From My Facebook Page Michael Laitman 12/2/21
Some memories never dim. About sixty years ago, I had a row with a girl with whom I had a relationship. At one point, I became so angry that I brought my fist right up to her face and threatened to punch her. In response, she kissed my fist. It blew me away. I didn’t know what to say. Her gesture gave me an example I will never forget of how to teach by example.
There is no way to nurture love other than to show it. My teacher, RABASH, would say that love is like a pet: You must constantly feed it if you want it to grow.
Infatuation is not love; it is attraction. Love is what you feel after the infatuation is over, provided you nurture it. Especially, it is the result of showing it even when we feel the opposite. We feed it by saying it, by showing it, by showing others how we feel about our loved one, whether we feel it at that moment or not.
I am not talking about love for our children; this is natural love. Think about your partner. How often do you tell your partner that you love him or her? It needs to be said openly, verbally, with sound, so everyone can hear it.
And most important, it is not our partner who needs our love, it is we who need our love for our partner. Through our efforts to show love, we change ourselves for the better and set an example that makes our partner want to do the same, just like that girl did to me so many years ago.