Question: What attracts a person more: flattery or rejection?

Answer: Obviously flattery, indulging their egoism, praising, and admiring. This can be seen in the child’s behavior. Tell him something nice, stroke his head, give him something sweet and tasty and see how he will become attached to you, come to you, and smile. It is clear, such is our nature. Little animals, that is how we remain.

Question: But how to use it for correct development? There is a certain limit. After all, you can’t pamper and indulge him all the time.

Answer: If you have the right intention, for the benefit of a person, society, the goal, the Creator, then you can use it without any restrictions, and you will be understood correctly. Let’s say in a group we must behave in such a way that our friends feel our love, good attitude, openness, that we admire them, support them. And this is what we use.

Question: Suppose a person has done something good and he is starting to be praised. Is this the element you are talking about?

Answer: No, this is like a payment for accomplishments.

Question: But we are not supposed to work for a payment, are we?

Answer: Why? On the contrary. If you have done something good for society, then we are obliged to make sure that everyone knows about it. You have no right to hide that you did it for society because in this way you help others do good deeds too.

Question: How does it differ from boasting?

Answer: Everything is decided by intention. If I say to everyone: “Guys, I did such a thing today! I think it will help us all. Look how I was able to do it!”, then everyone around understands that I am not boasting. I tell them that I really did something good for them to be able to do it too, use it, and repeat it.

There is no intention on my part to elevate myself here. I do this only in order that others do the same because by looking at the good deeds of others, you get infected with them. It all depends on the common platform of relations: either everyone looks at each other as competitors or as partners.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. The Art of Seduction” 12/7/13

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