Question: There are many stories about men who lived, quiet, grim lives. Even though they have families, they are grim and remote. They never speak a kind word to anyone, but on their deathbeds, they turned to their wives and finally utter, “I love you.”  What can you say about this?

Answer: A person, before death, begins to sense something from the world of truth.

Question: So it is like something is illuminated for him?

Answer: Not only is his future illuminated, but he is freed from the egoism of the past. What is death? First of all, it is the death of our egoism. And whether he gains something after that is another question.

Question: So it is like a boundary between caring only for oneself and stepping into a completely different space? And there is a small truth there?

Answer: It is small, but that is where we begin to grasp it, and a new world opens.

Question: And is this “I love you” the truth?

Answer: Yes, that is where it begins. With the realization that until now you have not loved and what it means to truly love.

Question: So at that moment I feel that I have lived for myself, loved only myself?

Answer: Very much so!

Question: And what is in this final confession, cry, prayer?

Answer: A person realizes that his whole life in egoism was, essentially, wrong. But there are also people who say the opposite: “Drink, smoke, have fun, take everything you can from life.” I am serious. I have heard it: “Do not take anything into account! Fulfill your desires.”

Comment: That is quite a twist, suddenly from the romantic “I love you” to this…

My Response: It is not a romantic “I love you.” It is what a person truly feels. It is not the romantic “love–do not love” feeling.

Question: Is this really the truth shining through?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: And what you just said, the opposite…

My Response: That is also the truth, but the other side of it.

Question: What is behind “I love you”?

Answer: Depends on who says it.

Question: But in general, truthfully, what is behind the phrase “I love you”?

Answer: “I love you” means that I want to feel as though I have no self of my own and existence is only to fill you and rejoice in your fulfillment.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 8/4/25

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