The Main Reason for Divorces
Question: I read a story about a Korean woman who was flying from Seoul to California with her four-month-old baby. Before the flight, she handed out 200 small bags to all the passengers.
In the bags were earplugs, sweets, and a note: “Hello, I am Joon Woo, I am four months old, and I am flying to America with my mom and grandma. This is my first flight, and I might cry. My mom prepared candies and earplugs for you. Please use them if it gets too noisy because of me. Please do not be upset with me. Sorry, and thank you.”
As a result, this boy, Joon Woo, behaved wonderfully and slept for all 10 hours.
What do you think of the mother’s attitude, the Korean woman’s, toward others?
Answer: This is certainly commendable.
Question: Please tell me, what plays a bigger role here: a national trait or upbringing?
Answer: I think it is more of a national trait. I don’t know them well enough, but it seems to me that they have this characteristic—not to disturb others.
Question: Can this be nurtured in a person, and should it be?
Answer: It can be nurtured, and it should be. But who will take on this task?
Question: So, here you have this question here: “But who are the judges?” Meaning, “Who are the teachers?”
Answer: Yes.
Question: So the teachers must fully embody this quality in order to nurture it.
Why is it that some people are uncomfortable disturbing others while others say the opposite: “Why are you bothering me?” Why does this happen?
Answer: It depends on upbringing. It depends on how much each of us is willing to look at the world through different eyes.
Question: Through the eyes of not wanting to disturb others. Am I instead always looking through the eyes of being disturbed?
Answer: Of course.
Question: Is this how most of the world is? “I’m being disturbed.”
Answer: The natural world is the one that looks from its egoism.
Question: If we consider the cause of divorces using the example of this Korean woman, could we say that if we care about making others comfortable with us, there would be no divorce?
Answer: Yes.
Question: So what is the root cause of divorces?
Answer: Only that we do not understand each other.
Comment: That is, I feel uncomfortable with you, and I start to…
My Response: Yes. I cannot put myself in your shoes.
Question: If I may ask, what is the cause of wars, using the example of this Korean woman? If one country cares about making it comfortable for another country to live with it, there would be no wars. Such fantastic scenarios…
But in what case does a war occur?
Answer: When one side refuses to understand the other side.
Question: Will this ever end? Can we be educated like this Korean woman and gradually…
Answer: I hope so. But this requires very serious investments in people.
Question: In education? Do you mean purely financial or spiritual investments as well?
Answer: Serious investments of effort and money. Of everything possible.
Question: Will anyone ever decide to do this?
Answer: I think so, because eventually there will be no other choice. It seems to me that we are currently in a transitional state where this might happen. People need to be given such an education that they will feel the need to change themselves.
Question: Tell me, will this happen? You say that we might be approaching this. Will it happen because of pain, suffering, or through understanding, from some light ahead?
Answer: Through pain and suffering.
Comment: You still believe that…
My Response: I believe… I am a materialist.
Question: A materialist. So through blows, essentially?
Answer: Yes, only through blows!
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 7/15/24
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