Question: How can the women unite their desires in order to “pressure” the men?

Answer: Don’t pressure the men openly. Do you want them to run away from you? Indeed, at home a wife “pressures” her husband quietly, without words, and he does everything that’s needed. Women have it by nature.

And men have this “weakness”: They want to be heroes in the women’s eyes. It gives a woman power to play with this male weakness and direct a man correctly so that he will fulfill her desires. These things are natural and well-known to psychologists.

We are adults and understand our nature well. We have the goal that is above our nature, and we only need to learn how to use all the qualities instilled in us correctly.

If I can advance toward the goal thanks to my wife who encourages me in every possible way, praises me for waking up every morning for the lesson, and is proud of my spiritual achievements, it will definitely help me on the path! After all, a man is like a little boy next to his mother.

The women have to unite their desires for spirituality into one, big, strong desire and pressure “one,” “big,” “aggregate” man. We, the men, hope that we will feel your desire!
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From Lesson 3, WE! Convention 4/2/2011

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Question: When we try to unite, do the points in the hearts of the women unite between themselves, while the points in the hearts of the men also unite together, or is it not important?

Answer: All the souls connect together because all of us are the single soul. In his articles, Baal HaSulam explains that there is only one soul in the world, which consists of male and female parts. And both of these parts create between themselves the connection that warrants the conception of life.

In our world a man and a woman together give birth to their continuation: sons and daughters. In the spiritual world, by connecting together, we beget our new degree that is also called a “son” or a “daughter.” It turns out that the Creator is between us, as it is said: “Husband and wife and the Shechina between them.” As a result, the three unite and become one whole—and this is our next degree.

Hence, the women face the same task as the men, and even more so because a woman has a Hissaron (unfulfilled desire). She obligates a man to advance, to leave the house and earn a living, to support the family, and be responsible. The same happens in spirituality.

Therefore, we, the men, are very hopeful that the women will take upon themselves the responsibility for our spiritual progress, be more active, and pressure us even more. It’s because the desire comes from the female part, whereas the men realize it. However, without the female desire the men cannot carry it out.

This is why the women have to unite their forces so as to demand from the men that they truly unite between themselves, which will bring the Light to the female desire. Hence, we have to work together.
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From Lesson 2, WE! Convention 4/2/2011

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Question: Should women put pressure on the men the way a mother pressures a child so the men would work on unity?

Answer: You should treat the men like children – with love! But if they don’t unite, then there’s no doubt that you should pressure them. It is written that “We came out of Egypt by virtue of righteous women” where “coming out of Egypt” means transitioning from this world into the spiritual world, and it happens only by virtue of the women.

We study that the ascent of MAN happens from Malchut and all the desires are in Malchut. Therefore, everything starts from women. If not for their desire, there would be no family and no new generation to follow.

The driving force of humanity is the force of the woman, who desires to give birth and to continue life. A man brings the executive force, but only on the condition that there is a need for it. That is how nature is built.

Consequently, the most important thing that we need is the women’s feeling of necessity. When new students came to Rabash, he immediately organized a women’s group that was made up of their wives. These women gathered together once a week, read an article, and discussed it. Rabash cared very much about how they understood what is written and about what is happening with them.

There definitely has to be a strong women’s organization that is able to demand from the men the execution of what they need in spirituality. However, the women shouldn’t do this by screaming, but through the need of the heart. Then the men will feel it. But this is not happening yet.

That is to say, by nature women do not know how and are unable to unite with each other. Every woman is separate. But in order to put pressure on the men, and only for the sake of this, they are able to unite in order to become one enormous need. And this need is essential for us.
From the 2nd lesson at the WE! Convention, 4/1/11

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The creature descends from the perfection of the world of Infinity into our world and, before reaching it, begins to divide into two parts: male and female. These two parts, which previously existed in total harmony, try to preserve their mutual connection. But at the last moment, when their connection breaks, they split into two. It triggers the creation of the system of the impure worlds that distanced the male part from the female one.

As they were infinitely unified in the world of Infinity, so they became infinitely withdrawn from each other in the impure worlds. That is where they fell into our world from, the world where the male and female parts are fully separated from each other and exist at a minimal degree of connection, in order sustain the existence in the still, vegetative, and animate forms of matter, as well as at the “speaking” level.

The force of connection manifests in them not as cooperation and reciprocity but as their consumption of each other. Hence, their state is totally opposite to the spiritual world.

The wisdom of Kabbalah states that our world came into existence with the creation of the perfect creature, Adam, that divided into two parts. They separated and severed the contact with one another, yet still preserved some connection and interdependence. This begot the life in our world, the life full of suffering.

Being disconnected from the spiritual world, we have to come to the realization that only our internal, spiritual unification will create a place for the revelation of the Creator. And then it will be called: “Husband and wife, and the Shechina between them.”

The unification and mutual inclusion of multiple male and female parts complimenting each other will result in the revelation of the Creator within them, which is their mutual, perfect part where the upper Light unfolds.
From the Introductory Lesson Series 3/8/2011, “Reaching a Balance”

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Question: Why does society have a dismissive attitude to women? Why do men consider women beneath them?

Answer: This attitude results from the fact that a woman cannot attain spirituality on her own. She depends on a man for this.

Our common soul consists of the male and female parts where the female part, Nukva, is the desire for fulfillment. In our world this is expressed through the fact that a woman needs a home, that she has to give birth to children and take care of them. Her children encompass her entire life. That is why she depends on society to a greater extent than a man. She needs stability and confidence in tomorrow.

In other words, a woman feels more unsatisfied and this is a premise for her spiritual development, although it is perceived as weakness in our egoistic world. In spiritual motion everything is opposite because the greater the desire, the more a person advances. We, the creatures, depend only on desire. And if this desire is oriented the right way, then this is the key to success.

Therefore, unless the men absorb the women’s desire, they will not be able to advance toward spirituality.
From the lesson on 3/5/11, Writings of Rabash

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Question: If a person is not used to the scientific approach, will it be difficult for him to study the science of Kabbalah and The Book of Zohar?

Answer: This makes no difference! Kabbalah is a means every person can use. Any housewife living anywhere at the end of the world will also have to use this science to some extent in order to reveal the root of her soul.

After all, today she also uses this world in some way in order to provide the necessities of existence for herself, to raise her children, and to live. Even for regular family life she needs some kind of connection with the world, and therefore, she has to know how the world is built at least on the simplest level.

In the same way, she will have to reveal the spiritual life. She has no other choice! She will have to cancel herself in some respect in order to acquire this life. She will have to receive the Light of correction and enter the study system. Not one person will be able to avoid this.
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From the 2nd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 3/15/11, The Zohar

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Question: In the modern chauvinistic society men are typically judged by how wealthy or smart they are, and women are judged by beauty. Which criteria will the society apply when it develops?

Answer: If society will begin to value the spiritual goal, whether it’s out of hopelessness from being in a bad state or due to a timely realization of evil while in a good state, we will see ourselves and others as friends and partners on the path to the goal.

Now I judge every person, object, and state based on how much it can benefit my egoistic existence. Similarly in the future, I will judge everything in our world from the still to the human levels based on how it effects my advancement toward the goal.

If a beauty queen happens to be the most helpful in achieving the goal, I’ll marry her. But if a sales girl from the market happens to be the most helpful, I’ll marry her instead. Everything is determined by the goal.

We have an example of how the Jewish nation conducted itself before the destruction of the Temple, and in the orthodox forms almost until today. Wealth was never an object of respect. A young man was always judged by his knowledge. The one who knew more pages of the Torah by heart was better, and there where no other criteria for judging a person throughout all of history. Girls were judged based on the families they came from and their upbringing.

When it came to choosing a partner, parents made the decisions, not hormones after a chance meeting at a party. Why so? This is in accordance with the spiritual law. From Atik, there comes the Light that prompts Malchut of the world of Atzilut to unite with Zeir Anpin. In other words, the decision comes from above.

It is said that the Creator brings a couple together. And in our world, it’s the parents of the young couple that decide what’s best for them.

It has always been done in this fashion in order to neutralize the influence of external beauty. As Rabash used to say, two people should meet, talk, and make sure that they don’t disgust each other. If they don’t repel one another, this is all that’s needed. Everything else is built on mutual compromises. Then, there will surely be love between them.

Actually, the tradition of parents doing the matchmaking is common among all nations. The young were not asked, the parents used to bring them together.
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From the 4th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 3/8/2011 on Women

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To influence the men in a wholesome and powerful way, the women must also unite, but they should unite with an understanding of the principles of our work and what exactly to demand from the men. To do so, they must know what the Light is that the men need to draw and what it has to beget.

A woman in spirituality is a force even greater than a man. A man is just a force, a screen, whereas a woman is the place where all kinds of changes occur. She begets a new rung and nourishes it. Conception, nurturing, and maturing to adulthood, all of it lies within the female’s part of the collective or individual soul.

As regards a man, he only delivers the Light. It is said that he “provides the whitening,” and that completes his role, as it were. After that, he resides within a mother and through her, supplies the forces to develop the souls.

As regards the offspring, everything comes from the mother, the female part. All spiritual growth goes through a woman, and it is the female part that begets souls. The same is mentioned in the Torah. For example, “Abraham” and “Sarah” are two parts of the soul who beget a new soul, and their more advanced state is regarded as “Isaac.” Who gives birth to him? Obviously, it is Sarah.

We must function as nature dictates. Having aligned ourselves with the material nature, we will move on from it to the spiritual one, thanks to which we will accomplish what we set out to do without harming ourselves.

Vice versa, the more harm we inflict by indulging our egoism, the more we will scream about the “equality” that in reality ruins families and society, and the fewer our chances will become. Some politicians may benefit from it, but it won’t be us.
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From the 4th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 3/6/11 on Women

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Question: How should women support the unification among the men?

Answer: This is a very powerful and important action from the women’s end. They can motivate the men to advance spiritually, to unite, to study, and to disseminate.

In the same way, in the spiritual world, Zeir Anpin starts moving and acting only when Malchut, the female part, motivates him to do so by raising MAN to him and demanding correction.

A man will not awaken without a woman and her desire—both at home and in the group. Therefore, the female part has to wake up and awaken the male part because otherwise the men won’t attain the goal.

We turn to all the women of the world Kli, asking them to unite together and put pressure on the men in different ways. Then the men will feel that they have to advance and that they cannot calm down.
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From the talk on women on 3/8/11

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Question: If the world was ruled by women, would it be better?

Answer: The world cannot be ruled by women. By nature a woman has to be in the possession of her father or husband. That’s because according to her spiritual root, she is Malchut, which can only act by virtue of what her husband gives her. She does not have anything of her own.

That is a woman’s role: By inspiring a man to do spiritual work, she receives Light from him. We have to understand that there is nothing belittling about this. A woman is not lower than a man, but on the contrary, without her desire, the world would stop moving forward. There would be no correction and we would not attain unity with the Creator. We unite with Him precisely by virtue of the female desire. That is how we realize the male force.

We shouldn’t look at the differences or search for the advantages one has over the other. We shouldn’t judge it egoistically. On the contrary, our approach should be altruistic: How to connect men and women in order to reach the goal. After all, the goal cannot be reached without perfect unity between them.

When each one bestows to the maximum, then they are both equal. If a woman gives all of herself and a man gives all of himself, that means equality reigns between them and they advance toward the Creator.

But does each of them do the same thing? Of course not. Opposite things come from them, but that means they are equal.

It’s a different matter in our world where both men and women are presented with the same demands. Is such a thing possible? This problem is yet to be expressed through a very powerful cataclysm because we thereby destroy the foundation of our being.
From the 4th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 3/7/11 on Women

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