Answer: If we judge according to what our Kabbalist sages said, we see that there are only two actions we can perform.
First, the friends should not stop talking between them and should at least remain on the level of verbal connections. They should try to understand and support each other and know that all the guidance they receive stems from the Creator. We should not sink to the level to where we are thrown out from the spiritual action and believe that everything that we see is actually true and not that it is only the Creator who arranges things this way for the sake of correction.
Second, we need to work on ourselves together, as each one tries to help the friend, no matter how and by what. It is because I cannot get out of this swamp by pulling myself out by my own hair.
In principle, this is how the ten works by turning to the Creator. We need to do the same thing that Kabbalists did 2,000 years ago.
If we begin to engage in this seriously, soon we will feel how it affects us positively and we will gradually understand and feel the work of the upper light on us, not in our current feeling, but in our current understanding. Additional emotions and insights will appear in us, both integral and global. The emotions from the Creator and from the ten will dwell in us and we will begin to see the world differently.
As it says: “I have seen an opposite world,” a world that operates according to different laws and rules in which opposites support each other, a world in which hate generates love that is actually supported and sustained by hate.
Baal HaSulam tells us in his articles that it is actually thanks to the fact that we are all different, that we can attain high levels of development, yet at the same time, we must not kill or annul anything, because the greater the diversity of views in the society, the more it can attain higher levels of development.
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 2/6/19