Question: What should we do about friends who don’t come to the lesson and who don’t want to disseminate?
Answer: When I just started studying the wisdom of Kabbalah and began to read the articles “The Giving of the Torah,” and “The Mutual Guarantee” calls for unity, like “love thy friend as thyself” etc., didn’t impress me at all, since it reminded me of the times of the old Soviet Union. Humanity has been through everything, Communism, Socialism, and Kibbutzim and has realized that there is nothing in these ideals.
This is how things had to be historically, so that we will begin to establish a new approach: On the one hand, we should feel repulsed by the unsuccessful past and on the other hand, reexamine it.
Now such criticism of the past should already be done through the group, through the wisdom of Kabbalah, through workshops, so that we will find out that there is a wonderful special attribute in the unity and connection between people.
Friends who can’t hear that yet, who are repulsed by our dissemination and our unity in the group but who want to come and study the wisdom of Kabbalah should come and study. First they will participate in the work in the group formally, and help out somehow, do something, and gradually they will be incorporated in it.
The main thing is that they shouldn’t cause any harm and that they shouldn’t force their opinions on everyone else. It is because our group works exactly according to the method of Baal HaSulam and everything connected to his study is holy and no one can counter it.
If at the moment a friend cannot understand to what extent the calls for unity and connection are necessary for spiritual attainment, he should sit quietly and listen, or leave the group.
We understand that a person develops slowly, it will take a while until gradually, under the influence of the Surrounding Light, he will begin to change his perception and the feeling in his heart and mind. But he shouldn’t resist or interfere with the advancement of others. He hasn’t matured enough and hasn’t ripened yet.
We cannot force people to participate in the group connection and in dissemination with all their heart and soul, although both Baal HaSulam and Rabash speak about this. A person may not feel this awakening yet, and it may come even after 10 or 15 years; this is how people develop.
From the Talk about Group and Dissemination 10/22/13