Question: Marina writes: “We are immigrants. We left the country recently. And everything seems to be fine. My husband works and I study. But we can’t get used to our new life in any way. We dream all about our life where we grew up and became adults, where we were happy, met, got married, and had children. But we understand that all this happiness will never return. We harass each other when we remember how good it was for us, and we can’t stop. My question is: how do we break away from the past and start a new life? How do we do it?”

Answer: It seems to me that this is a psychological problem, not any other. There are people who have moved from one country to another and the next day they are already walking the streets and feel free.

And there are people who even after 30 or 40 years feel that they are still new immigrants. There’s nothing you can do. It is psychology. It is probably necessary to involve doctors, scientists, and psychologists who could fix this problem.

Question: Do you think it is necessary to love this country where you have moved to? Do I need to accept it slowly with my heart?

Answer: This is a must! And forcibly fall in love! Because there they put into you a forced love for the former country. And here you have to do it yourself.

Question: But do I have to start entering the country and learning the language?

Answer: It is necessary even to do it in advance if there is time. I studied the history and geography of Israel. I knew and understood a lot of things. I even knew the language a little. I had no problem going to town and buying something or asking for something.

Question: Tell me, please, you keep saying that you can’t turn back to the past, that you need to cut it off and not look back to the past. How is this done?

Answer: I think it is just a belief, a self-persuasion, that I have no connection with the past. The past falls off, is cut off, disappears, vanishes, and melts like a haze.

Question: And do I have to master the present?

Answer: Yes.

Question: If these two, husband and wife, are like a group, how do they work with each other? I really want to help them.

Answer: They must mutually support each other in the fact that they find themselves in a new environment, and this environment is their real one. Meaning, it is their today and tomorrow. And there is no other and there will not be, and there is no need for it to be. They have to convince themselves of this. It is all just psychology.

Question: Tell me please, if we take the upper governance, the Creator, and look at the human world, look at these eight billion people as the Creator does, is there any place in which a person should be and in general is his place? Or does nothing particularly belong to him? He thinks he has a homeland.

Answer: It is all psychology. A person can be thrown anywhere and he will get used to it there and will consider it his home.

Question: So a person can take this step and say, “This land is my home”? And move from place to place, and live like that?

Answer: Yes. As soon as I realized that I had to leave for Israel, I immediately moved from Belarus to Lithuania. And I got into a different condition.

Question: In order to make it easier to leave?

Answer: Yes. There the first question was: “When are you leaving?” And in Belarus they were afraid to say this. And it was all very simple.

Question: So a person should accept what already exists now and enter into it?

Answer: Yes. Cut off the past.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/8/22

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