Question: There is a reception where people appreciate our investment in others, our helping someone, and being loved for that. Is it worthwhile to use this as a technique in the family so that the children will invest in the family more, in the mother and in the father, so that they will value them more, or doesn’t this work with adolescents?
Answer: This doesn’t work because a young person should be directed forward in his life, in his future family, his future children, but not in his parents.
Don’t obstruct the children, don’t pull them back; they will not develop. People like these, in general, are so deeply into their parents that they won’t live their lives without their mother, and as long as she is alive, the child lives with them. They may be fifty years old already and still living with their mother.
You cannot do this. This is a very big ego. On the contrary, you need to educate and develop independence in children.
From KabTV’s “Conversations with Michael Laitman” 12/11/13