Answer: First I need to work though all of my original qualities in the group: hatred of my friends, rejection, care for myself, envy, ambition, and all the other problems. All these qualities must become more distinct and obvious so it would become clear to me that I am deep in my egoism. I must recognize my evil. But this entire evaluation happens precisely when I aspire towards goodness.
I must aspire to reveal the love my friends feel towards me so it would soften my heart and give me the desire to search for connections in a material form. Then I will begin to feel like a passionate and powerful energy that is not of this world but becomes revealed inside a more inner connection with my friends—an unusual power and warmth, a special connection.
And this connection does not depend on us, on what we are doing now, and where we are with our feelings and mind at the given moment. This is something that is always present and connects us, and which absolutely does not depend on us. There are certain invisible iron rods, which connect us all.
Due to the fact that I feel this connection between all the hearts, I reveal our belonging to one another. This necessary feeling is there to begin to develop a certain resistance against our narrow egoism.
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 9/3/12, Shamati #38