Question: How can a person choose bestowal instead of reception?
Answer: First of all, this requires preparation on his part. He has to desire for this to happen. Even if he will get knocked off track later on because the Creator will increase his egoistic desire and alien thoughts, the preparation he made will still do its job.
Secondly, one must set apart a time for studying and doing things related to bestowal. This will also give him forces to return to the path.
Thirdly, a person must motivate the environment to bestow and reach mutual guarantee so that not a single one of the friends would stop thinking about it, but will always aspire to ascend above reason and egoism. The constant, common thought of the group is the surest guarantee there can be.
It is written: “Do everything that is in your power.” At the end of the day, our common efforts awaken the Light that Reforms. A person has to understand that it is necessary to obligate the Creator to give him Light. The Creator constantly increases his egoistic desire, and only at times does He awaken a person with the bestowing desire, the Light, in order to ignite his inner spark which he has to bring into the group. However, this can only happen several times and we shouldn’t wait for it to happen because this kind of awakening is linked to a very unpleasant calculation.
That’s because the Creator cannot give you a bestowing desire “for free.” Therefore, if you are waiting out for it, you will have to experience suffering and pay back for the support in full. On the other hand, you can ask for it ahead of time according to the principle, “Turn to Me and I will give it to you.” You can ask the Creator for the forces of bestowal and then pay for them.
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 1/4/11, Writings of Rabash