Question: Why is it better and more successful to see the merits of a friend within reason and not above reason?
Answer: Because, in general, it is true. You are trying to raise them above reason in order to artificially rise above your egoism. But then you still come to a state when you reveal everything within reason.
However, we work only above reason at first because we have nothing but egoism. Therefore, we try to jump above it, rise above it, and look at the world with non-egoistic eyes.
From the International Convention “Rising Above Ourselves” 1/7/22, “Adhering to the Friends” Lesson 3