Answer: The most important thing is to be detached from yourself and try to adhere emotionally and mentally to the Elyon (Upper One). I want to see myself as the Creator sees me.
Why do we love little children? It is because they behave honestly and naturally, without hypocrisy. A child wants something, he grabs it. With him, everything is simple and open, in other words, within one layer of behavior: As he feels fulfillment from nature, that is how he acts. Adults make all kinds of calculations, so they cannot tolerate themselves or others.
However, when we look at a child, we immediately see what motivates him and what directs him. We see his character. After all, he behaves very simply and in the present. This is one-dimensional behavior, behind which nothing is hidden. That is how we must look at ourselves from the point of view of the Creator and how He created me, fulfills me, and changes the Reshimot (Reminiscences) in me at every moment, thanks to which I constantly discover myself in a new situation and in a changing world.
The Reshimo defines who I am inside and how I receive the world. I must constantly realize the Reshimo as if “There is none else besides Him,” the good and that does good. In relation to my inner state, the outer world, and in relation to everything, the unity of the higher providence is revealed.
If I try to look at everything that is happening through the eyes of the Creator as much as is possible, then thanks to this, I begin to learn and become like Him, like a child imitating an adult. Apparently, the child receives no benefit from this, but in spite of it all, he wants to be like the adult. This is also how we grow.
The main thing is to divide the two layers of the skin: that which is connected to the flesh and the outer layer. We then acquire a more objective view of ourselves from the side.
All advice is derived from here: accepting the opinion of the environment, the opinion of the group, instead of my own opinion, and adhering to a friend and making my desire like his desire. In forma like this, we gradually begin to separate from ourselves and see ourselves from the side.
I ask the Light to influence me and give me understanding, feeling, and recognition of the need to do something with myself. I also want to change.
A beast adheres to the Reshimot that arise within him and realizes them without any external request. This is called instinctive, natural behavior on the level of the still, vegetative, and animate.
If I want to get away from this behavior and look at what is happening to me from the side, I begin to examine my behavior and change it. Here, I need the Light that Reforms; I need the group. This is the point from which I begin to develop on the level of Adam (Man/human), the first point from which Adam begins to grow in me above the instinctive, beastly behavior.
It could be that I continue to act under the influence of my instincts because I have no possibility of being released from them. However, I constantly try to see myself from the side, like a person who walks next to a dog and holds him by a leash.
In the meantime, we see that the beast manages the person. However, he consciously lets his donkey do this so that, in the meantime, he can teach it. When we train a wild animal, first of all, we do what it wants so that it will get used to the person next to it, and after that, we are able to mount it and gradually begin to ride it.
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 5/4/14, Writings of Rabash