Answer: All of these people are your desires. If you relate to a person that way, he will begin to feel that you are his relative, that you are connected to him. This leads to a connection between you that ties him to your system in a way that he doesn’t understand. Try to treat a person that way and you will see how you neutralize all the actions, thoughts, and plans that he may have against you.
Question: What does it mean to relate to others as to my own desires?
Answer: It is just as you relate to your own desires, which may be very unpleasant, cause you suffering, and you don’t like them, but you are forced to live with them. This is exactly how you should relate to other people. You perceive them as strangers in order to overcome this perception to connect with them as one man in one heart so that the physical body will not be a barrier between you.
This means that your approach should be that you want to feel others as part of you. This is exactly how we should see the world. The more you yearn for connection, the more you begin to feel help from inside you as if something changes. This is the action of the Light. You don’t feel the ray of Light, but you feel the changes. As it is written, “By Your actions we know You.” You must pray and demand that your desires should connect into one desire even though your desires are basically different.
Every part in Malchut is different from the other parts, and the shattering emphasizes this. Therefore, when the shattered parts that are detached from one another connect, they reach an intensity that is 620 times stronger. The detachment that they felt before intensifies the desire now, and so we return to the state of one man in one heart, and the intensity of the hatred between us strengthens the connection between us.
Suppose you live in New York and I live in Israel. Everything would be fine, and we would be good friends until we got closer and began to live together in one room. How difficult would it be to remain good friends now when we live together and feel the constant frictions between us?
The distance that concealed the differences between us before must become the connection between us now. This is our work. The hatred—Mt. Sinai, Pharaoh—is between us, and we turn them into a connection that is 620 times stronger than the connection we felt before.
It isn’t about the connection itself, but about knowing the Creator. The Light that penetrated the desires, like sea water that filled the valleys between mountains and created fiords, caused the detachment and the hatred. The Light has come, but we received it in order to receive and so it increased our vessels by 620 times and brought hatred and detachment with it, filling all the gaps between the desires that weren’t felt before.
The Light gives us the feeling of detachment in all our desires. I don’t agree with you in any way, and my opinion is opposite from yours regarding any matter, and it is the same with everyone else. Now, we can correct this hate. Hatred is the posterior of the Light; it isn’t a vessel. If I work with this hate and turn it into love, I discover what the Light is, its property, and what it means. This is how I discover the Creator.
The desire to receive was created in a way that cannot be changed. All of our work is with the posterior of the Light with the shattering that it has caused. When I discover my egoism, the hatred, the rejections, that belong to spirituality; I discover the posterior of the Light, its oppositeness. Instead of the Light, I discover Orta (darkness, night).
This is how I acquire the attribute of the Light by myself and become a person of the Light. The Light penetrated the desire to receive during the shattering. The Light is the same, but we feel it as darkness, detachment, and hatred.
From the 2nd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 3/31/14, The Zohar