The Torah, “Exodus,” 21:20 – 21:21: And should a man strike his manservant or his maidservant with a rod, and [that one] dies under his hand, he shall surely be avenged. But if he survives for a day or for two days, he shall not be avenged, because he is his property.
We understand what is said here in the framework of our world from an ethical, moral, democratic or any other possible point of view. In the spiritual work the desire is called a “slave” that is already under my domination and with which I can already work in order to bestow. But in that case we see that we are coping with a situation in which, for different reasons, the desire doesn’t really obey his master. Then the attribute of Din appears, which means that we have to use force.
If I use force, if I control it by using my intention, then it’s fine. But if I use the measure of Din excessively without the measure of mercy to balance the two, then I have to clarify what actually happens and whether it causes “death.” In that case it’s an improper behavior.
“Death” means that I cannot use this desire anymore. A “slave,” “man,” “woman,” “children,” and “friends,” are all desires that accompany my original desire. So a “slave” is a desire over which I have a Masach (screen).
If I manage to use this desire in order to perform a certain action and it is not annulled, it doesn’t disappear after the direct blow, but rather disappears after using it as a result of my correction, it means that it doesn’t disappear because I have killed it, thus it cannot be used anymore, but because I have already used it, it’s already dead and gone. But if it’s gone directly as a result of using the measure of Din, it means that I have not used it correctly.
In other words, if I use my desire by using force and then it disappears, it means that I kill it. This means that my actions are wrong because I have used too much force.
But if this desire is still fulfilled at least in one action and only then disappears as a result of my pressure, it’s a sign that it was the right thing to do. So we have to examine our internal work with our desires: what level they are on, and how we use them.
Eventually, all the desires have to rise in me again and I have to fully use them with the intention of in order to bestow. They don’t have to disappear, but rather to appear to their fullest and fully operate in me.
From KabTV’s “Secrets of the Eternal Book” 4/29/13