Answer: It is predetermined. It was no accident that I met this person.
Question: Why is this done? Why do couples connect in this way?
Answer: There are no coincidences in the world. No coincidences at all! As it is said in The Master and Margarita: “The brick is neither here nor there… it never merely falls on someone’s head from out of nowhere.”
Question: If so, is the birth of a particular child who will be born predetermined?
Answer: Everything is absolutely predetermined until the end of all time. There is nothing new.
Question: Can we say that there is a good time for conceiving a child?
Answer: That doesn’t matter either, and it also does not depend on people. It is all arranged from above, and so it happens. In fact, a person does not choose anything.
Question: But when parents decide they want to have a child, what should they think about?
Answer: That they want to make a good person who would be useful to the world and would enjoy the fact that he is beneficial to the world.
Question: What is “to benefit the world”?
Answer: To bring people together.
Comment: Imagine giving this task to parents!
My Response: They think about it in the act of conception. As it is written in Ketuvim, Job 3:2: “Would the day in which I was to be born be lost, and the night when one said, ‘A man has impregnated.'”
Comment: Usually a person thinks more about himself, so that there is a good, kind, warm, beloved, healthy child. Think about him more.
My Response: No. By this you do not make a child but an animal. And if you think about how he will be in the world as a person, for the world, then you make a person.
Question: What if a couple cannot conceive a child, but they really want to?
Answer: Try as much as you can. You cannot do anything. Even today it still depends on higher providence.
Question: And what will help more here: going to healers or doctors?
Answer: We must visit doctors, we must do everything possible.
Question: And at the same time ask the upper one to help?
Answer: Of course, all together.
Question: When will He hear this request?
Answer: This is unknown to us. As much as people strive to do good to each other and with the Creator, the closer they will be to the fulfillment of this desire, although this does not guarantee it.
Comment: It is not very clear: “good to each other and with the Creator.” Explain this point, please.
My Response: To act between each other as it was originally established by the Creator.
Question: How is this established?
Answer: Everything is built on goodness.
Question: How should expectant parents behave during pregnancy?
Answer: We must be considerate with each other, especially with a woman. And try so that a woman during pregnancy has good thoughts, music, readings. In general, to influence her with positive and more elevated emotions and knowledge. All this influences the child very much.
Question: What kind of music would you choose?
Answer: I personally support classical music because it is the most proper, the most complete. Of course, not heavy but soft classics.
Question: What should a woman during pregnancy think about?
Answer: It is written about this in the Torah that a woman only thinks about the one who is in her, who was conceived and grows in her. Only about him. Nature has already foreseen this, so there is no need to interfere with it.
Question: What is the most critical time of pregnancy?
Answer: As a rule, the first few months. Then the foundation of the child is laid.
Question: When should the child be handed over to the mother?
Answer: You must immediately place the child on her so that he feels that he is still connected with the mother.
Question: Does this give him more security?
Answer: Both to her and to him. There must be a connection. It is very important.
Question: What does mother’s milk mean for baby’s growth?
Answer: Mother’s milk is not necessarily from his mother, it can be from another woman. Although, it is preferable for the child to receive milk from his mother. And this milk is the closest substance to the child, carrying so many elements we do not even suspect.
Question: What does the baby get with mother’s milk?
Answer: It is impossible to express. The upper light, called Ohr Hassadim, light of mercy, he receives from above through his mother’s milk.
Question: How does a mother communicate with a breastfeeding baby?
Answer: She talks to him through it. He feels her through her chest and she feels him through her chest. This is an amazing mechanism in both animals and humans.
Question: How long should a mother breastfeed her baby?
Answer: It is generally recommended up to two years.
Comment: Nobody follows this.
My Response: I know that no one follows it. But, according to the spiritual law, breastfeeding should be up to two years.
Question: And if you must go to work as it is today?
Answer: Well, everyone does, that is true. Who cares about some spiritual or natural laws?
Comment: You are saying that everything is predetermined and all actions are predetermined.
My Response: If you ruin your life, do not blame nature.
Question: So, we ruined life so much? We send mothers to work in six months, a year, and so on.
Answer: Of course.
Question: What needs to be done to make things right?
Answer: To make it right—the woman should not work at all.
Comment: This, of course, is impossible in our times.
My Response: Why? Why is it bad if only the man works and earns enough for his family, and this would be enough for the family to live normally, calmly, quietly?
Question: Tell me, if the mother is annoyed or after a quarrel with the father, should she feed or not feed the child at that moment?
Answer: This is not good. The child will feel this very much on himself, and therefore, such states are absolutely undesirable! A woman must be protected, isolated from any negative, unwanted influences.
Question: That is, all this enters the child, both irritation and hatred?
Answer: Of course. All this will creep into the child and manifest in negative consequences.
Question: Does the infant generally feel what is happening at home in parental relationships?
Answer: Of course. He feels everything. Everything is felt by him “through the air” even if it is in the next house, in another city. All of this is transmitted. He is very sensitive. The mother for him is like a receiver that he listens to and perceives even if she does not say anything to him. But everything that affects the mother, he feels it all.
Question: It turns out that the mother is like a sixth sense for him?
Answer: Of course. It seems to us that he came out of the mother and the umbilical cord was cut off. Nothing is cut.
From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 10/5/20