Answer: We learn this gradually. There are no deceptions here because we are dealing with the force that creates and shapes us. Therefore, a person must thoroughly examine himself and understand that he is an absolute egoist. Then he will continue to discover himself more and more.
There is no other way. He has to keep going forward until he reaches the first degree of correction. Then it will become easier for him because he will develop his own understanding of how it happens.
From KabTV’s Lesson in Russian 11/27/16