Then You Get Love Instead of Hate
Question: How can we manage stress?
Answer: We need to understand that the convergence of plus and minus at all levels in all circumstances is necessary and should take place, and we need to learn how to do this.
Question: How do we do this?
Answer: It is very simple. Build love over all manifestations of hatred. It is the same principle. There must be hatred, rejection, anything negative, and above it, undoubtedly, plus.
Question: How can you attract this plus to yourself?
Answer: This is what the science of Kabbalah teaches—how to get a plus from a minus in order to let a minus and a plus remain, for them to exist complementing each other. In Kabbalah, this is explained as the correlation of darkness and light.
Question: But how can I attract love? I do hate, and my hate strongly.
Answer: This must be achieved through education; when a person realizes there is no plus without a minus or a minus without a plus, and their correct combination creates life.
When a person realizes this, he becomes calm, reasonable, follows the middle line, and builds himself and the world.
Question: Let us say I hate. What are my actions?
Answer: You should realize that everything comes from the upper force and is given to us to balance all negative qualities, properties, and circumstances with positive ones. All this can happen only in our consciousness. When we realize this, we begin to treat everything with kindness, not denying anything, but accepting everything as an absolute necessity.
Question: Is this hatred necessary?
Answer: It is necessary for us to rise above it, and to exist above it and in it. Then we will balance these two forces of creation—plus and minus.
Comment: That is the whole difficulty: above it, somehow, somewhere it may be possible, perhaps…
My Response: No, it will only be possible egoistically, but in order to exist with it, we must rise above it and balance out all negative properties by adhering to the Creator.
Question: It is not easy. Can you give me a simple formula for overcoming hatred?
Answer: The formula is that a minus equals a plus. That is all. Where there is a minus, you should see a plus.
Question: Is what I hate now a minus?
Answer: It is a minus until you realize that it is also a plus.
Question: So is it good that I hate?
Answer: Yes, but why are you given this? So that you can turn it into a plus. You have to change your attitude to the world. But how? It is very simple. Replace egoism with altruism, hatred with love. And everything will be fine.
Question: So I hate this person, but I say to myself: “This is given to me so I can love him?”
Answer: You are simply given the opposite properties. Replace them with the opposite ones and you will get a wonderful world.
Question: Is it within my power?
Answer: It is not in your power to transform, to accomplish, but it is in your power to beg the Creator to make it so. That is, to reach a state where you really crave it.
Question: Is that why hatred comes? So that I can plead that I passionately want to replace it with love?
Answer: Yes. Then you will realize this was not the reason at all, but so that you establish contact with the Creator. That is all.
Question: I see. It is He who calls us to turn to Him.
Answer: Otherwise, we would not have turned in His direction.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 7/14/25
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