is essential for the developed countries of Europe and North America, not the developing countries of South America or China and all the Asian countries, namely for the developed countries that are already exposed to the global crisis. I think that in the near future, the crisis will be strongly manifested in Europe, and then will hit America like a boomerang.

As Europe is in crisis and everything there is in a deplorable state, then the dollar, as the funds are invested in the US economy, there is transferred some share of finance and the economy in general. That is why, the crisis is not demonstrated in the USA clearly; it is felt only by the fact that people live in debt, and positive interest might be seen. And when Europe ends this fall, this bubble will burst in the USA, and then it will be really bad.

By this time, we need not only to prepare people and the basic system of integral education and upbringing, but also widely disseminate information about it in the media, in society, and be prepared that then people will start listening to you.

Naturally, until then, human egoism is not ready to hear anything because it is much nicer to watch football than to listen to some courses and some transformation, development: where we have come to and why. While I can survive from today to tomorrow, I am not interested in your explanations. But when tomorrow I have neither football nor basic necessities, then it is a problem.

That is why we are preparing the basic system of integral education and upbringing.
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The integral method comes from Kabbalah, which explains everything based on the upper system controlling humanity. Everything that happens is explained by purely Kabbalistic, scientific, rigid, and clear terminology, with formulations, graphics, and so on. In other words, the egoism of a person and all of nature—the inanimate, vegetative, and animate nature, as well as the human society—develop under the influence of a particular force.

This force of development is the force that activates nature, which can be called the Creator because it creates and gives birth to our continuously new states and works within us. It is our inner energy, which moves our egoism.

In Kabbalah, all these actions, rules, and laws, the correlations between our egoism and the force that influences it, are scrutinized in a very clear and scientific manner. Various interconnections have been deduced and described from the earliest times, and over the course of millennia we can see how it truly works.

Every person engaged in Kabbalah begins to feel this system, to see it in a purely cerebral manner: all of our “wheels” interlocked, how everyone rotates, and how we need to change.

However, we cannot offer people this system, since not everyone can be physicists, chemists, and biologists; everyone has their own niche, their own predisposition to something. Therefore, we cannot teach people Kabbalah since, first of all they lack any interest in it, and second of all, it is not enough to just teach because a person needs to have some inner predisposition to it.

For example, what would happen if a physicist who has no desire or inner drive to dance suddenly begins to take dance classes? What will come out of this? Maybe he would be able to perform some dance somewhere, but he definitely will not become a ballet dancer. It is the same here. There is no point in teaching a person Kabbalah if he has no desire to learn about the system that governs the world, humanity, and all of nature.

It is a system, a hidden force of nature. It is hidden from us only because we are not on its level. Its level is the level of common integral interconnection where everything individual vanishes and becomes common and integral.

If we prepare people, they will begin to sense this. However, if they have no predisposition to it from the start, we prepare them with common integral courses. Of course we don’t tell them about this inner system; otherwise, they would think we are mystics or part of the New Age movement. By bringing them together and going through unity workshops with them, we prepare them to feel what happens as a result of unification, we lead them into feeling what happens when people unite. We tell them, “Just notice the new sensations and states that you experience with each other. There is some commonality that develops, new thoughts and desires that are not someone’s in particular, but which arise as a consequence of your communication, as a reward and result of your unification. This common force, a common thought unites you and all your individual aspirations to connect, and thus it is your next integral stage.”

And now on the integral stage (which we approach gradually, of course, to the extent that a person develops in the process of the workshops),”Let’s try to feel what this commonality, this force is. What if we try to view the whole world through it, and see that the world is integral? If I am integral now, how will this world appear to me?”

And then when I look at the world through the collective integral lenses, rather than through my egoistic glasses, I really begin to see that the world truly is an integral machine, an analog system, and everything in it is interconnected. Meanwhile, I only saw everything differently and that’s why I kept trying to “pull the blanket onto myself,” and by taking too much, I created such pressure that I needed to hold onto it with all my force so that I wouldn’t lose it. Therefore, my whole life was in total pressure of not losing this “blanket.”

But if I had looked at the world differently, I would have seen how simple it is to let go of my edge of the “blanket” if I interact with others. And no one tries to steal it from me, since everyone finds themselves covered under the same “blanket,” and no one lacks anything. However, when we see this system, let’s just all agree that we are ready to accept it. It will force us to reach integrality regardless, only by force, through pain and suffering, instead of through conscious realization.

This is how we advance with our esteemed audience, changing them gradually.
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Question: What’s the difference between the inner work of the 99% and the 1% of the population who have the aspiration to inner correction? What is the fundamental difference?

Answer: The difference is that the 99% of humanity lacks the opportunity to discover and realize the method of integral unification on their own. However, the 1% consists only of those who have an inner drive toward it, who wish to learn this method and reveal the integral system. These people are our students, representatives of all nations and races that are literally on every continent of the world.

To the extent that they realize the method of integral unification, they begin to understand that they are facing a tremendous task: to teach it to the whole world. And by that we don’t mean just talking about it in some books or articles. We must be educators, enlighteners, lecturers, and organizers. No one except us will be able to do this because we attain this system, feel it, observe it, and see it; thus, we can bring people to it and build up all of human society accordingly.

If we start inventing some new world laws now, we would encounter horrible resistance from nature. We practically didn’t feel the resistance from nature before. The present crisis is only the “first fruit.” It is true that the US experienced an economic crisis in the 1920’s, but it wasn’t so extreme.

The fact is that we are beginning to experience a counter force from nature. Two opposite systems are in combat: the egoistic linear system and the integral, round system of nature. These are completely different systems. Therefore, we will experience enormous blows and misfortunes constantly. No matter how much more we invest in our egoistic development, we will just exhaust ourselves, our efforts, our resources, and our opportunities until we simply degrade to a primitive level; it’s possible that we will come to this.

In general, from nature’s point of view, whatever path we take to reach integration is irrelevant; the most important thing is that we become similar to it. If we are ready to integrate only externally while our egoism remains in a primitive state, then we will become cavemen once again. It goes without saying that instead of seven billion people on the planet only seven million or even less will remain, for example, but from the side of nature it doesn’t matter. Most importantly, the law of equivalence to nature, the congruence of systems, should be followed. This flows out of our Kabbalistic research, which allows us to see this whole system.

I hope that we will be able to explain this to people before they resort to wars and conflicts because they are feeling helpless and unable to do anything. It doesn’t matter how many G8 or G20 meetings are held and so on, these meetings just resemble a palace of reception and nothing more. And gradually it can lead to horrible consequences.
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The problem in our life is that we are in a constant egoistic conflict between us as to who will “devour” the other, throw the other on his back, trample him, bite, steal, and so on. Subconsciously, we constantly are measuring ourselves this way in comparison to others, and so we have to make constant efforts to even falsely hold on to this feeling.

If we don’t feel ourselves as higher than others at least in something, we become depressed and feel powerless. We must revenge, destroy and lead the world to any kind of war if we see that we don’t succeed.

This means that the world is not important to us and neither are other people. All we need is our little, personal, individual, egoistic success. Everyone basically understands this, but it is for this reason that we naturally feel a constant inner tension. This is our biggest problem.

When we think about success, first of all, we think about how we have to trample someone on the way, step over someone who is in my way, and so forth. These may be people, organizations, inner personal problems or whatever, but I constantly have to overcome some obstacles.

It all stems from the fact that our movement forward is based only on an egoistic struggle, on conflicts with each other. This means that I am in a constant struggle by encountering another ego, anther opinion.

No one cares about justice. I just need to win, and all the rest can come later! If I need to change something in order to succeed, let’s say, my perspective, I am ready to do that since winning is now more important to me than changing my perspective. This means that there is an inner calculation, to put it bluntly, “switching a bull for a cow,” to what seems more important at present, but nothing more than that.
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