Answer: Outside of us means in the quality of bestowal.
We have to acquire the Creator’s property, which is precisely the quality of bestowal. We do not know what it is—we will understand that only when we attain it.
The spiritual world, the Creator’s property, the quality of bestowal, a way out of oneself, all of this is still closed to us.
Question: But on the other hand, every person has a point in the heart. So, there is a spiritual record, the Creator’s spark in the form of this point and consequently, some understanding of what bestowal is?
Answer: A point in the heart really exists. But this is just a point! What do we understand about it, what can we feel in it? This is a black point opposite to the spiritual state that has reached a minimum size, turning into a point after the shattering.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 11/20/16